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All of us have the potential to be inspirational to someone reading on this site. I have been inspired by people who have only begun their quit as well as those ahead of me and next to me. Keep an open mind.

It's the story of you and all of us :) Great piece of writing! I would never quit either, I was a "proper smoker".

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I read this link earlier, I like that it focuses on a real person. We have these emotions, but we aren't alone in this world. I rather liked reading this one. http://psychcentral.com/lib/7-mistaken-assumptions-angry-people-make/00012480

The anger is difficult to manage at times. Finally the realization sets in that the rage comes with a price that is too steep to pay. It isn't worth it. I don't like the results. I have to live with it, it's part of taking accountability for what I do. I don't have the answer, but I do know that it isn't always deserving of rage as it initially seems to be. I have to count from 1 to 10 a lot. It helps.

I quit smoking for the same reason I started smoking. It was a choice. I chose to smoke. And 35 years later I chose to quit. I hold myself accountable for all of my choices, good or bad.

TPAM lives in London town

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-8Mr0boww2w

I like this place too. I hope everyone does well here, and can forget the sewer that the other site has become. So glad to be here! :)

Beacon I wouldn't say you were smug acting...maybe just like a wee bit superior huh? :) A little nosmo snobbery, what's wrong with flaunting it? You know like if you got it...flaunt it. That's why I like summer I get to show off my ________ :) see how I took that and turned it around on you?

Welcome Carly! I hope you will like it and prosper here :)

Hi Soul! Very nice, so glad you could make it :)

Yessss!! LMAO eggsactly the desired response to the stimulus...good cause and effect. Good use of the Scientific Method lol :)

Hi Daisyjane! Welcome to the new hangout! Here's a seat for you on the big couch, make yourself at home. The keg is in the kitchen, the wine is in the fridge :)

It's all very personal. Even though the methods used to quit are the same with slight variations depending on an individual's preference it all is a very personal thing. You always choose what works for you or just wing it. You do that on your own, always. Some plans I see I just cringe, but you know it usually ends up that it works for that person. A step-wise plan to quit is a good idea but doesn't need to be complex, and a fallback plan is even better. You can start by acting like a nonsmoker; see yourself a few weeks and a few months from now. What do you look like, what are you doing? Get to the reading and the writing. Post and become a part of this forum and pay it forward to cement your quit in your mind. You will do this on your own with a little help (minimal) assistance from your friends here. Nobody can quit for you, but you can learn how to stay quit here. Any or all of items 1-7 below, will make it better. (1) Commit to Not One Puff Ever (NOPE). (2) Commit to Never Take Another Puff (NTAP). (3) Educate yourself about your addiction. Read, post, learn, overcome. Lather, rinse, repeat. (4) Decide that you do not want to smoke more than you want to smoke. This may save you from relapse. (5) Take control of your life, reclaim your mind and body, and get it straight about who owns you. Is it you? Or your addiction? (6) Realize that you'll always be an addict, a puff away from a pack a day, but you choose not to smoke. That's all of us. (7) Start acting like a non smoker, like you never smoked, walk the walk. A cigarette is never the answer to anything but disease. ( 8 Have a plan B if Plan A that you are using now fails. Make your plan B from steps 1-7, above. *(9) Celebrate your quit! Talk it up, be proud of what you have accomplished! Alright, enough with the steps and commitment to this and that already! Look at this logically if you will. :) How else can you possibly quit smoking by any other means than stopping using cigarettes? The addiction to nicotine cannot be overcome by administering the same thing to yourself that you are addicted to, (nicotine). What that means is when you are at 5 days, 7 days, 10 days, 28 days quit, and you find yourself craving a cigarette (your delivery device for nicotine), you cannot beat that crave/association with a cigarette. You might fix a bad hangover with some hair of the dog that bit you, but you can't fix a cigarette crave with a cigarette and still expect to quit smoking. Can you? Now go look at the items again, you have the desire. What is missing if anything? You decide along the way, revamp the plan if you need to, adapt to your conditions, if something isn't working, get rid of it. Anything to keep the quit. You have to be fair to yourself, but firm. It will get better over time, but you'll only see it if you commit to it. And so you will. Welcome to a new life! :)

You want to know how to quit smoking? I mean all you really want is for it to get better, correct? When will it get better? You can conjure up a quit out of thin air, and that's exactly how it is done. Your wish becomes a desire, your desire becomes reality, a sort of a perception is reality mind game. That's one thing to remember, that this is a mind game. What keeps you motivated is the same thing that keeps you not smoking in the middle of all of your friends/mates who puff away around you. You will stand right in the midst of them and you will not cave. All you need is to have a plan and execute it. Have some patience with yourself; you didn't get this way in 3 days, 5 days, and 30 days. It will get better. Flying by the seat of your pants is also an option, but at some point in time you need to hold yourself accountable and commit to your quit in the face of all obstacles you face and the temptations you may have. You can do it.

Have you quit recently or are you thinking about it? Good. That takes some nerve and that's enough to get it done. You don't have to be smart, you just need to use the courage and will that you have, in the right way, and get that brain of yours aligned to make it happen. You don't need support from anyone to quit. It's very personal and something only you can do for yourself. This place cannot help you quit, it can't give you a quit, and it can't keep you quit. Only you can do that, and it's a choice. Either smoke. Or quit. The only thing that can happen to you here is to get encouragement and support. All that people here can do for you is to tell you how and to promise you that it can be done. Don't be fooled by that, if you are here or not, you're are absolutely going to have to hold yourself accountable and stay motivated and commit to staying quit, all on your own. This place can be effective in teaching you how to start walking after you've been crawling (quit) on your own, if you use it the right way. Understand that you are an addict first, and that's why you smoke because smoking is your answer to everything, but in reality is the answer to nothing. Your life needs to start getting unwrapped from smoking. Nothing you do right now is sans smoking and you don't know anything else, and are wondering how to change that. Crawl first, then walk. Just like you did as a baby. A lot of people have quit. This board is a resource to supplement your desire to make that wish to quit a reality. It gets better, just as soon as you set your mind to being a non smoker and you free yourself from yourself, and from how you choose to live your life. Walk the walk, and have faith in yourself! You can do it.

This forum is followed by one anonymous user And they are on now. 16:23 on 04-04-14 Hi anony mouse lol quit fogging up the glass and come in and join us :)

Welcome to the place Andrew! Good to see you here. :)

NTAP shuffle for me too! Thats the way I love you Quit Train Rolls in - By Sam Brown and the boys