I want to restart again , because i had to smoke one day !!!

[Sunshine59]

Please help .

 

I want to restart now

[despair not]

Hi

 

Congrats on Quitting

 

Just don't put anything in your mouth and set fire to it and you should be fine.

 

if you know why you started again it may be worth doing a list of things or situations to avoid for the first few months;

 

Post an SOS if you are struggling there is usually someone online to try to help you.

[Sunshine59]

Thanks a lot for the reply despair not .

 

I have to think positive now .

 

First time my quit lasted for 6 days .

Second time it lasted for 24 days .

 

This time this has to be forever

[Nancy]

Let us just be clear.  You did not have to smoke, you chose to smoke. Don't do it again!

[despair not]

Try to remember that the first week is the hardest.

Don't torture yourself by repeating the first week withdrawal over and over.

 

I avoided things that I associated with smoking so I didn't socialise much for 6 months and quit drinking. It worked for me.it may for you.

Stick close to this site and read as much as you can to educate yourself.

 

 

[Sunshine59]

@Nancy , @despair not

 

Thanks for the tips

 

I will do everything i can to avoid it this time

[Jenny]

You can do it Redemption.  Take smoking off the table.  You don't "have to" smoke.  You choose to.   The secret to quitting is to choose not to smoke.  The control is all yours.  Stay close to the board and let us know when you are struggling most.  I can tell you that if you stick to it, over time, not smoking will become a non issue.  It truly will.

[Reciprocity]

What happened when you all of a sudden chose to purchase and light up a cigarette again after 24 days smoke free? You need to understand what happened this time so you can avoid it again this time. What is your quit plan this time? Is it the same as last time? Last time you used nicotine gum to control your cravings. You have been on this site now for awhile yet you did not reach out to anyone here by posting an SOS on the SOS page. You might have been able to get past your situation if you had posted there and waited for at least 3 replies. SOS posts have saved a lot of quits in the past. I wish you the best in your renewed quit attempt. Please read as much as you can here and learn about nicotine addiction. Have you watched any of the Joel Spitzer Videos? There's a whole library of them on a separate page of the forum. They may help you understand much about this addiction and it's affects on us.

[Mee]

Redemption, it is very difficult to believe you seriously want to quit.  You have been on and off the forum for months.  You have never taken the Nope pledge in all your attempts.  That is all it takes is to pledge nope to smoking and stick to it.  It is not going to happen until you truly want it and work toward that goal.  Only you can change your life.  

Edited December 23, 2018 by Linda Thomas

[WeegieWoman]

Good to see you back redemption. It took me 7 times to get my forever quit. You will get there. Seems like drink and stress was trigger? Some people do say avoid alcohol early in your quit so maybe you should consider that? 

[JB 883]

On 12/23/2018 at 6:17 PM, Linda Thomas said:

Redemption, it is very difficult to believe you seriously want to quit.  You have been on and off the forum for months.

 

Oh come on.

Some people enjoy quitting smoking so much that they relapse over and over just so they can quit again and again. THAT is the spirit of wanting to quit.

 

[sgt.barney]

On 12/23/2018 at 8:22 AM, Redemption3 said:

 

I want to restart now

 

Ain't nuthin' stoppin' ya. 

 

EZPZ

[sgt.barney]

 

On 12/23/2018 at 6:17 PM, Linda Thomas said:

You have never taken the Nope pledge in all your attempts.  That is all it takes is to pledge nope to smoking and stick to it.  

 

 

You needn't listen to the poppycock about "tak[ing] the Nope pledge". 
It is unnecessary. 
Sarge  has never pledged, here nor The Other Place ...

Neither in The Pledge Post, nor any other 

A "pledge" is bullsh|t. 
Hundreds here. Thousands elsewhere. Millions everywhere, each and every year participate in some sort of pledge or promise...
And yet they still smoke. 

A pledge is neither necessary, nor sufficient ... and for most it is a lie. 

The only thing that matters is to ACTUALLY PRACTICE Nope. 
Practicing Nope is both necessary, and sufficient. 

