I relapsed

[Runfree]

The monster will die if you don't feed it.  it's the only way.

 

That's right!  I get the feeling it's your stickie quit Indie.  Now you know, and when you do, there's no going back.  No reason.

[beacon]

 

I just read all this and I am so happy you stayed on the train!   :)

[Devil Doll]

I'm so glad that you jumped right back into quitting. Great job Indy!

[IndigoChilde]

Thanks everyone! I'm working on making this my sticky quit. It's my first time quitting aside from being pregnant. I quit for my pregnancy and breastfeeding but started back up again. Romancing the cigarette and all that. And I think that's part of my problem this time around. I'm having trouble not romancing the cig.

[beacon]

Here is a good article on the subject

 

http://whyquit.com/whyquit/joelcigfriend.html

 

Also good:  

 

https://www.verywell.com/the-psychology-of-a-smoking-relapse-2825223

 

 

 

[Petra]

Like the others, I'm super happy for you that you jumped back on.  It might be a little tough, but don't let it be an option in your head.  Stop that internal struggle.  Take it off the table.  when you start to think just one, say no.  It is not an option.  Not One Puff Ever.

[IndigoChilde]

Here is a good article on the subject

 

http://whyquit.com/whyquit/joelcigfriend.html

 

Also good:  

 

https://www.verywell.com/the-psychology-of-a-smoking-relapse-2825223

Thanks! They really helped!

[MarylandQuitter]

Glad you're back on the train!  I relapsed after a 9 month quit.  I smoked 1 pack in 1 week.  Take one puff and it's a relapse.  It starts over, right now.  I looked through your recent posts and didn't see the update you mentioned about in another thread, but I'll take another look.  In the meanwhile, here are a couple of videos.  :)

 

I Will Not Smoke Today

Video discusses the advantages of waking up each day and committing to yourself that you will not smoke that day.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n8p2rJ5tlaU&feature=youtu.be

Related videos:
-One day at a time
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VD4dz...
-Make a list of why you quit smoking
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZgZ-P...
-Complacency
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MZSkt...
Related article:
-"I will not smoke today"
http://ffn.yuku.com/topic/23271

 

Never Take Another Puff

Video talks about my original use of the phrase "Never take another puff".

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYNWI8C1vOE&index=36&list=PL4F05C03D0F9B86DB

Related article:
Never take another puff
http://whyquit.com/joel/Joel_04_03_ne...

Free downloadable book of "Never take another puff"
http://whyquit.com/joel/#book

Video on mantra's referred to in this video:
What is your quit smoking mantra?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S-q-5k...

 

There Is No Legitimate Reason To Relapse

Video explains how that under any conditions, even those of catastrophic stress or loss, there is no real legitimate reason to take a cigarette.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tCm_5b144XE&index=37&list=PL4F05C03D0F9B86DB

Following are links to several articles and videos that extensively explores this principle.

Related articles:
There is no legitimate reason to relapse
http://ffn.yuku.com/topic/24
We understand why you relapsed
http://ffn.yuku.com/topic/23027
I have to smoke because of all my stress
http://www.ffn.yuku.com/topic/15534
How would you deal with the following situation
http://www.ffn.yuku.com/topic/12463

Related videos:
Resources explaining interaction between nicotine and stress
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHbpX...
Smoking does not help solve stress
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6C5eTa...
I am climbing the walls because I quit smoking
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LUUsA1...
I'll be a nervous wreck forever if I quit smoking
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJBu7B...
Why do smokers smoke
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9AmZi...

Video referred to in this video:
Carrying nicotine replacement products in case of emergency
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GMRj1B...

Nicotine is nicotine is nicotine
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KViTfI...

[bakon]

A couple or every one on utube? Baltimore beanhead

[cigarettekills]

As a saying goes: if you fail - try, try, try again. :)

If you smoke, that means that you think that smoking has some positive function to you. Think about what you believe you are getting from smoking. Once you have your reasons why you smoke write down why you it is not true.

