Just bought a ticket on the quit train!!!!

[Cecilia]

Hi  :bye:

 

I am new to the Quit Train. Right now I am not sure I can address emotional the reasons why I smoke, or the fear that I have about quitting. I am emotional wreck right now for others reason that I just can not even deal with right now. 

 

My quit date is March 14, 2017. I am still smoking at this point. I do want to quit, yet I fear the quit. 

 

I have cut down not intentionally but the last 5 pack I bought were 100's (the store did not have shorts) and I found that I cut my smoking in half this past week. 

 

I just really really need a place to feel safe, and supported, and I hope that this will be the place.

 

I will apologize in advance because I am sure that I will whine and be poor pitiful me in the beginning, but will come around because I am a fighter. 

 

I am doing this alone, because very few people know for sure that I smoke. My husband is very very unsupportive. He thinks that I should just stop and that is it. He can not understand that it is an addition and that my body is addicted to the nicotine. So as I am going through the withdrawals I will not have any support except what I get here.

 

Right now I am very sad and overwhelmed.  I have been dealing with depression and anxiety for the past year or so. Life is changing so much and it is very stressful for me. Kids are getting older (in their teens), my age 48 and I teach in public education. My DS and his teenage antics are really impacting me emotionally, and of course my husband is unsupportive in all aspects of my life. He is very selfish and uncompromising.

 

I am ready to take personal control of my life, emotions, health. I fear what the outcome might be, but it has to be better then what it is now. 

 

My health has to be my first step. I am overweight. I started working out at the gym in January, but after just a week I got sick. Bronchitis. Then I got Bronchitis again (after getting the flu) about two weeks ago. I am physically not able to work out yet, but I can quit smoking. So that would be my first step. I would like to participate in a 5K this summer. Not necessarily  run one, but at I could at least walk.  

 

Sorry to lay all this out here, but I am alone and I really need some support. I apologize in advance for all the whining that I will do. But I need a place that is safe to release my emotions. 

 

Thank you all for your support. 

 

 

[Reciprocity]

Hello Stwine and welcome to a very safe and supportive place :D

 

There are not a lot of active members here but that can be a good thing as you will get ALL the attention you need. I'm sorry you are feeling overwhelmed at the moment. You sound like you have a good attitude about quitting smoking and that is a good thing. Please read as much as you can about this addiction as you come to your quit date. There's a lot of resources here and you may want to get Allan Carr's book on quitting smoking. Many people have found his book very helpful. As long as you are committed to quitting and a strong person, you will make it. Look at it this way; quitting won't kill you but not quitting might. The only thing you have to do is Never that another puff, As you educate yourself about this addiction you'll understand why this is very important. I urge you to go to the daily NOPE pledge thread here and participate there. It will keep you focused for the day. Don't be concerned about the quit. Embrace it because you are doing something great for yourself and the only rough part is the first bit. It gets better pretty soon and, you get to enjoy better health as a reward along with so many other things as well.

 

Don't be afraid of this, look forward to it. You deserve to be the best person you can be. I quit not that long ago under similar circumstances to you - very bad lung infection. I can't tell you how much better I feel now after only 5 weeks of not smoking. I still get the urge once in a while but it's getting a lot easier to just push those aside now because I know how much better life without smoking is now. I also know that if I think I can smoke just 1, I will be back to a pack a day in no time. That's why NOPE (Not One Puff Ever) is critical to your long term success.

 

Sorry for the long reply -Lol but, just wanted to try and relax some of your concerns. Welcome again and come see us often :D

[BAT]

Welcome to the QT. Enjoy the ride :)

[Petra]

Welcome!  Sounds like you are going through a lot. I am also 48 and a Mom of teens.  Wow!  I have to say I was not ready for the teenage years.  My kids are awesome, but I sure got thrown for a loop when those hormones kicked in.

 

Quitting smoking one of the absolute best things I have done for myself, so I encourage you to look forward to your quit with enthusiasm to rid of your body of the nasty addiction.  There will be tough moments, but you can get through them, as we all did.

 

We are a very supportive group for sure!  Some are no-nonsense and straight-forward, others are soft and understanding, so you get variety in that respect.

 

Let us know how you are doing.  Post often, and I agree that Alan Carr's Book - the Easy Way to Stop Smoking is super helpful.   

[Doreensfree]

Hi and welcome ...

We are a very small family here..as it's been said..but it's full of success quitters..we care about our members,and want them to reach their goal ,to free it's members from a deadly addiction that will kill you if you continue to smoke..

I smoke 52 years..so quitting for me was never going to be ..a walk in the park..

It was far easier than the fear I had of coping with life without my crutch..

Make the most of those few days before you quit..although why clog your lungs up further ?????

To read and learn..there is tons of information here..video,s to watch..

Don't look for a pat on the back from people who don't understand how flippin amazing quitting is..that's where we come in.its so important to be with a group who totally ..get it....

If you feel your ready before the 14 th...juhst on...

One last thing...ask people here .and they will say..quitting can be fun..you just have to believe it.and believe in yourself..

Looking forward to getting the job done ...x

[Still winning]

Hi and welcome.

