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8 months seems utterly amazing to me!! This last month has taught me quite a bit about my quit.

 

I went on the holiday of a lifetime. One of the main factors of me quitting was affording to go to Florida and Disneyworld with my two kids. I think with the holiday being paid for and actually being on holiday it set up some triggers. I was able to use all I had learnt with you guys here to nope through it, in honesty, once recognised it wasn't difficult.

 

Sadly my Mum didn't do the same. Having already smoked a couple of times prior to the holiday, she purchased cigs at the airport (unknown to me at the time) and smoked here and there through the holiday. Once busted the usual aggressive behavior, both of her and of all smokers commenced. She spent the whole holiday creating stressful scenarios so she had an excuse to smoke I believe (I'm sure she thinks differently). Be eternally vigilant, there is no need to go backwards!!!

 

Whilst that's sad, I said from the word go on this quit that my quit stood alone from everyone else around me. If anything it re-inforced my decision cause oh my goodness, the mood swings from the withdrawal were fairly epic to watch. I had forgotten what's it like when you get to that desperate to have a cig time but aren't able to. I also realized last month how many quit symptoms I had and had forgotten about. Isn't the human brain a wonderful tool! It almost feels like I never smoked at all to me. I was genuinely surprised to get triggers as most days, my only smoking thoughts are about celebrations here and the like.

 

Last month I needed talking down from a couple of days romancing. This month on holiday for fleeting seconds I got some smokers envy but I mean seconds before my rational brain took back over and it was easy to nope from.

 

And I met Bakons :) Was great to meet up and chat like we'd all been mates forever!

 

So despite concerns I had that once my main reason was over(the hols) that my quit might feel harder, it doesn't. I love that I had so much saved that I came home to a healthy bank account and additional savings ready for christmas purchases :) I also had the money to pay for all my healing courses and now the insurance so I can be fully registered and start offering reiki healing for a fee. Work commences on now getting my tarot reading registered and actually, I still have some work to do for that so maybe a few months. But all is looking on target for a spiritual business to look forward to. Something that may sound odd to some, but was always a part of me and part of me yearned to do it without ever believing I really could.

 

The quit and my self belief have spurred me on in many unforseen ways :) So today I am 8 months free of nicotine but feeling more positive and focused. More regulated and solid in my quit. Ready to go back to my new love of excersicing now I'm back home, maybe join a gym with my spare money? Gonna get christmas paid for and some new furniture first though. So lovely to breath nicely and not be permanantly poor and watching the pennies!! 

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Marti, well done for Mickey Town. I am so sorry that you had to bear Porky...although Mrs BAKON sounds nice.

 

There was once a girl I knew who got to a point in her quit that she felt safe. So safe that she she smoked one day short of a year quit...No, really! I'm not making this up.

 

The vigilant quit survives. ;-)

 

Spiritual business, new furniture, gym.....you are Rockin' lady.

 

As for old cranky, I feel for you and I know that you have the patience of Jobe...keep smiling!

 

Well done QB. You are doing brilliantly! So in awe of your strength and determination.

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Right..back again.

 

Marti, well done for Mickey Town. I am so sorry that you had to bear Porky...although Mrs BAKON sounds nice.

 

There was once a girl I knew who got to a point in her quit that she felt safe. So safe that she she smoked one day short of a year quit...No, really! I'm not making this up.

 

The vigilant quit survives. ;-)

 

Spiritual business, new furniture, gym.....you are Rockin' lady.

 

As for old cranky, I feel for you and I know that you have the patience of Jobe...keep smiling!

 

Well done QB. You are doing brilliantly! So in awe of your strength and determination.

That bird sounds headjob...I'd never do that...oh wait a minute... :)  I am good, the vigilant comment will always be with me now. I know there are more triggers to face and I'm actually ok with that. As long as I see facing them down as a positive thing, (as in once done, I never have to do that trigger again) then I feel good about it. That's how I think. This supported quit, is so different to that 14 year old disaster. Life continues to fling it's grief and I continue to not match that and smoking, it's a good feeling and one I never thought I'd see on weeks 1-6 ish!

 

 

Marti, Ive always looked up to you. And reading this makes me so happy! You are an inspiration! So happy that you had a great vacation! 

 

Blessed Be♥

Aww I love this, thank you, what a privilege to be able to help someone. Thank you and I know you will feel the same!!  

 

Thank you for all your thoughts. I normally just blog but this time I was in a sharing mood :)  I think that sometimes it all feels like a bit of a slog. For sure I have those moments, fleeting but there. I think aswell as saying some is hard we should be saying some is really great!! I am still not an advocate for the easy peasy quit, although I fully respect that and the Allen Carr crew :)  Just some quits are hard fought for and they still turn out fantastical. It matters sometimes I think that people know I and others, relapsed at an up and down rate that was epic, and still can stand and go, smoked for just short of 30 years and in 8 short months, feeling fine with an odd day where I think oh I would of smoked here, but I don't smoke, that's a weird thought, and move on!!

 

I am laughing at the Bakon comments, he's all hot air and a genuine lovely chap. Mrs Bakon and I for sure would be mates in another place and time.  I don't think I sound like Mary Poppins though, I don't think Mary uses "proper" or "init" as actual words...probably, neither should I haha. 

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Stop spreading rumors. I am aweful and my

Wife is even meaner.

 

After meeting I wished we could all have a big picnic somewhere.

 

As for the business it sounds like a lot o thinking that makes you crazy along with a mother who is more work than help (all older parents and in laws become this way I swear) you got a full plate.

More to come from you for sure and with that non-smoking body in the gym the black dress will only look better

 

Ps. To Julie. Hoping to see my brother and you someday too

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Marti thank you thank you for sharing your thoughts with us, your 8 month quit has been amazing from day one to be part of and to share with you, how fantastic to have been away on a trip of a lifetime, its amazing the connections that we make in our small corner of the internet, but friendships and connections are made and they grow in strength like our quits, I am surprised that Mr Bakon did not show up in disguise, or did he!!!!! To a wonderful loverly warm lady All together Now Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious xxxxx

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