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On 1/17/2025 at 4:18 PM, DenaliBlues said:

Every tug of war requires two opposing forces to make it a battle. The thing with quitting is that you win when you drop your end of the rope

Love this! 

 

@Kdad, please make this your forever quit before your health starts suffering irreversible damage. You just don't know which cigarette is going to put you on oxygen for the rest of your life......

[Genecanuck]

Hey @Kdad....

 

You received a lot of good feedback from our amazing Quit-train family. There is another way to look at our what we have to move through to overcome this addiction we have: the underlying causes of nicotine withdrawl.

 

Here is a post from Dan1, someone I admired from Quitnet

 

Cravings do not exist.

Dan 1, March 18, 2007.

 

 

Cravings - that tightness in the gut, the lungs, the throat. The moodiness, anxiety, and irritability. Those things that seem to be your body and mind SCREAMING for a smoke - they don’t exist. Oh, the symptoms are real, but they are the symptoms of stress, not a `craving`. That stress might have been caused by withdrawal, maybe by fighting a desire or `craving`, or often enough by the puts and takes of everyday life. We’ve come to call it a craving only because we’ve been self-medicating our stress for so long with nicotine that we don’t properly recognize stress when it smacks us in the face. It’s time to learn more effective, much safer methods of stress management. Apply them here, and the `cravings` disappear in short order.
 

Edited 16 hours ago by Genecanuck

[Doreensfree]

Great post G ..

[Kdad]

I’m so sorry. I bought a pack, smoked one, and then threw it away. God damn it this is hard.

[Doreensfree]

I’m gutted …. 
Gutted because you never posted a SOS 

How can we help , if you don’t give us that chance to get you through the rough time . 
Was that one cancer stick worth it , to lose your fabulous Quit …

@Kdad we can give you all the tools we can , but the work has to come from you 

You have to ask yourself , do you want to remain a smoker or truly want to rid yourself of this killer addiction .

[Reciprocity]

[DenaliBlues]

Sorry you smoked, @Kdad. But thanks for telling us. Please stay around and try again! What can you learn from this experience to help you next time?

[Genecanuck]

16 hours ago, Kdad said:

I’m so sorry. I bought a pack, smoked one, and then threw it away. God damn it this is hard.

Hello @Kdad.... I hear you. I had many slips in my past.

 

You made the right decison to throw the pack away. 

 

Good for you for not giving up on your quit and coming right back here.

 

You've got this @Kdad. 

 

Here is what my friend Dan1 had to say about a slip....

 

RE: See you at a later date

From danl1 on 11/5/2004 9:02:23 AM

 

I did the exact same thing. Several times, in fact.

Then I tossed that pack, joined up here, and got on with things. 

That was 487 days ago.

It's not about strength, ultimately. It's certainly not about being worthy. It's about understanding that they really don't have anything to offer you. If you will listen to you heart, you will see that you've just learned a big hunk of that. You simply need to pay attention to your higher angels. 

Yes, there are the times when it seems that we 'just want to.' That is not about being weak, or stupid, or anything like that. It is simply about being confused - on a level and in a way that makes it seem that you don't have control, because it's a non-verbal part of you that feels that way. 

Maybe you are not in a place to be here for a while. But still, be quit. If things go the wrong way, don't be disappointed, be constructive. A diet group I sat in on once had a phrase: 

"There is no failure, only feedback."

It's a tough way to find things out, and I don't believe that it's necessary to smoke in order to learn how not to, but while you are in that place, you may as well look around and see what there is to see. 

-Didn’t do much for you, did it?
-Made you feel pretty crappy physically, didn't it?
-Didn’t make you feel all that great about yourself, either. 

And so on. Bottom line, smoking simply isn't worth it. There is not a single thing to be had from smoking that can't be had better, simpler, safer, faster, and cheaper in another way. There are just a few parts of our brains that take a little more convincing than others. All it takes is patience.

It doesn't take strength, willpower or perseverance. In fact, those are the exact qualities that find you back smoking after you have already decided to quit. The amount of energy we expend fighting with ourselves to smoke after we have quit is simply amazing. That's right - you haven't been fighting to quit these past weeks - that, you had already done. You've been fighting to smoke. Stop that. Be kind to yourself, and pay attention to what's really going on in and around you. There's no bit of life that smoking can improve. You know it, now you need to work on believing it.     
 

[QuittingGirl]

I'm sorry you smoked again @Kdad  Please stay close to this forum, as I believe if you come on here every day or at least every other day in the beginning of your quit, you will have more success. We can and will help you when you are in those situations.  So please don't smoke any more cigs!  They won't help you.  Stay close to us! We are the ones who will help. 

[Kdad]

Thanks! It happened so fast I didn’t have time to post. I’m back on the train. Hopefully this time sticks.

[Doreensfree]

Good to see you back @Kdad

Learn by what happened , so your more 

ready if it happens again 

Lets get this done

[DenaliBlues]

Glad you’re back! Be fierce in protecting your quit this time.