How do you stop romancing?

[Evelyn]

After Karen's topic where she told she fell of the train I reliased I'm starting to romancing the cigarettes too... how do you stop that? Accept saying NOPE. I want to see the cigarettes as my enemy again.

[bakon]

great way is to stick them up your butt

 

then see if you still want them in your mouth....

 

come on...your way past this, quit playing with us

[Runfree]

Re-watch the videos on how the corrupt, dirty tobacco companies use your body as a meaningless stepping stone on their way to the bank.  Then ask yourself how good those cigs look....wanna get hooked again, pay with your lungs and peace of mind for others to enjoy their yachts and caviar?

[Evelyn]

Why should I post and be a member here, because I play with you, Bakon...? You're the village idiot so you never be right... you dunno me, you dunno me at all!

[Tink]

When someone relapses, the junkie mind can play tricks and you might think hey I will just do a do over, reset my ticker and start again

 

 

Erm hello dingbat (say to oneself) you want to start from day one again really? And who is to say you can stop again

 

Shout it down EVelyn, tell your brain no f ing way, you lying, stinking, bastards, you ain't catching me out or NOPE to be polite

 

Go read your early posts and then read some recent ones, see the difference to where you are today that should stop the romancing x

 

You got this quit EVelyn and you worked bloody hard to get it! Keep it, it's precious, not everybody will do it so be proud x

[Evelyn]

If it didn't put me down and created a problem extra I'd light one s damn pissed off at Bakon. But I do not want to give you a smile. So I say NOPE and Bakon go to ***

 

BUT MY NOPE counts!

[Tink]

Every single nope counts EVelyn don't worry about bakon, I will hold him down and you whack him, just no blood I hate the sight of blood :)

 

You have come so far EVelyn keep moving forward hun x

[beacon]

 

your knowledge and experience and inner strength can help you realize that the romancing is false and don't listen to that part of your mind. When I find myself romancing, i think about how these thoughts are tricks and i remind myself about articles ive read or joels videos on the topic

[Doreensfree]

Hi sweetheart...

Nancy put on a brilliant post yesterday...a video clip ....it's a really good reminder of now the tobacco ,don't care less how many good folks they kill ...as long as they get thier millions....

Hope it helps....it sue reminded me ...to keep my quit..

Hugs xxx

[beacon]

Ps you are a member here and we ned you here

[beacon]

Ppps

 

I noticed your posts over the last week or so are about why should you come here, do you still need to. Now romancing. Suggest could this be yourself getting ready to give yourself permission to smoke?

[Evelyn]

I know - there's so much stress going on. I feel like giving in. I need to stay here and get support. BECAUSE I romance and use the stress as an excuse...

[babs609]

Bakon cares evelyn, I promise.  We all do

 

Smoking sucks...you have come so far.  No turning back now...nope nope nope.   You are a non smoker...and non smokers don't smoke.

 

They just don't.

[Evelyn]

I do not give in. but I need to change my thinking to what it was.

[Evelyn]

Hi sweetheart...

Nancy put on a brilliant post yesterday...a video clip ....it's a really good reminder of now the tobacco ,don't care less how many good folks they kill ...as long as they get thier millions....

Hope it helps....it sue reminded me ...to keep my quit..

Hugs xxx

Do you have the link?

[Doreensfree]

You know if you smoked honey....you would be sooooo sorry.....and be angry with yourself......

Keep surging forward....it really does get easier....

We feel very fragile sometimes......and can take things to heart.....I'm referring to Bakon.....

He's spurring you on...in his own way.....if he didn't care he wouldn't post to you....

Look at it positive....

Keep looking at all the videos....refresh yourself....of why you are here....

You can do it.....I know you can.....xxxx

[Doreensfree]

http://www.quittrain.com/topic/4528-last-week-tonight-with-john-oliver-tobacco-hbo/

Here is is everlyn....

[Pippa]

Aww Evelyn - even the word romancing sounds like there is something positive about smoking - but you and I both know there is nothing !! Think back - what is there positive about smoking - ?? The choking, the stink, the expense .... .? And what are the positives ... Freedom, health ,,, ?? You know you are doing the right thing so stick with it sweetie ... And great job reaching out for support - so proud of you ! Xx

[Evelyn]

I'm fighting

[Tink]

Evelyn this is proof on how far you have come, you have recognised the junkie romancing in yourself and you have posted it, this is how to beat it, to know yourself, in the past you would have just disappeared and then come back to say you are restarting.

 

this phase will pass and you will be even stronger than before, read as much as you can to...

 

turn off that thought that is reaching out looking for an excuse, you have been quit for nearly 2 months now and no NRT which in the beginning you thought you could not do, now look at you go

 

[Mastergardener]

Oh Evelyn, PLEASE stay noped! Starting over sucks, I promise you!

I think part of the problem is the different way people quit. Some people just put their heads down and march forward and I think you find this more often in men. Others over think the whole thing, and I think this tends to be a female thing :rolleyes:

For me, I was starting to actually have times, hours really, of not thinking of smoking. So when the thoughts of smoking did come back, it came back, not as the enemy, but as the long-time friend :angry:   And so the romancing started. Of course, I am probably way over thinking this!

I am not sure what to do about the romancing, other than read, read, read about the reality of smoking.

Stay strong, dear Evelyn!

[Evelyn]

It's a combination of romancing and thinking I can't succeed: (just discovered) So I say I'm allowed to succeed and kick destruction in the balls! Cig won't do anything for me! NOPE

[Mastergardener]

Me, too. That nagging inside devil that says you can't do this. But we can, Evelyn!

[Evelyn]

Yes, I ckick that voice's ass!

[babs609]

that's it, Evelyn....stay close to the board.  That's the key now.  Stick with Karen...she's right where you are.  You both got this

 

That inner voice is a ******* liar........a no good...stinking, filthy, dirty, scumbag, piece of shit liar.  It's not even your own voice....you have nothing to do with it.  

 

You are a nosmo warrior Evelyn...nuttin's gonna stop you now!!