ALL successful quitters live the Nope. 

Anyone can write/say some words and pledge the Nope. 
Successful Quitters live the Nope. 

EZPZ

[Doreensfree]

The Daily Nope can for many be a powerful tool....and can make the difference between smoking or not ....

Anything that helps us along has got to be good thing .....

Everyone is different ...every quit is different ....

I pledged myself for a long time ...

As long as you keep the promise you pledged ....I say ...go for it ....

[Reciprocity]

^^^ I agree that the physical and mental process of actually making that pledge daily, even if it's just silently to yourself, is what sets up the motivation to stay smoke free for that day with many folks. Of course it doesn't mean anything if a person doesn't follow though on it but it's like making a promise to someone else about something. Those don't mean anything either if they aren't kept but speaking the words to start off with defines what kind of a person you are based on the end results and I think most folk want to be seen as decent people who are true to their word. Making the pledge daily certainly doesn't hurt anyone but the person making it if it isn't followed up on.

[Mee]

5 hours ago, sgt.barney said:

A "pledge" is bullsh|t. 

Excuse me Mr EZPZ Barney but not all of us has it as EZPZ as you and since I am still feeling under the weather, I kind of resent your inference that my pledge is bullshit and a lie (otherwise, I might be able to ignore you)

Maybe what is good for you is not always the same as it is for someone else.  The pledge was a strong help to me during my quit.

My goal is to always help others achieve, what I once felt impossible and found difficult to do.   

 

[bakon]

I never pledged. But respect the thought of it.

 

Sgt and everyone else can be right at same time.

[Mee]

1 hour ago, bakon said:

Sgt and everyone else can be right at same time.

Nice try Bakon but Sgt quoted me and used the words bullshit and a lie to describe the pledge.  I am a tad bit offended.

 

[jillar]

10 hours ago, sgt.barney said:

The only thing that matters is to ACTUALLY PRACTICE Nope. 

 

I practiced NOPE by starting each day with a pledge on the NOPE thread my whole first year quit. It was very important to me to not only affirm to myself that I wasn't going to smoke that day but also to stand with my fellow NOPers as united in beating this addiction.

[WeegieWoman]

I don't pledge nope therefore it's certainly not all it takes to quit!! 

 

But I wouldn't scoff at those who pledge nope or those who do not. 

 

Just do what ever works for you. 

 

 

 

[Sazerac]

NOPE, as a concept

and 

NOPE,  as a personal commitment

were v. helpful to me in my quit.

Now, the commitment holds

and for me, it is a sense of joyful camaraderie 

that continues to encourage me in the NOPE thread.

 

[Mee]

3 hours ago, Sazerac said:

NOPE, as a concept

and 

NOPE,  as a personal commitment

were v. helpful to me in my quit.

Now, the commitment holds

and for me, it is a sense of joyful camaraderie 

that continues to encourage me in the NOPE thread.

I do feel the same @Sazerac.  I would wake up many days over the years and say I wasn't going to smoke anymore but did not hold to it.  Pledging with my friends and supporters was different.  They believed in me more than I did and gave me the strength to not let them down!

[bakon]

Awesome but still not required reading....

Sgt by no means meant it personal....he is his own person but never personal offending people...ideas sure. But we are all on the same side here. 

Whatever works. 

[Mee]

2 minutes ago, bakon said:

Awesome but still not required reading....

Sgt by no means meant it personal....he is his own person but never personal offending people...ideas sure. But we are all on the same side here. 

Whatever works. 

I know.  I was just being a ouchy today.  A woman's prerogative.  Then again, I seem to be getting a little more powerful with my quit

[Lilly]

You might get help if you tell people why you smoked. 

 

Please don't take this the wrong way but every time you relapse you don't want to be stopped. That is why you tell the forum after you do it. I have done it myself lots of times which is why I recognise it. 

 

It's a bit like people who are only sorry they were unfaithful because they got caught. 

 

I'm glad you've quit again