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@notsmokinjo Thank you for your kind thoughts. Just one question though, when you say "warts", do you literally mean warts or do you mean "having a negative side", not sure.

@Sazerac but they're my family, I cannot just remove them. While severely lacking in emotional and moral support, they have given me support (financially) in other ways as normal families would. I've tried so much to be independent of them financially, so that I could stand on my own two feet, do what I wanted to with my life and support them (family) back. My parents are after all in their 60s. I thought I had my emotional and moral support (through friends and other family members) and just good times, outside my immediate family, but it turned out they were just in cahoots with my family as well. I wish I had that self-confidence, it comes and goes. Thank you for your replies one and all. I have often thought, I'll just have one cigarette and be done with smoking forever to calm my nerves, but I know that's not a good way of thinking, and that's only going to lead to the same 3 - 4 cigarettes a day, which I don't want. So, rest assured, as much as smoking monster tries to get me back, I won't let it.

@Linda Thomas But I don't let them do that, I don't let them do that by fighting back and they do it more and more (like little immature children, one would think they had common sense to behave their age) and then I fight back more and I'm stuck in a circle. Somehow, in their eyes, I always come out the a***ole. I'm not perfect and I've done some things I regret, but I'm not a completely bad person. I know there is a good side to me. I do not want to lose anymore people from my life, I've already lost all my friends and most family members (which I never wanted, but was forced to cut off from them). The only people I now have in my life are my immediate family (mom, dad, brother and sister, 3 dogs), I cannot afford to lose them too, it would be too painful. My family has pretty much set that condition on my life too, its their way or the highway, considering that I've been wronged in so many ways, I'm not going to do things their way ever, so its the highway, and continuing to live under the same roofs nevertheless.

That's true, and she's not the only one who does it. The more I fight back and prevent my mom and anybody else from controlling my life and effing up my confidence and self-esteem, the more they try it. It can be really annoying. Always encroaching on my time and violating boundaries I set. I try my best not to let this happen (the encroaching on my time and violating my boundaries), but it still does.

@MLMR No they're not telling me to go smoke, although on one occasion (I think a week and a half ago), I confessed to my mom that I was tempted to go by a cigarette, and all she could tell me was that I have a sick mind and should just go back to smoking. When I quit smoking, I had specifically told her not tell me such things if at some point I got so distressed and told her that I wanted to smoke, but she said it to me anyways. @reciprocity Its the wrong done to me that upsets me. I don't know if they are ex-smokers or current smokers or never smokers (mom is definitely a never smoker though). @Eight-Toe Joe Your advice made me smile. Thank you

Hi all, as the title shows, I need advice on what to do when people undermine my quit. This happens every damn day and every time my quit is undermined, I get a crave for a cigarette, and I also go into a furious rage. I have worked hard to keep my quit going, and its very distressing that my quit is undermined on a daily basis. What should I do? Btw, still staying quit, not taken a single puff since the day I quit smoking. The last few days have been terrible. Thanks...

Congratulations on a 5 year quit @SanDar!!!

Congratulations on a 7 month quit @Sunshine59!!!

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Congratulations on a 6 year quit @Paul723!!!

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@Sazerac yea, i think lead also stays in the body for a long time (not sure how long), but then again lead ends up in our body from other sources (such as air pollution and pesticides in food) as well. Not sure as to how long other chemicals (from cigarettes) last in the body. However, those other chemicals may be the reason why it takes long for the body to recover from chances of heart disease and cancer.

Congratulations on a 11 month quit @MLMR!!!

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@MichelleDoesntSmokeAnymore That's good, an hour at a time and a day at a time, that's how smoking can be done away with

Welcome back @hellkatbaby, and all the best for your quit. Plenty of good advice given here already. Watch Joel's videos, they may help you.

@Diane R Was going to suggest to avoid alcohol for the first two weeks. But you made it through a drinking session. Way to go!!! You're doing great

Congratulations on a 2 month quit @richard!!!

Hi @peeper and welcome aboard!!! A lot of good advice has been given here already. Bottom line is, it takes a commitment to oneself not to smoke. Talking to people on QuitTrain can be helpful. However, no matter what anyone says, and irrespective of the methods (books/videos/NRT...etc.) used to quit smoking, one has to make a commitment to oneself not to smoke. It takes courage as well. You may be scared as to not knowing how you will be to handle life as an ex-smoker. You may be scared to throw out all your smoking paraphernalia. You may be scared not knowing how you will carry out your day to day routine without smoking. Although easier said than done, take quitting smoking in your stride and work through it an hour and a day at a time. Keep yourself busy with activities. Drink plenty of juice and water during the first 3 days. Take the NOPE pledge on the forum, it helps. When I do get a crave, I admit to myself I need a smoke, but I also say to myself that I'm not going to submit to it. Personally, I never read any books w.r.t quitting smoking, I just watched Joel's videos and talked to people on QuitTrain. I also take the NOPE pledge everyday. I also stuck as many post-its I could that say "Never Take Another Puff" all over my room, and the post-its still remain to this day. Its like a reminder for the commitment I made to myself not to smoke. You can also watch Joel's videos on his YouTube channel, working through them a day at a time as organized in playlists. Here's the link: https://www.youtube.com/user/joelspitz Here's a video that may be of some help to you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tTb3d5cjSFI All the best!!!

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Congratulations on a 2 month quit @freeatlast!!!

Congratulations on a 4 month quit @DizzyD!!!

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@Edy Try taking the NOPE pledge, that may help you further to take things a day at a time.