Ask Marti if you'd like too...

[Still winning]

Finally feeling well and have some time. Had quite a few different types of convo's with the folks on here and this feels ok for me to do. For this moment in time I will be an open book.  Normally I prefer mysterious :) So if there's anything I can answer for you...ask away...

 

[El Bandito]

Tats?

 

Piercing?

 

Perfect weekend?

 

Perfect holiday?

 

Favourite band?

[Trish]

Did you go to college?  If so what did you study?  

 

I know you have a website.  Is that how you make a living or do you have other work ?

[Still winning]

2 tattoos. One on my boob, of a pink rose which represents my heart being close to the earth. One on my back with the word Angel and a halo, to represent my two sisters who I always called my angels (one sister had to done too the other wimped out lol).

 

Piercings, no. Had a belly button one, left it too long whilst preggo and it's knackered. Had ears done as a kid but was a wimp and tried to run away, so they are wonky. Let them close up in my 20s.

 

Perfect weekend - The people make it for me and them in a good mood helps. My faves last year were legoland with my girls and moto gp with chris, so they're different but both groups were super excited and happy, that makes me happy.

 

Perfect holiday - Somewhere with ruins to explore or beautiful places to wander around. There must also be a boat trip, I love the water even though I'm scared of drowning (numpty lol).

 

Fave band ...tough one. Genesis or linkin park I think

[Still winning]

I dropped out of college. Even back then my family life was interesting. I had to get a part time job so I could look after younger siblings (big age gap), long and dramatic story. So school of life for me :)

 

Technically I am a full time carer for my disabled mum. However I started a page to work with my spiritual side and most of what I do is still free as I consider myself training. However I do charge for reiki or crystal healings and make things like bath oils/salts etc which I sell through the page and ebay. At some stage I will need to make a living from it, which is kind of a shame as I do it for the passion. Who else gets to say last year they worked on someones fertility, changing home life dynamics, working with illness etc etc. I love what I can do for others sometimes and although it probably doesn't sound like it, I'm very humble about it. I work with it because I feel I meant too. 

[Still winning]

PS on the job front, I have been normal too!! lol. I was a pub landlady for 6 years, changed career when I had my first child from a logistics manager of 11 years so I could be around her more :)  If I had more hours free, I would love to go and get a normal job, but I work around 2 kids and full time caring so need something I can do in fits and starts for this point. x

[El Bandito]

PS on the job front, I have been normal too!! lol. I was a pub landlady for 6 years, changed career when I had my first child from a logistics manager of 11 years so I could be around her more :)  If I had more hours free, I would love to go and get a normal job, but I work around 2 kids and full time caring so need something I can do in fits and starts for this point. x

Blimey luv. Full time carer, two kids AND the rest..probably enough for the minute?

[SueBeDoo]

Where would your dream honeymoon be ?

What is your favourite part of your body and your least favourite ?

What would be your ideal birthday present ?

Do you know the name of all the disney princesses;)?

[Trish]

If you could wish for one thing for yourself, what would it be?

 

If you could wish for one thing for one other person, what would it be?

 

If you could wish for one thing for the world, what would it be?

[Still winning]

Where would your dream honeymoon be ?  

Dream honeymoon was mexico, shame about the fella but the honeymoon was awesome! I'd always wanted to go there but more then that the ex is a really clever fella but no common sense. He thought adults only meant like a grown up resort...it didn't lmfao! I'm no prude but he is, I think naked pool volleyball will be burned in his memory, with his accidently pregnant wife laughing her head off!!

 

What is your favourite part of your body and your least favourite ?

I don't have one, altho tummy at the moment. If I don't like something I fix it. 4 capped teeth and 2 new boobs later, I'm pretty happy ;)

 

What would be your ideal birthday present ?

A voucher for a course that I was interested in. I miss my brain being a sahm and carer.

 

Do you know the name of all the disney princesses;)? 

Pretty much!! Disney worries me tbh. Some bird has to pretend to be a fella to get on?! Some dude starts trying to snog an apparently dead bird in a glass case?! Some chick shacks up with 7 guys and no one bats an eyelid?!  Is it just me who worries??

[Still winning]

If you could wish for one thing for yourself, what would it be?

To not always be looking for more. Contentment looks pretty nice but I constantly push myself.

 

If you could wish for one thing for one other person, what would it be?

My main wish for others is obviously my daughters. I wish them to be free spirits like their Mama and be self reliant (with the choice of more should they choose it but not need it)

 

If you could wish for one thing for the world, what would it be?

