Little SOS

[Jenny]

So sorry you are going through this Evelyn.  We are here anytime you need us and willing to listen.  It's so hard to lose someone we care about and depend on.  It's ok to be angry about it.  It's not fair at all.  Remember though that smoking will not help.  It will make things worse.  Big hugs to you. 

[Evelyn]

Thanks Jenny  :D ow and Action still on Gum but lowering

[JackiMac]

Evelyn Im just home from work, so sorry to read that you were having a hard time, sending lots of hugs to you, so glad everyone here came and held you up when you needed it, you guys are all amazing, grief is a journey and each road leads you to a different path, you must travel each road and explore them to be able to reach the next stage of your grieving, please don't ever feel alone, always reach out if you need too, be strong Evelyn you can do this, you really can, we all believe in you 

[El Bandito]

Way to go Evelyn. Each battle won gets us closer to winning the War.

 

Fantastic stuff - I'm so proud of you and your strength today.

 

Just going to have a look at your other threads.

 

WELL DONE!

[Evelyn]

You're my man Mister Hampshire!

[REZ]

Evelyn,

 

The quit monster can make thing seem a lot worse than they actually are!

 

If you took stock of everything you got going for you , i am sure you will find that the pluses out weigh the minuses.

 

The best thing is look at all your friends here just itching to help you!

 

Now that's worth a smile!

[BonnieJ]

Each time you make it past an SOS you get stronger! Way to go Evelyn sorry I was no here but sure am happy you made it!

[babs609]

So proud of you all for your quick responses and support.

 

Proud of Evelyn for recognizing she needed help and spoke up

 

That's what the Quit Train is all about. Bravo!

[Melody]

So proud of you for working through the tough cravings and recognising when you needed help through them.  Being too strong and holding back can be dangerous.   Your almost done with day 3 which means your over the hump, the nicotine should be out of system and the week is more than half over!  You've got this!!  A reward sounds like a great idea, three days is a great milestone and probably one of the toughest.  YOU did it!!  Proud of you :)

[Donna10]

Evelyn, I am sorry I am late. Looks like you made it through!! I am so proud of you. One day, one hour, one minute at a time. We will get through this!

[Nicole Diver]

Oh girl, your post brought tears to my eyes.  I'm sorry I'm so late reading this.

 

I started smoking in earnest the night I found out my mom had been killed.

It took a good FIVE years after until I didn't feel completely alone in the world.  Nothing changed in my life at that 5 year mark, just time had passed.

 

You never get over it, you just get used to it.  I never wanted children...sometimes I wonder if my mom's death has more to do with it than I care to admit.

 

It sucks!  I am sorry, I can only say I empathize, and if it's any consolation, smoking doesn't help even though we used to think it did.  It Doesn't.  We are all here for you!

 

 

[babs609]

Oh girl, your post brought tears to my eyes.  I'm sorry I'm so late reading this.

 

I started smoking in earnest the night I found out my mom had been killed.

It took a good FIVE years after until I didn't feel completely alone in the world.  Nothing changed in my life at that 5 year mark, just time had passed.

 

You never get over it, you just get used to it.  I never wanted children...sometimes I wonder if my mom's death has more to do with it than I care to admit.

 

It sucks!  I am sorry, I can only say I empathize, and if it's any consolation, smoking doesn't help even though we used to think it did.  It Doesn't.  We are all here for you!

 

now i'm teary eyed too!  You are such a brave, loving soul and this post speaks volumes.  Thanks for sharing.

[Evelyn]

Oh girl, your post brought tears to my eyes.  I'm sorry I'm so late reading this.

 

I started smoking in earnest the night I found out my mom had been killed.

It took a good FIVE years after until I didn't feel completely alone in the world.  Nothing changed in my life at that 5 year mark, just time had passed.

 

You never get over it, you just get used to it.  I never wanted children...sometimes I wonder if my mom's death has more to do with it than I care to admit.

 

It sucks!  I am sorry, I can only say I empathize, and if it's any consolation, smoking doesn't help even though we used to think it did.  It Doesn't.  We are all here for you!

 

 

I'm so sorry - I too don't want children but for the simple reason I am not a stabile enough mom to be 

[Leanna]

Oh girl, your post brought tears to my eyes.  I'm sorry I'm so late reading this.

 

I started smoking in earnest the night I found out my mom had been killed.

It took a good FIVE years after until I didn't feel completely alone in the world.  Nothing changed in my life at that 5 year mark, just time had passed.

 

You never get over it, you just get used to it.  I never wanted children...sometimes I wonder if my mom's death has more to do with it than I care to admit.

 

It sucks!  I am sorry, I can only say I empathize, and if it's any consolation, smoking doesn't help even though we used to think it did.  It Doesn't.  We are all here for you!

I am so sorry about your mom. :(

 

It's really upsetting to me when people make a comment about how it's been 6 months and I should "move on." No, you have NO right to say that. I hate it when people try to play therapist.

[sherry]

Good morning Evelyn, I'm sorry I wasn't here for you yesterday, but I am over the top so incredibly PROUD OF YOU for not smoking!!!!!!!! I'm sending you a HUGE BIG {{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}  for being so strong,.. it's a new day hun, you're surrounded by your Quit Train family here,,... I've said it before and I'm saying it again, I believe in you,  you CAN do this!! {{HUGS}}

[Evelyn]

Thanks so much Iace

[sherry]

how ya do'n today hun?..

[Evelyn]

I'm managing

[Pippa]

((( Evelyn))) we are here if you need us

[sherry]

managing is good.. if we can get past one minute at a time, pretty soon the minutes add up to hours, then days, then weeks... you're strong hun, we're with you...

[soul]

Hi Evelyn,

Grieving is a process, a journey, just like quitting, just like growing up, just like school.................

 

Part of grieving is anger and it is healthy to experience it. Glad that you are in touch with it. It took me years to be able to feel anger after my father died (I was 11 y.o. when he died)..................

 

You are correct, allowing yourself to feel feeling is a step towards another type of freedom. A Freedom filled with strength and determination. ...............................

 

Same as remaining a non-smoker.............it is a Freedom filled with many rewards......so many that one cannot even imagine them..............

 

Keep on moving forward and always, always tell on your emotions.................

[Evelyn]

I know anger is part of it :)

[Nicole Diver]

Just remember we are here if you need to vent.