In order for your quit to be successful you need to truly understand that smoking has no positive effect for you. That's like in order to be able to drive you need to finish driving school so you can understand the logic behind your actions.

I would say preparation is even more important than putting down cigarette. Your mind is a powerful tool and addiction is all in your head. That's my take on this.

[PorkandPancakes]

Indigo? Where you at?

[IndigoChilde]

Sorry guys, I managed a few days then relapsed back into smoking last week. I keep waking up every morning telling myself I will not smoke, go about what I was doing before when I was not smoking, then after some time I get that urge and wind up outside smoking if there's a half left there, and there always is. I know I need to not go outside and check, but I keep getting pulled there. I swear every night I go to bed I'm jazzed and telling myself I will not smoke tomorrow, and wake up telling myself I will not smoke today, then it happens and I don't know why I can't seem to stop! I'm going crazy. I quit before, why is it so hard now? I feel like utter crap but I pick up that cig anyway. I keep watching Joel's videos, reading Allen Carr, and I don't smoke when I'm out of the house! My dad and I will go out for hours on the weekends and I don't bring any cigs with me and don't get a single craving, but being alone in the morning with my thoughts I keep going out and taking that first puff. I've gotten longer and longer times before I smoke, and I've found that telling myself I don't want to smoke during the day prolongs the time between smokes (I even made it two hours). I'm thinking of waking up tomorrow and telling myself I don't want to smoke and see if that helps. But something's gotta give here, and I don't want it to always be me giving in. I'm trying everything in my toolbox and nothing's working. Not my candy, not sipping water, not coffee (I drank a lot more coffee in place of smoking), not going for walks. I even still go for a run every other morning with my dad. And when my dad's home I smoke less. I don't know why. I can't take smoking anymore, it makes me feel miserable, so why can't I stop?

[joe]

Well....since you asked....you can't stop smoking, because you haven't made up your mind to quit yet...I mean, if you continue to buy cigarettes and have some around, you are setting yourself up for failure... You have to get rid or ALL temptations...don't have any lying around...the harder you make it to have access to a cigarette, the harder it will be to smoke it. If you have to go to the store to buy a pack, that's time you have to talk yourself OUT of buying them. You need to do anything you can that will set you up to succeed. a large part of quitting is accepting t mentally.... You need to convince yourself you HAVE QUIT...your not quitting.....you have quit...period. Tough it out...yes you know the craves are coming....get through those bad moments...nay quit for the present..Don't look too far into the future...stay quit for the moment. Each time you get through a rough spot , you will be stronger...always keep your mind occupied and create new "habits" You have to remember that quitting isn't bad...it's a time to celebrate the fact that you ar now on your way to feeling better in every aspect of your life. You will smell better, look better, feel better...there is absolutely nothing negative about quitting...the craves are a temporary uncomfortable feeling...everything else about quitting is a permanatly good feeling...

 

We had gone back and forth with some pm's...if that helps, by all means keep pm'ing me...I don't always answer right away, but I am on here a few times each day and will get to you as soon as I see it... I am sure you can and will quit, you just need to wrap your mind around all themposatives and do hat ever it nessasary to succeed....(get rid of ALL cigarettes!)

[Nancy]

Well....since you asked....you can't stop smoking, because you haven't made up your mind to quit yet...I mean, if you continue to buy cigarettes and have some around, you are setting yourself up for failure... You have to get rid or ALL temptations...don't have any lying around...the harder you make it to have access to a cigarette, the harder it will be to smoke it. If you have to go to the store to buy a pack, that's time you have to talk yourself OUT of buying them. You need to do anything you can that will set you up to succeed. a large part of quitting is accepting t mentally.... You need to convince yourself you HAVE QUIT...your not quitting.....you have quit...period. Tough it out...yes you know the craves are coming....get through those bad moments...nay quit for the present..Don't look too far into the future...stay quit for the moment. Each time you get through a rough spot , you will be stronger...always keep your mind occupied and create new "habits" You have to remember that quitting isn't bad...it's a time to celebrate the fact that you ar now on your way to feeling better in every aspect of your life. You will smell better, look better, feel better...there is absolutely nothing negative about quitting...the craves are a temporary uncomfortable feeling...everything else about quitting is a permanatly good feeling...

