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Evelyn

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Evelyn Newbie

Evelyn

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I'd like a smoke. I'm scared for the flashbacks and old stuff that pops up. Sorry to post an SOS. But I am not very strong in my shoes right now. 

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Sazerac

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I am sorry you are scared and frightened, Evelyn.

Breathe through this, slow your heart rate down,

Smoking would be a ridiculous choice now.

 

You are not alone.  Take care of yourself.

Listen to some soothing music.

Read a nice poem.

Draw a doodle.

Play with The Pigs.

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Sonic Apprentice

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Oh no Evelyn, I'm sorry you are going through this right now. You are strong,you're stronger than you think, you can get through this.

 

Take a walk drink some water cuss like you've never cussed before.

 

Just don't smoke

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El Bandito Apprentice

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Hi Evelyn

 

Its okay to be scared sometimes.

 

We are all here for you - just take a deep breath, calm down and do something relaxing and distracting.

 

This crave will pass just like the other ones.

 

You are doing great - you are a non smoker now.

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action Newbie

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Flashbacks and memories cannot hurt you or make you smoke Evelyn - and it's OK to be scared sometimes; fear is what keeps us from doing something stupid... Fear can be a very important component to keeping you safe.  Be Safe Evelyn, even if you don't feel strong today, be safe, and do not smoke.  We are right here with you :)

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Doreensfree Grand Master

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Aww honey....I'm sorry you having a bad time.....but look how far you have come....

You have fought your way through bad times before ....and came out a winner...

You can get through this one sweetheart...I know you can.....

Use the tools you have learnt.....and donr forget the deep breaths...

Hugs xxx

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MarylandQuitter Grand Master

MarylandQuitter

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It's okay to be scared.  Courage is what keeps us driving ahead despite the fear.  That is the true meaning of bravery; it's not the absence of fear, it's not stopping even though you're scared.

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jess Rookie

jess

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It's okay to be scared.  Courage is what keeps us driving ahead despite the fear.  That is the true meaning of bravery; it's not the absence of fear, it's not stopping even though you're scared.

This is so true and meaning across many trials in life.

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Humbled Newbie

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You are a non-smoker plain and simple - your body isn't craving it anymore - you just haven't let go of it mentally - Repeat after me- 

I AM A NON-SMOKER - your mind and body will work together if you let it. You have to let go of the romance you once enjoyed - it 

is no longer part of your life -as soon as you want and believe that the rest will be easy I promise.

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Tink Newbie

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When people are scared they need reassurance please know Evelyn that smoking will not give you this

 

You are in withdraw you must try and keep your mind focused on something else until it passes

 

You can get through this Evelyn x

Evelyn Newbie

Evelyn

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It's nicotine and cutting down bit your playing with. Quit nicotine all together and get past this.

 

Maybe not every approach is for every person the same 

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joe Explorer

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It sounds like you are still doing OK Evelyn...I hope so..

 

When you started this LAST quit...I could tell  by the way you seem to be approaching this, that this IS your final quit...

 

Sometimes you can just tell  that someone "HAS" it...you seem to have it this time...i know there will be bumps in the road, but I believe you will get through them..

 

you are doing the right thing by posting here...any time things seem overwhelming...send out the SOS...thats what it is for..and as long as you realize that you are reaching out for help...you have to also realize its up to you to accept it...

 

just get through the hard moments, and you will have less and less of them...

 

i think you also know that on some level you know Bakon is right ...the whole "trick" to stop smoking, is to stop nicotine..THAT is what your body wants, and doesn't care how it gets it...that's why when you are not giving it the gum (thats loaded with nicotine), it is telling you to smoke then to get it.....I understand everyone's quit is different..at least HOW we quit is different...in the end..we are all the same...we have QUIT NICOTINE..in every form....so...with that said (and I hope it doesn't sound like a scolding..i tend to come off that way but dont mean to..)...you are just going to have to "bite the bullet" soon and come to the realization that you CAN QUIT NOW!...everything...

 

When-ever you are ready to take that step, dont be afraid...we have all done it...none of us have become sick or died because of it, but we have had help from others on here (and in "real" life)..and..i can assure you..you will get all the support from us that we can give..its up to you to take that step...it will be up to us to carry you when you feel like you are slipping..

