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Morgan

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Hello All - 

 

My name is Morgan and I just found this message board. I have been smoking on an off for about 9 years. Since I was 20! I am going to turn 30 in about 6 months and I want this problem in the past before I get there. It is typically like a 1 year on, one year off, etc - I have quit many times for a long period of time... but then one day something will happen and I'll think - I NEED one right now! And I give in because what the hey! I'll never get hooked like the last 2,500 times i have smoked after quitting, said the same thing, and got hooked!  :blink:

 

Anyway - I had officially quit on November 9th but then did the scenario above about 2 week ago when I found out my husband (Who was supposed to quit at the same time) - had been cheating and hiding it. I then said I would rather him smoke out in the open then hiding his continuation of the habit and always feeling antsy to leave to do random things - just as an excuse to sneak away. Granted - it isn't really that easy to be a sneaky smoking.. because you SMELL like it.. kind of gives you away. I had just been ignoring it until his anxiety was front and center in all our interactions. 

 

BUT although our relationship is better (without the secret cigarette outings) the cigarettes were back in the house and after about a week I caved! I am pretty disappointed in myself - but ultimately i threw myself back into the cycle. It has only been a week or so and I've been having one every few days - but today I am smoking my last and washing my hands of this habit!

 

I am so happy to find this support form! I think the thing I really lack is some true support. For the most part I don't really have too many friends to help me work through this or understand what being a smoker and giving it up is like. I also now find any help from my husband to be a bit hypocritical. Like "you really need to stop smoking!" followed-up with "I'm going outside for a smoke" - it just doesn't really have the same effect! Lol  :D

 

So TODAY is my quit day!  Thank you all for reading my little blurb - I look forward to interacting with all of you. 

 

Thanks!

Morgan

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Karen Newbie

Karen

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Hi Morgan! So glad you found us! I joined less than two weeks ago and the folks here are a great, supportive welcoming bunch with all kinds of smober time under there belts! 

 

My husband also smokes so you aren't alone here. and when it comes right down to it , it's ALWAYS about choice. I choose not to smoke, but just for today. There is a daily NOPE pledge that helps me with  that here. NOPE means Not One Puff Ever....but ever can be scary so just stick with today, it's easier! You'll find all kinds of informative reading here also.

I wish you the very best and I'm sure others will be along shortly! :)

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Doreensfree Grand Master

Doreensfree

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Hi Morgan..

Congrats on your great decision to rid yourself of a killer addiction...

Take your seat...buckle up...this train will take you straight to freedom... My advice...

Read all you can about this addiction..there is plenty of great stuff here...

You will get all the support you need to succeed here...

Stay close to the board...take our daily pledge....

You can do this.I'm was a 52 year smoker..it's doable...

Your young...you can have a great smoke free life...

Devil Doll Newbie

Devil Doll

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Welcome to the Quittrain Morgan and congratulations on your decision to quit.

Please read as much as you can and post often! You can do this!!

IndigoChilde Newbie

IndigoChilde

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I've smoked since I was 18 and now I'm 33, but I didn't really start smoking everyday until about 9 years ago. So we're about on the same level. Except I'm getting divorced and living with my parents and my mom smokes. I actually occassionally go over to her cigarettes now and verbally say NOPE and walk away. But I'm also past my second week mark and pretty confident in my quit. And mom's cigs are the last trigger I have (that I can identify) so I'm trying to get rid of the trigger. It helps when I'm chewing on ginger candy as I do it. I'm sure gum would work too, but the ginger candy is coffee flavored, so I'll take any excuse to have one. ;)

 

Aside from avoiding cigarettes where you can (try asking hubby to hide them, that's what mom did for me) try gum and going for a walk. Water helps a lot too. And don't forget that we're all here for you too!

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Jenny Newbie

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Welcome to the QT Morgan!   Support is key to a successful quit and you will find plenty of that here :)  I didn't have to deal with a smoker in my house when I quit but there are folks here that did.  I can see you've already got tips on how they dealt with that.  

 

I'm so excited for you!  Let us know what you need.  

Nancy Mentor

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Welcome, Morgan!  So very glad you found us. As others have said, please take advantage of all the wonderful information posted on this forum.  Also, remember you have a whole team of supporters now, ready to encourage you every step of the way.

 

Here is a thread that might help the next time you think you need Just One.

 

And here is one that might get your husband thinking...A tale of two husbands.

 

Welcome again, and congratulations on your quit!