 

I understand that things in life can be very stressful. It might make it easier for you to separate the quit from your life mentally. Almost nurture and protect it as you would a newborn as I really genuinely believe it is an amazng gift we give ourselves when we quit, more so in the face of a lack of support. In honesty, you don't need anyone to support you and you absolutely can do it alone. It's all about you and what you choose to do now, how best for you to look after you (no one else is doing that or you) and how you choose to move forward in your life. 

 

I want to add that I and so many of us were almost "scared" to quit. The reality is with every hour, morning, day etc that I passed I felt a growing sense of self belief. It was actually pretty powerful and built some genuine self respect alongside a healthier me and bank balance, a wonderful "side effect" of the quit :)  We feel like it will be a battle, but in truth it's a series of thoughts to quit and about sticking to the choice that makes you healthier, wealthier and more balanced as a person. It's about learning new habits, to replace those that aren't serving you anymore. There is nothing in the physical as you half expect. So focus your thoughts and get a list to carry around with you maybe about why you want to be free of nicotine addiction and look at that when you're tempted. 

 

Speak soon. x

[Cecilia]

Thank you all for the words of encouragement and support. I can not tell you how much it means to me. I really do need a supportive and welcoming place to help me through this. Smoking is my best friend. I do no that it really is not but at this point in my life I am surround by people all day, yet I feel so alone. It is what I turn to when I am lonely, afraid, nervous, happy and want to celebrate. So I will be here blogging a lot to vent, celebrate and calm my fears. 

 

Again thank you all for you warm welcomes. I look forward to NOPE and building a foundations and friendships here as I embark on the most important decision of my life, at this point and time. 

 

Edit after reading Marti post. I am so looking forward to being nicotine free so that I can start enjoying other things in life. Thanks for brining my mind back around to the new life that I will have. 

[MarylandQuitter]

Welcome Stwine!  Thank you for sharing a bit about what you're going through.  You're going to be pleasantly surprised how much easier it is to quit than what you're thinking.  Sure, you may have your moments but that's where we come in.  We'll get you through it so this quit will be permanent and without relapse.

 

If you haven't already done so, please start watching the video series by Joel Spitzer as the videos start addressing various topics day 1 of your quit.  Here are a couple of videos later on in the series which you might find interesting.  :)

 

Dealing With People Who Try To Undercut Your Quit

Video discusses how there may be times when you encounter family members or friends who actually try to undercut your quit. Often they are smokers who feel threatened by your quit, but there are times where non-smokers may encourage you to relapse too.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_S46gMeHbws

 

Weight Control Concerns After Quitting Smoking

Video discusses why many people gain weight after quitting and what steps can be taken to avoid this from happening.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PgIWjMkoco4

 

The Importance Of Quitting For Yourself

Video discussing the importance of quitting for yourself as opposed to quitting to make other people happy.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CwYQ6fq9ZCI

 

Why I Recommend Cranberry Juice When First Quitting Smoking

Video discusses how cranberry juice can help people when first quitting smoking, but that it use is only helpful during the initial withdrawal period that lasts only 72 hours or less.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVkuOU7MBjQ

[Boo]

Welcome aboard stwine.

 

So, you want to quit but have some doubts, fears, and anxieties?  That sounds about right.  It's where most quits start.  Our heart is in the right place, but our head is not doing us any favors.  When you start down the path, the way will show itself to you.  Maintain relentless forward progress and eventually it all just makes sense.

 

Education about addiction will allow you to see through the myths and lies of nicotine that we accepted as gospel truth and kept us in chains.  Unwavering commitment will get you through any tough spots.  As for support...you're on the Train now, this entire group is in your corner.

 

The moment you ash out that last one, a new life of freedom begins and you will reap rewards unforeseen.  Congratulations.

[beacon]

Hello!  Welcome aboard!

[Nancy]

Welcome, Cecilia.  You will find lots of support and understanding, here.  Many of us were scared to death to quit...and then found out it was not as bad as we had anticipated.  It can be uncomfortable, sometimes even miserable, but you will not explode into thousands of teeny pieces, I promise.    Quitting and healing is a process.  You just have to make up your mind that there is absolutely no circumstance in which it is okay to smoke.  You can do this!!

[joe]

Welcome Cecilia...

You have a lot of support here to help you through any rough spots.

sticking close to this board for the first few months is key to being successful. We have all been in your shoes and can help with advise and support whenever you need/want it.

We are willing to help...some of us has been around a good many years, for the sole purpose of paying it forward. We got help when we needed it most, and are now sticking around to help others...use EVERYTHING available to you to understand this addiction in order to beat it. Knowledge will get you a long way in your battle.

 

Welcome aboard and looking forward to "seeing" you around!

[Stewie]

Hi Cecilia. I hope you succeed, we´re here for you. Stay strong.

[Dee]

Welcome aboard first thing first Hello and hope you feel better. This is a great place to come. There is so much to read and watch the videos are a big help.

So stay focused on finding out all you can. Knowing that this is an addiction can be a huge help most of us (well I can only speak for myself ) know that in order to conquer an addition you need tools and a true desire to want to quit. So good luck glad you found this site.

[Jackie]

Its not near as scary once you actually do it!!!  You got this Cecilia!!!!!   :D