 

Just remember...its your MIND telling you that quitting is hard ..your body will do whatever your mind tells it to do.....you have control over those thoughts..when you feel you are ready to completely quit ....push the negative thoughts aside, and think about the positive ones...I am sure you have already noticed some things that are great now that you dont smoke..one of the biggest things i noticed, is I no longer have to go outside around the corner and "hide" while I smoke..

 

You may look at a smoker and wish you could smoke too...but the reality of it is..that smoker is looking at YOU  and admiring the fact that you are strong enough NOT TO SMOKE!!   I have yet to  come across even one person who smokes that doesn't wish that they would quit...your just 1 step away from being a "fore-ever" quitter...you know you have gone through some of the hardest parts that are involved in quitting...and..you will still have a few hard things to overcome...but you are closer to quitting than you think...you just have to keep going forward..dont look back..behind you is NOT what you want...the prize is in front of you..

 

we have faith in you...YOU need to have faith in you...you got this!!

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Evelyn Newbie

Evelyn

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It sounds like you are still doing OK Evelyn...I hope so..

 

When you started this LAST quit...I could tell  by the way you seem to be approaching this, that this IS your final quit...

 

Sometimes you can just tell  that someone "HAS" it...you seem to have it this time...i know there will be bumps in the road, but I believe you will get through them..

 

you are doing the right thing by posting here...any time things seem overwhelming...send out the SOS...thats what it is for..and as long as you realize that you are reaching out for help...you have to also realize its up to you to accept it...

 

just get through the hard moments, and you will have less and less of them...

 

i think you also know that on some level you know Bakon is right ...the whole "trick" to stop smoking, is to stop nicotine..THAT is what your body wants, and doesn't care how it gets it...that's why when you are not giving it the gum (thats loaded with nicotine), it is telling you to smoke then to get it.....I understand everyone's quit is different..at least HOW we quit is different...in the end..we are all the same...we have QUIT NICOTINE..in every form....so...with that said (and I hope it doesn't sound like a scolding..i tend to come off that way but dont mean to..)...you are just going to have to "bite the bullet" soon and come to the realization that you CAN QUIT NOW!...everything...

 

When-ever you are ready to take that step, dont be afraid...we have all done it...none of us have become sick or died because of it, but we have had help from others on here (and in "real" life)..and..i can assure you..you will get all the support from us that we can give..its up to you to take that step...it will be up to us to carry you when you feel like you are slipping..

 

Just remember...its your MIND telling you that quitting is hard ..your body will do whatever your mind tells it to do.....you have control over those thoughts..when you feel you are ready to completely quit ....push the negative thoughts aside, and think about the positive ones...I am sure you have already noticed some things that are great now that you dont smoke..one of the biggest things i noticed, is I no longer have to go outside around the corner and "hide" while I smoke..

 

You may look at a smoker and wish you could smoke too...but the reality of it is..that smoker is looking at YOU  and admiring the fact that you are strong enough NOT TO SMOKE!!   I have yet to  come across even one person who smokes that doesn't wish that they would quit...your just 1 step away from being a "fore-ever" quitter...you know you have gone through some of the hardest parts that are involved in quitting...and..you will still have a few hard things to overcome...but you are closer to quitting than you think...you just have to keep going forward..dont look back..behind you is NOT what you want...the prize is in front of you..

 

we have faith in you...YOU need to have faith in you...you got this!!

 

 

True. I NEED to cut down nicotine gum. BUT if I go too fast I'll only bite myself in the ass. Yes I'm afraid to go without since everytime I quit nicotine I failed. NOT THIS TIME. But I'm cutting down, not quiting nicotine at once. It's complicated but there's too much mentally going on that risks I blow my quit if I just threw them outta window. I WILL cutt down. I WILL stay quit and continue my quit without nicotine. 

But when I'm closing in on that moment I might need to read some Joel's vids. 

 

As said earlier I ALWAYS failed whenever I quit nicotine replacement. So I need to plan this and be prepaired BEFORE I jump in deep waters. I will NOT ruin my quit by letting some rushing me into things I know that danger my quit FOR REAL.

 

I WILL QUIT that damn nicotine. But PREPAIRED. And this time I will SUCCEED

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