Father died of emphysema last night

[Kate18]

Yesterday at 4:20 pm my father died of smoking-related emphysema. He had smoked for more than 50 years. How many years more would he have had with a wife and family he loved? 

I have not given up on myself. I have a new job as of several months ago, and it comes with excellent health insurance. I have joined the medical insurance company's preparation for smoking cessation coaching program to help with better plans for quitting and making it stick. The first session was an eye opener. I though I knew all of the strategies for quitting, but I was wrong. It's a Web-based conference call, supposed to be a small group of four of us, but the other three didn't show up. It was nice to have one-on-one conversation about my past efforts and how I can make this time the last time. Three more sessions to go. After that, they offer a staying-quit coaching group, which I also will join.

 

When I am truly quit and have a month or two successfully lived as a nonsmoker, I'll be back to make daily pledges.  Until then,  may you all be happily living free of addiction and breathing only clean air.

[jillar]

I'm really sorry about your dad's passing away yesterday Kate Glad you're working on quitting again.....

[Stewie]

Im sorry Kate, Stay strong! A kiss and hug your way.

[Reciprocity]

Condolences on the passing of your beloved father Kate! I'm glad to hear you are pursuing every method of creating a successful quit for yourself that you can. This smoking addiction is nasty and I just hate it! It only takes and gives us nothing good in return.

 

Hope to see you when ever you feel you'd like some support from us here on the Train.

[Wantsit]

So sorry to hear Kate. I lost my dad to virtually the same thing almost three years ago and have wanted to quit every since.  I do not want to only be able to live by the length of a hose. What misery that has to be and could it have been prevented? Probably . I also saw what throat cancer did and hope I have the strength to stay strong enough to beat these demons. I have come to want this more than anything and wish for you the same thing! Prayers to you and your family.

[Lilly]

Welcome back to the forum and sorry to hear about your dad

[johnny5]

I'm sorry to hear about your dad, Kate.

 

Smoking truly is horrible.  Feel free to reach out to us as you embark on your quit journey. 

[Boo]

Sorry about your dad.  Condolences.

 

As you continue with the process of quitting, feel free to take a seat on the Train anytime you like.

 

Best wishes to you and your family.

[Sazerac]

I am so sorry to hear about your father's death.

 

[c9jane29]

Prayers for strength and peace.

[Mee]

Kate,

So terribly sorry about the loss of you dad.  I bet this is especially tough during the holidays.   

I am glad you have come to realize the health costs of smoking.  You do not have to wait to become a part of the forum.  We would love to follow you on your journey of ridding yourself of this addiction.  There is so much information here and lots of friendship.  We are a great support system.  We have all been through the withdrawal and come out on the other side.

Linda  

[Martian5]

Welcome back Kate, I do hope you come back more often though I can see where you are coming from, much hope and prayers to you -- and my deepest condolences.  

[Nancy]

Kate, I am so very, very sorry for your loss. 

[MLMR]

Sorry to hear about your father.  

 

 

[brand.new.ela]

I am really sorry, Kate. 

[notsmokinjo]

Condolences for the loss of your father, my the happy memories of your life with him soon shine brightly through your grief.

 

I think he would be proud you are doing everything you can to have a successful quit. When you are ready we will be here waiting but you don't need to be in an established quit, we are here for the bumpy, ugly days too.

 

 

[Doreensfree]

My sincere Condolences.... Sending hugs ....we are here always when you need us ....

[Tammy]

Deepest condolences.

May he rest in peace, praying for strength for you and your family.

[NADA]

Sending heartfelt condolences to you and your family Kate.

 

Please quit ASAP.

 

Each year, over 6 million* other people are experiencing this grief as a result of death from direct tobacco use.

 

* World Health Organization

[Christian99]

My condolences on the passing of your father.  

 

Please do not confuse thinking of and planning for quitting for actually quitting and trying to save your life.  I have seen hundreds (thousands?) of people over the years use lengthy preparation as an unconscious method of avoiding the actual quit.  The time to quit is now, and every cigarette is damaging and potentially killing you.  You have everything you need to be successful right now.    

 

Christian99

Nearing 17 Years Quit

 

[Cristóbal]

On 11/20/2018 at 9:52 PM, Christian99 said:

My condolences on the passing of your father.  

 

Please do not confuse thinking of and planning for quitting for actually quitting and trying to save your life.  I have seen hundreds (thousands?) of people over the years use lengthy preparation as an unconscious method of avoiding the actual quit.  The time to quit is now, and every cigarette is damaging and potentially killing you.  You have everything you need to be successful right now.    

 

Christian99

Nearing 17 Years Quit

 

 

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I agree 100%.

 

I am sorry to learn you have lost your father Kate, that is a horrible loss.

 

At the same time, you may want to ask yourself, Is there a valid reason why you must wait to start your quit ????

 

 

Cristóbal

[Baseball Coach]

It is always tough to lose a loved one.  Now it's your turn to prevent that for yourself.  Just quit.  Stop it.  Now.  Making plans to quit means you are not serious about it.  It's like talking about taking a trip or going on a cruise.  It's just talk.  You are not going on the trip or taking a cruise until you go.  Cutting down, using alternative methods or fooling yourself is not quitting.  Like jumping into a cold swimming pool, no matter how long you wait, the water is still cold.   YOu have to confront the demon called nicotine and go to war against him, vowing never to bow to his influences ever again.  We're here to help.  Put them down today and never buy another pack, never borrow another butt.  It's tough for a week, then it gets better.

[Lilly]

On 11/18/2018 at 3:47 PM, Kate18 said:

When I am truly quit and have a month or two successfully lived as a nonsmoker, I'll be back to make daily pledges.  Until then,  may you all be happily living free of addiction and breathing only clean air.

 

Hope you are ok Kate. 

 

Let your grief take its natural course and when you feel ready we will be here for you. 

 

Take good care of yourself x

[garry mhudson]

Sorry for your loss Kate. God Bless and support you through these times. Best wishes.

[Kate18]

On 11/20/2018 at 9:52 PM, Christian99 said:

My condolences on the passing of your father.  

 

Please do not confuse thinking of and planning for quitting for actually quitting and trying to save your life.  I have seen hundreds (thousands?) of people over the years use lengthy preparation as an unconscious method of avoiding the actual quit.  The time to quit is now, and every cigarette is damaging and potentially killing you.  You have everything you need to be successful right now.    

 

Christian99

Nearing 17 Years Quit

 

Thank you Christian,

I have been weary and disheartened by so many lapses. I have a challenge with impulse control and procrastination that have impacted my life in general.  I've been reading up and working on increasing my willpower. People influencing and helping me include Jordan Peterson (Professor of something in Toronto) through his lectures on Youtube and his books,  and Roy Baaumeister & John Tierney with their book, "Willpower: Rediscovering the greatest human strength.