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Well I lost my elderly friend this morning.  Tough stuff.  I so loved this lady and the time I spent with her.  There will definitely be a huge void in my life.  

I will admit that death and smoking is hard.  Smoking was a huge part of the very low moments in our life.  It is almost automatic to want to reach for that comfort.  

As a smoker, there are times in our lives that the smoking; not the people gave us the companionship that we needed.  

This definitely was a test in my quit, but instead of giving in, it helped me realize the connection that I often isolated myself when I was hurting and I smoked to ease the pain of the

hurt.  

I came through okay.  I am really experiencing the emotions of the loss and crying!

Am posting a picture of my friend and I on her 103rd birthday.  She almost made it to her 104th in January!

 

 

 

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MLMR Rising Star

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Ahhw Linda. My condolences on the loss of your dear, dear friend. What a great picture of you both. 

 

Smoking is isolation, that is a key discovery..

 

Whishing you good things, dwell in warm memoires. Please take care these coming days. X

 

 

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Doreensfree Grand Master

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Aww sweetheart...

I'm so sorry ...

My deepest sympathy....

What a wonderful long life your special friend has had....she will have seem many changes....

You will have loving memories...of your time together......that will stay in your heart forever....

We are here for you....when you need us ....

Your a strong lady....

Hugs xxxx

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jillar Grand Master

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Oh Linda, I'm so sorry for your loss ?  I hope you find comfort in knowing that you got to spend this last bit of time she had with her...……… xoxo

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Wee fluffy me Apprentice

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Aawww Linda my deepest sympathies. I hope you can take some comfort in the fact that you made it home to spend some time with her. I am sending you  a big, big cuddle xx

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Oh, my dear, Linda, 

what a sad, sad day for you.

I am so sorry.

This photograph of you and your friend is beautiful and indicative of your very special relationship.

I know her death is very painful for you,

she was your ally and an important one.

Please take time for yourself to honor your friend and grieve.

All of us here surround you with love, remember that.

You are not alone, especially today, you are all in out thoughts.

 

Protect your quit and nurture yourself.

 

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How beautiful y'all are!! 

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I'm so happy for you that in these moments you can recognize the chains smoking had on you and that you are now free! Live in these emotions, enjoy the feeling of them! 

Sending my love your way, friend...take some time to just breathe❤️

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Rozuki Mentor

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My condolences, Linda, on the loss of your lovely friend! Glad you got to be there for her at the end....RIP, Linda's lovely friend!

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Mee Collaborator

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Thanks so much for the condolences.  I am so fortunate to have found your friendships at this time of my life.  

It truly helps to have you all to reach out to.  Thanks so much for being there.

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Linda, my deepest condolences to you.  You have exhibited great strength, empathy and courage -- thank you for showing the way.  I am sure your friend was thankful and proud.  You have made it through one of the toughest times for quitting and you have come thru strong.  Prayers are with you!!!!

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Condolences Linda for your loss. Memories of great companionship will live on forever in you.

You and your friend were blessed with this relationship and lived it to the fullest. That's among the best life has to offer :) 

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Linda, I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend.  What a wonderful and rare relationship you had, and I hope you can always cherish the reciprocal comfort, companionship, and joy, you gave to each other.   

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I’m sorry to read about the passing of your dear friend. She looks like a fun gal to pal around with; her frames are awesome!

 

I’m glad you turned to us for comfort rather than those stinky “friends” we  have all expelled from our lives.

 

As you grieve, please be sure to find some quiet moments to take care of yourself. 

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Deepest condolences for the passing of your dear friend. Remember while she may be gone she is not lost, she is with you everyday in the part of your heart and soul she made her own. I know now the memories are too new and too raw but in time you will be able to remember the laughter and joy you shared.

 

True friendships, that breach the generation gaps, are a rare and precious thing that give so much to both. You have been truly blessed to have this lovely lady in your life, just as she was truly blessed to have you by her side in her twilight.

 

Know that when you look to the sky on cold day and a tendril of warm light breaks through the clouds and shines on your face, that is your friend reminding you of her love.

 

So very, very proud of you for holding true to your NOPE. It is such a hard thing to endure and you are so right, for years we hid from our emotions behind a cloud of smoke.... but now we are strong, and we don't need that. To move forward and grow we need to feel it all, not just the joy and happiness but also the sadness, horror and heartbreak. You can walk through this forest of darkness, you might get a few scratches and bruises but you will come out the other side and you will be stronger as a person and as a non-smoker.... because you Linda Thomas are an awesome woman with the stregth and power to achieve anything you put your mind to.

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Kdad Enthusiast

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Sorry for your loss Linda. Thoughts are with you. Very impressive you kept your quit. A real test. 

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Tammy Newbie

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So sorry to hear about your loss Linda.

Sending hugs and prayers. 

Shows true grit that you didn't smoke...I know what a tough time this is. 

But you had a lovely relationship with her, and I'm sure you have some amazing memories. 

 

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