Need Ideas and Advice

[MarylandQuitter]

I think you learned much more than you think from your relapse.  You're much stronger in this quit than you think.  I can see it in your writing.  You're aware, you've arrived.  :)

[Jonny5]

It's very simple.

 

Don't

Put

Things

In

Your

Mouth

And

Set

Them

On

Fire.

 

Just DON'T smoke.

 

Do anything but not smoke

 

Tiffany pretty much sums it up right here.

 

If I may I would add that sometimes you have to really learn to be a stubborn, unmoveable and unforgiving SOB towards yourself, let me elaborate, imagine your inner junkie as a spoiled brat child screaming at their Mom in a supermarket, they want want want!!!  and Mom puts her foot down and says NO!!!  we respect that kind of Mom don't we. We know that she will make that spoiled little brat behave and hopefully grow up to be a nice kid.

 

Your inner junkie is that spoiled brat.

 

don't give an inch, put your foot down and take control.

[MarylandQuitter]

Tiffany pretty much sums it up right here.

 

If I may I would add that sometimes you have to really learn to be a stubborn, unmoveable and unforgiving SOB towards yourself, let me elaborate, imagine your inner junkie as a spoiled brat child screaming at their Mom in a supermarket, they want want want!!!  and Mom puts her foot down and says NO!!!  we respect that kind of Mom don't we. We know that she will make that spoiled little brat behave and hopefully grow up to be a nice kid.

 

Your inner junkie is that spoiled brat.

 

don't give an inch, put your foot down and take control.

 

Perfect way to sum it all up.:)

[Jonny5]

Oh and Trish.....

 

have a listen to this lady....

 

Trish,

 

I know that for whatever reason you are feeling very lost right now.  You have been through this before and you know that a cigarette WILL NOT MAKE ANYTHING BETTER.  IN FACT, IT WILL ONLY MAKE IT WORSE!

 

You will still be upset about your original problems, you will be more upset because you smoked, and you will stink.  YOU DO NOT WANT TO SMOKE!  You are doing such an amazing job!  Don't throw it away!  

 

PLEASE DON'T MAKE US START OVER!!!

[comrade simba]

There will be smoking going on in the backyard and inside the house a browser opened to this forum. SOS are answered in minutes.

 

It's on you, Trish. We'll be here.

[Trish]

Oh and Trish.....

 

have a listen to this lady....

 

Trish,

 

I know that for whatever reason you are feeling very lost right now.  You have been through this before and you know that a cigarette WILL NOT MAKE ANYTHING BETTER.  IN FACT, IT WILL ONLY MAKE IT WORSE!

 

You will still be upset about your original problems, you will be more upset because you smoked, and you will stink.  YOU DO NOT WANT TO SMOKE!  You are doing such an amazing job!  Don't throw it away!  

 

PLEASE DON'T MAKE US START OVER!!!

I know exactly where that post is, should I need it.  Let's hope it doesn't even come to that!

[Jonny5]

Trish, Print these words of yours and keep them in your pocket.

 

Trish,

 

I know that for whatever reason you are feeling very lost right now.  You have been through this before and you know that a cigarette WILL NOT MAKE ANYTHING BETTER.  IN FACT, IT WILL ONLY MAKE IT WORSE!

 

You will still be upset about your original problems, you will be more upset because you smoked, and you will stink.  YOU DO NOT WANT TO SMOKE!  You are doing such an amazing job!  Don't throw it away!  

 

PLEASE DON'T MAKE US START OVER!!!

 

IF YOU HAVE JUST ONE CIGARETTE, YOU'LL BE BACK WHERE YOU STARTED.

WHERE YOU STARTED WAS DESPERATELY WISHING YOU WERE WHERE YOU ARE TODAY.

 

JUNKIE THINKING: “I really need to smoke now, I’m so upset.”

RESPONSE: “Smoking is not going to fix anything. I’ll still be upset, I’ll just be an upset smoker. I never have to have a cigarette. Smoking is not a need; it’s a want. Once the crisis is over, I’ll be relieved and grateful I’m still not smoking.”

[Caroljo]

Explain to them that you love your "quit" and how much it changed you life...and let them know that you will walk away if it will be too tempting.

 

They will understand!

 

You don't smoke anymore..so don't worry too much! There will always be smokers around you and they will envy you, because you are not any longer one of them!

 

You're right!! They WILL envy her......I never thought about that very much.  But once you said that, it made me think of how I do envy others that have quit and do not let others that smoke around them bother them any longer.  :)