At the risk of going back to deep, it would be world peace. War and the hatrid scares me for our future and our childrens future. I can't understand it at all.

If it has to be smaller then that then a cure for cancer....how amazing will that day be when we hear that :)  

If it has to be smaller then that then the end of my 4 year olds anti-biotics cause she's driving me up the wall 4 times a day refusing to take the "rank medicine" lol.

PS I think I wish too much haha.

[Still winning]

Blimey luv. Full time carer, two kids AND the rest..probably enough for the minute? 

I think the moment you "settle" for what you have is the moment you should start digging a hole :)  Life is meant to be lived.

[Paul723]

Are you a good cook? What is your speciality? What do you make for everyone when you are in a hurry? Are you teaching your girls to cook?

[Nicole Diver]

What is your favorite fruit?

 

Do you ever drink decaf? If so, do you like it?

 

What is your fave color to wear?

 

What is something about yourself no one would guess?

[Leanna]

What are you most afraid of?

[Still winning]

Are you a good cook? What is your speciality? What do you make for everyone when you are in a hurry? Are you teaching your girls to cook? 

I'm just an ok cook I think, I couldn't cook at all 8 years ago and have been learning on the job so I can cook healthier for the girls.

My specialities are all simple, like satay chicken skewers and stuff. Altho I'm fab at making traditional vanilla fudge which is useful at christmas time :)

I don't have a quick meal. I tend to batch cook and freeze some so if it's a bad day I can just microwave. I cook different meals for kids and adults most days.

I don't involve the girls as much as I should. They'd like to join in more but slow speeds drive me crazy. We do cakes and stuff for fun though.

[Still winning]

What is your favorite fruit?

I'm not bog on fruit unless it's in a flapjack, oops. I ate a pear this week though, but that's rare and was more to encourage Bella to eat hers haha.

Do you ever drink decaf? If so, do you like it?

I drink tea in the morning. Then switch between 1 normal and 1 decaf coffee in the afternoon. The decaf is new since my quit, I don't sleep well anymore. I have some decaf teabags to try but I'm fighting it.  I have also found berry tea which is caffeine free, I drink that from time to time too.

What is your fave color to wear?

I am confused about this myself. I've been bleached blond for a long time, so wore a lot of black and red. I'm going darker at the moment towards red so I'm adding more blues in. All darker colours, I don't do pastels really and I don't suit white.

What is something about yourself no one would guess? 

Probably how much I worry, people always think I look calm and in control when inside I never am. I am thinking and double thinking things all the time, I can literally exhaust myself without moving a muscle lol. It's not healthy so I hide it but despite trying to work on it for years it seems to be part of me.

[Still winning]

What are you most afraid of?

Failure!  I hate to fail at anything and it's not in an ambition type way.  It always seems people are relying on me so I can't fail at anything or I will let everyone down. My pub went bust and I went bankrupt. I'd seen it coming but it took a medical thing to make me re-evaluate and call it a day, I found it hard to accept. I thought if I just worked harder it would work, I was looking ill (people thought I was bulimic or something) but really it was stress and overwork.  Even now I know it was economy and ridiculous price rises designed to get pubs back by the big companies who own the freeholds but I still hold it and it grates my nerves. I had to go bankrupt. I came out of that court and sobbed like a child. The whole failure thing does not work for me at all and I will fight having to feel like that.

[El Bandito]

((((Marti))))

 

"Success is the other side of failure."

 

"You don't make mistakes - you don't make anything."

 

I got loads of these - can go on for hours.

 

You are right - the pub system in UK is designed for...well, the people who designed it - none else makes money. Onwards and upwards!

[Still winning]

Blimey,a pity party cuddle lol, you know better then that buddy;)  I read all those, I prefer my over cautious panic induced worry...maybe one day I'll work past it, I do try!  Mary Poppins I'm not (practically perfect in case some don't know).  Yada yada it is what it is etc etc, it still burns like a mofo.  More so because I tried so hard and tried to stay so focused and positive. It's my only "proper" failure to date, other than a marriage which I don't count as it was progress :)

 

I used to be scared of spiders. Went for hypnotherepy to give up smoking and got over the fear of spiders instead??  

 

That fear is literally the only one I have left now though and I think on balance that's pretty cool.  I can look any situation in the face and know I have the omph to pull from somewhere to deal with it. It's a pretty useful fear to have when your aim is to quit smoking too :)