 

We had gone back and forth with some pm's...if that helps, by all means keep pm'ing me...I don't always answer right away, but I am on here a few times each day and will get to you as soon as I see it... I am sure you can and will quit, you just need to wrap your mind around all themposatives and do hat ever it nessasary to succeed....(get rid of ALL cigarettes!)

I agree 100%.  You can't stop smoking because you keep leaving it as an open option!  Just make up your mind and do it!

[IndigoChilde]

I can't get rid of them, they're my mom's cigarettes. I haven't bought a pack since I moved in with my parents. My mom hid them when I started my quit before, but then she started keeping them out in the open. I need to not go out in the backyard in the mornings, I know that much.

 

Oh, I also had trouble with depression after my doctor took me off the Wellbutrin (due to suicidal thoughts) so I was really depressed by the time I relapsed, and I'm going to talk to my psychiatrist and my therapist about my depression, because I know that affects impulse control, so hopefully taking care of the depression is going to help with quitting as well.

[Sazerac]

Hello IndigoChilde.

what a cool name !

 

so hopefully taking care of the depression is going to help with quitting as well.

 

I think it is the other way around.

 

Taking care of Quitting is going to help with Depression !

 

because Freedom is empowering.

Love,

s

[IndigoChilde]

Hello IndigoChilde.

what a cool name !

 

 

I think it is the other way around.

 

Taking care of Quitting is going to help with Depression !

 

because Freedom is empowering.

Love,

s

I wish that was true, but I'm bipolar and when I quit smoking, after I got off the Wellbutrin, I started getting more and more depressed.

[Sazerac]

maybe this post from Christobal will explain it better than I

 

Your Quit & Your Life, The Proper Sequence

[MarylandQuitter]

I wish that was true, but I'm bipolar and when I quit smoking, after I got off the Wellbutrin, I started getting more and more depressed.

Quitting smoking and mental health

Medication adjustments that may be necessary after smoking cessation

When you may really need to talk to your doctor about quitting smoking

[Evelyn]

I relapsed.

I quit.

I suffer from mental health sh%t

BUT I did visit my smoking neighbor for the last week. Sometimes she lights one. I don't care. My sugar in tea etc the first days helped me

There's no excuse EVER to light one.

Stop hyperfocussing on cigs you romantacise them

Girl

When I was depressed no screaming fag could interest me... It's an excuses hun.

PLEASE stop torturing yourself

[Evelyn]

Also after the kick under your button a hug. I know you think they save you... Fags only distract. Cancersticks they are.

Come get a hug and now get your big girl pants on... No more smoking ok!!!

[IndigoChilde]

 

Quitting smoking and mental health

Medication adjustments that may be necessary after smoking cessation

When you may really need to talk to your doctor about quitting smoking

 

 

Thanks! I'll talk to my psychiatrist and my therapist about my depression after quitting smoking. So far because of my depression they've raised my level of Geodon and taken me down on my Klonopin, hoping that part of the problem was feeling medicated. So far that's helping, but I'm still depressed, just not as much. I've heard of an antidepressant that's particularly for bipolar.

[Doreensfree]

Wishing you well Indy....xxxx

[Evelyn]

Sorry Indi your so depressed you know classic (older) meds often work better... They usually prescribe modern antidepressants etc. While old ones work better just CAN gave more side effects.

Keep you in my prayers hun

[Sunnyside]

Indigo, I hope you get it sorted. I suffer from PTSD buy had managed to stay medication feel for years. When I quit smoking everything seemed to hit me hard. I turned into a total mess.

 

I got help with meds but also I used a place like this, I found talking to people I didn't personally know easier to open up to.