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Sarah Newbie

Sarah

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Generally speaking, I like men!

 

But sometimes you meet an idiot of such proportions that they ruin it for all other men.

 

So I'm wearing leggings and a tunic (that's a long top), not a dress, if it was a dress my butt cheeks would be on display, its a top, clearly a top. And I'm wearing leggings so even if it was a dress you're not seeing anything anyway!

 

So to get a man repeatly referring to how short my dress is and 'I don't know where to look'

 

Grraaaahhhgghh

 

Seriously... If you ever get the urge to comment on something like this here are some pointers.

 

Don't.

 

Or if you really are bursting to say something try

 

Nice outfit or cute outfit... And only say it once. We'll get the idea.

 

Rant over... Sorry.

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Jenny Newbie

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This is so true.....Sometimes women do this as well.  I think in life people would benefit more from minding their own business.   

I'm sure your outfit is lovely!

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Chrysalis Newbie

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Well, I guess I'll play the Devil's Advocate here. If your outfit was so modest why did this horrible man not know where to look? Just the fact that he used that particular phrase means to me that he was trying not to appear to be leering at any part of your body. I mean, if he was truly lecherous he would say something like, "Nice boobs" or "Hubba hubba" or something, right? So I think that he was trying to gently let you know that your outfit made him uncomfortable. You may think that he should not have felt that way, but he did.

 

If your garment is way above your knees it's not modest. It doesn't matter whether you call it a dress or a tunic or a potato sack-- it's very short and not modest. If your legs are covered with a stretchy material that shows every luscious curve of your ankle, calf and thigh it's very tight-- doesn't matter if you call it tights or leggings or opaque pantyhose-- it's skin tight and not modest. 

 

Women wear skin tight leggings and a short, short top to show off their nice bodies and attract male attention. If you want to do that and your company allows it, go right ahead. But why do you get bent out of shape when  a man verbalizes the reaction you were trying to provoke?  That doesn't make sense to me. 

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Sarah Newbie

Sarah

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Are you seriously suggesting that to be treated with respect I should wear a burka?

 

I'm not dressed inappropriately, boots, black leggings, a long top, if the shape of my leg being on show means its open season to treat someone disrespectfully then the world is utterly wrong

 

His 'I don't know where to look' was not him being uncomfortable

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Jenny Newbie

Jenny

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I disagree there Chrys, leggings and tunic length tops are very popular right now, even in my conservative company.  Leggings are not tights or opaque.  I don't think there is anything not modest about it all.  imo

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Devil Doll Newbie

Devil Doll

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So to get a man repeatly referring to how short my dress is and 'I don't know where to look'

 

 

 

THIS! THIS! THIS! 

I don't care what a woman is wearing... No one has a right to continually comment when your shouldn't have opened your mouth to begin with. 

 

I'm sorry you encountered an ass today Sarah. :wub:

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Sarah Newbie

Sarah

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Exactly, I one off comment I'll contend with and not worry, but he just kept on about it. Was really frustrating.

Dentalfloss Newbie

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EYES! That is where he can look and IF you feel the need to stare at my ass or boobs then go ahead but keep the oogling to yourself and when speaking to me look at my EYES. Sorry you have to deal with morons.

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Humbled Newbie

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Since you are talking about a similar outfit - less the bangle - different boots, etc.. etc.just kidding (it just made me laugh) anyway- there is nothing inappropriate at all about that outfit. Modern corporate women dress like that everywhere-  I work in one of the most conservative industries there is (Financial markets/wall street)  and many women dress just like that without any comments etc.. Sarah, that dude is a creeper and needs a life - and I have no Idea what C was saying -this isn't the 50's

 

I tried to get my ex to dress up a little bit more like that because she forever and always wore jeans or sweatpants etc.

Some people have no style and some onlookers you come across just are plain stupid!

 

Not sure why I decided to take the time to write all that but the whole thing annoyed me  (ignorant people bother me to no end)  so I wanted to give you my 2 cents!

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Sarah Newbie

Sarah

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Since you are talking about a similar outfit - less the bangle - different boots, etc.. etc.just kidding (it just made me laugh) anyway- there is nothing inappropriate at all about that outfit. Modern corporate women dress like that everywhere- I work in one of the most conservative industries there is (Financial markets/wall street) and many women dress just like that without any comments etc.. Sarah, that dude is a creeper and needs a life - and I have no Idea what C was saying -this isn't the 50's

 

I tried to get my ex to dress up a little bit more like that because she forever and always wore jeans or sweatpants etc.

Some people have no style and some onlookers you come across just are plain stupid!

 

Not sure why I decided to take the time to write all that but the whole thing annoyed me (ignorant people bother me to no end) so I wanted to give you my 2 cents!

thanks :)
Devil Doll Newbie

Devil Doll

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And my first point is that I know most people aren't like that, he was an exceptional idiot!

Unfortunately there are tons of exceptional idiots out there.  :mellow:

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Sazerac Enthusiast

Sazerac

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The Trouble is,

Women are sexually harassed even wearing Burkas, 

and 

raped in saris.

 

I am so sorry for this mean old world

and I wish I could fix it for

our  Mothers,

our Daughters and Granddaughters... 

our Sisters Everywhere.

:( 

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ArmedNAruba Newbie

ArmedNAruba

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Wow, THAT outfit enticed that much "sexual" attention??? Here in the states that is typical church clothing.

 

 

You should see what the girls wear over here. You'd be mauled!

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