Christian99

I agree that it's a really good sign that you're trying to think through some of the dimensions of this in advance and develop some strategies in case things get dicey. I guess I just want to strike a slightly different note/tone, though (to complement not to undermine others' remarks): that is, given the circumstances you describe, it's possible you WILL have some very unsettling stretches during and even after his visit, despite the terrific advice you've gotten and your best of intentions going in. This is an enormously powerful addiction with deep affective registers, which, at one (glorious!) month quit, you're still unraveling. His presence and all it conjurs may twist and obscure its meanings and your commitment. I say all this in large part to remind you to be vigilant, humble, and absolutely ruthless in your abstinence. Regardless of how the visit goes (and I hope it's awesome), nothing is more important than the quit. Christian99 About 16 1/2 Years Quit

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What kind of bike do you have? Christian99

My brother died from lung cancer at age 41. It was a terrible death, made even worse by his inability to quit and, hence, his profound sense of guilt and shame, which we were unable to ameliorate. His 39 year-old wife (also a smoker, though not ill from it) took her own life two hours after he died. My mother quit smoking when she was 61; she developed esophageal cancer at 69 and died at 70. Christian99 16 1/2 Years Quit

I'm a teacher at a community college, and we have a fair amount of attrition in our classes. It's very sad when students disappear; however many of their lives are extremely complicated, and I like to think that some of the things they've experienced (even if they're non-academic in nature) will stick with them. And, as I've learned in my own life, it's certainly true that we're not always ready for the very valid information/lessons we hear. Christian99 15 1/2 Years Quit