thanks kris this is my third xmas with out my wife xmas is not the same as it used to be .but lets make the most of it .still not smoking fingers crossed it wount be so hard in the next week.ok you lot whats ur fav thing to do over xmas

[TONY]

hi new to the site  stoped smoking two weeks ago  dont want to start again need some help from you lot  its very very hard i smoked  30 to 40 a day .likes a good site PAT

[Kris]

I hate to tell you but I really don't celebrate Christmas anymore. My husband passed in December and I lost his Mom 8 days later, so I get pretty sad this time of year.  I lost my Mom in 2019 and my best friend in 2020.  My son is married with a family of his own.  I usually see them at Christmas time but last year my DIL Dad got very ill right before christmas and passed on New Years Eve.  

 

My DIL tested positive for Covid a few days ago, they are all in quarantine.  My son is getting tested again today. 

 

The truth of it is we are all different and very much the same, some are outgoing and some like me are introverts.  Neither one is bad, I used to be outgoing, now I prefer to be at home.  

K

 

[jillar]

Hi @TONY, glad you're settling in. I'm going to move this thread to our Social forum. Sorry about the loss of your wife. I don't put any decorations out anymore but I do still buy gifts for a couple friends and family.

Edited December 21, 2021 by jillar

[Kris]

Tony, sorry about that.  I was not sure how to answer your question about Christmas.  I can tell you are still grieving the loss of your wife.  I wanted to be truthful in my answer but I did not want to say things that would cause you further pain. I feel bad that I don't know how to help you.  What I normally do is decorate the house, do lots of cooking and baking. Used to spend a lot of time shopping.trying to find the right thing for everyone.  We would go to a lot of parties, We would be at his folks every Sunday so my husband could watch football with hiis Dad. We got married when we were 20 years old, we were married for 31 years and 3 weeks at the time of his death.  

 

The only thing I can tell you is she would be proud that you made the decision to quit smoking.  Is it easy, no, but she would want you take care of yourself.  If we have survived losing them you would think this would be easy. I am six months in and it is still hard.  The people you talk to here understand how hard it is to quit. They give me strength and courage everyday to keep going, they will help you.  Just have faith, we have to get thru the holidays and I expect to be challenged.  I also expect to be in charge, I will not smoke and you won't either.

[TONY]

Thanks kris  have not put up the Xmas tree since my wife passed my daughters o I have 5 daughters 15 grand kids and 16 great grandchildren so have a big family they call me hum bug they are so good. Just back from shopping got my beers and a nice bottle of rum just going to relax. Sorry about ur loss like you i got married when i was 19 and was married for 56 years good times u have a good night thanks for listening don’t talk much about it feels good to talk speak again soon

[Doreensfree]

Glad you found us Tony ....there is always someone to help you through here ...

You are among folks who understand ....this will be the third Christmas on my own too...

Stay close ....sometimes it's easier to talk to strangers ...