does any body have a bucket list one of my bucket list is to jump out of a plane and fly like a bird how good would that be i lost my wife 2 years ago so not looking forward to xmas but life goes on hope you all have a great xmas and a better new year

[TONY]

hi new to the site  stoped smoking two weeks ago  dont want to start again need some help from you lot  its very very hard i smoked  30 to 40 a day .likes a good site PAT

[Linda]

@TONY No bucket list here, but I can relate to not looking forward

to the holidays. I lost my husband several years ago. Sorry for your loss!

I can't say it does get easier but for me it helps to focus on the good 

memories we shared. The not smoking is the best gift you can give yourself!

[Kris]

Tony, I feel your pain!  I am facing my 11th Christmas with out my husband.  I lost him after a five year fight with cancer.  The sad truth is that some people think we should be over it after a year.  That is not the case, you need to greive as long as you need.  There is nothing wrong in the fact you still miss her.  There is nothing wrong with the fact you struggle still.  Most of all your should all your fellow widowers and widows get it.  It is always harder at holiday time, she would not want you to be so unhappy but we know we can't change how we feel.  I wish I could say something that would make you feel better but I can't, we just have to take it a day at a time.  Talk to your  family and friends and let them know you need some extra support now.

[jillar]

Hi @TONY I'm going to move this thread to our Social forum.

I don't have a bucket list either. I did have a top ten hall pass list though lol

Edited December 22, 2021 by jillar

[Gus]

Hello @TONY! This Christmas will be my 13th without my husband. Does it get easier? Yes. But a bittersweet memory can take your breath away in a flash, but mercifully is only fleeting. I suggest you start a tradition by doing something meaningful to honor the way she loved you because the way she made you feel about her, yourself, and the way you saw yourselves as a couple will be one of the most  endearing and lasting memories you retain. I do hope that you can find some peace and comfort this holiday. 
 

[Gus]

@TONY Oh. And no bucket list as in places to go or things to do for me. However, I do have a massive list of what I call My Bucket Books! No matter how many of these books I read, the list just keeps growing and growing. HaHa It’s horrible. I’m currently suffering through The Iliad.