Still winning Newbie

Still winning

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Hi Morgan,

 

Good to see you've found some support.

 

Massive congrats on your decision to quit. I too went through the living with smokers for months on end and have a "sneaky smoker" partner, I reacted much worse then you but I can say I understand that frustration and how it can easily interlink itself to your own quit.

 

However it seems YOU want to quit and the trick now is going to be to mentally seperate it from everything else in your life. I promise you that can be done :)

 

Welcome. Looking forward to your posts.

 

x

El Bandito Apprentice

El Bandito

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Hey Morgan.

 

Welcome Aboard.

 

A cigarette was no good for anything, is no good for anything and never will be any good for anything.

 

Once you believe that - mission accomplished. It's completely doable. 

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action Newbie

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Nice to meet you Morgan :)

 

Glad you found us and decided to drop this 'problem' once and for all :good:

 

There are some good examples here of people here who are very happily quit, while their partners continue to puff away... So, it is entirely possible for you to stay quit regardless of your partner - his smoking should in now way be linked to your non-smoking (maybe easier said than done in the beginning, but it gets so easy in the end!)

 

Look forward to getting to know you better, and we can do this :d

joe Explorer

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Welcome Morgan

 

You have come to a great place for support. The people here are great!

 

A lot of good advice has already been posted....all I will add (again) is to read and educate yourself on all the aspects of nicotine addiction. Once I read and understood it, quitting become much easier. This site has a host of resources for you to access...

 

Good luck and welcome aboard!

Kendra Newbie

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Hello and Welcome Aboard Morgan,

 

I am excited you're here, too. 

An additional thought/idea/suggestion,

 

since you are very aware of the pattern for your smoking,   ....  PLAN and REHEARSE for the next time your brain indicates NEED one right now.  

One way to do that is to go to the S.O.S. forum and prepost a response to your own S.O.S.. There's a thread for it there.

 

I will be revisiting this option my self soon as I an only recently reseated on the QT.   I gave up a 6 month quit .... AND I am 5 days quit today.    NOPE, just for today.   and again tomorrow.

 

Looking forward to getting to know you, too.

 

o yeah, let me add to the voices saying

:read: :read:  the things on this site.   educate yourself and guard your quit ...we'll help.

PorkandPancakes Newbie

PorkandPancakes

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Hi Morgan. Congrats on your quit and welcome to the train.

 

I haven't read Allen Carr but I used an app that works in a similar way, breaking down the myths of smoking and making it easier to quit. Like the others have all said, read, read, read and educate yourself. I found a few things on here that really strengthened my quit.

 

One of them was HALT. Hungry, Angry, Lonely (bored), Tired. I read somewhere that they are the four main causes of a perceived 'crave'. So, feeling hungry? In the old days, I'd smoke instead. Now, I satisfy the hunger. Feeling angry? I used to smoke, now I do something else instead. I just found it really fascinating to realise I wasn't 'craving' nicotine, I was making associations I didn't need. Anyway, I didn't mean to waffle, I was only welcoming you to the train. Got carried away! <grin>

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Runfree Collaborator

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If you ever hit one of those moments where you "gotta have one"...ask yourself in what way will nicotine make a change in the situation in front of me.  Kind of like eating that hunk of chocolate because the boss handed you more deadlines.  Cratering to an addiction will not change any circumstance.  The only change is that it will make you feel horrible.  It helps nothing.  Nothing at all.  Non-smokers deal with stress all the time.  You are as capable as them.  :)

Morgan Newbie

Morgan

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Thanks all for checking in. :) I'm still doing just fine. My toddler has been a handful this weekend and I've had a few moments like "man I could use a cigarette" but I'm almost through getting the nicotine out of my body... and at some point I have to stop this smoking thing... If I give in, then I just have to start over again. To be honest I just need to power through, I'm tired of having this whole process on constant repeat.

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Devil Doll Newbie

Devil Doll

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I had this saying on post-its all over the place because it always rang true for me.

"IF YOU HAVE JUST ONE CIGARETTE, YOU'LL BE BACK WHERE YOU STARTED. WHERE YOU STARTED WAS DESPERATELY WISHING YOU WERE WHERE YOU ARE TODAY"

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Evelyn Newbie

Evelyn

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Yup, one puff away from squere one... don't do it, don't try it don't fool yourself... it's all one ig lie... no such thing as ONE

Now Morgan, on day 5 in your 6th day almost thru hellweek, you go fast  :yu: keep the good work up

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