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Aww late to this, sorry my lovely. I want to echo some of this. Some of us, me included, quit the slightly harder way. In that we have other stuff that needs dealing with at the same time as the quit. I too was going through mind bendingly painful scenarios as I quit...my quit actually highlighted them. It brought existing issues that I had ignored to light in a very real way. I suffered behind the scenes. I say this as I found yoga really helped me (once I stopped giggling and tilting sideways a lot). I actually started it at around month 3,exactly where you are. I want to say that some parts of the quit were more emotional than others and it kinda seemed frightening with the physical concerns and mental concerns. Yoga helped and my buddy telling me over and over that smoking was done, we were quit already...what joy!! Damn if it sounds like you need some of that joy right now. Try this yoga unless you have a prefered one...she is spiritual and natural It's perfectly fine to feel like a fool, stick with it for a few days or a couple of times a week. Introduce some time in a day to release the emotions if you need to. In the shower, you need to cry, do it! You need to scream, do it. Punch a pillow if you're angry. Run. But stop letting it all well up inside you, get it out of you. Spiritually there is power in your thoughts, some call it positive thinking, I call it manifesting but same end goal. Don't want something, give it less head room. Want more of something, start thinking of it favourably. The quit is not to blame. It's tough to hear. The quit is a good and beautiful thing. that said the quit really does take some real time to bed in. Month 4 was so lovely and peaceful for me, a real respite from what felt like a bit of a battering from the quit before that. Others felt easy sooner. Doesn't really matter I promise, I'm still as happy quit today as the easy peasy crew were, it all ends in the same place. And that's what I want to add, it ends! It really really does. So that a smoking thought is a weird thing, not a normal thing. So that you stop the snotfest or the banshee wails, it all takes it time to teach you about that part of the quit and once the lesson is learnt, like in life, the problem passes naturally. Don't be scared by what's happening. It's easy to fear this, but there is nothing to fear. Your brain is so busy processing multiple things that it flits. So you over think. Stop gooling illnesses!! You are not ill, you're healing :) I promise. x

One more sleep!!! Oh my gods, beyond excited. Can't wait to see the poll lol. You look like a cocktails and frock kinda chick, will warm up a spot in the party section !!!

Oh my goodness, I'm so late but only two more sleeps till our very own blond beauty Sarah has a year!! I hope you have some plans lined up for thursday (or the weekend) my lovely :) xx

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Tracey I am so sorry my love, that is incredibly young. He would be so proud of you and all the support you've shown to other quitters now and relief, bet he's taken a big sigh of relief to see you quit and happier. Those that have lost someone to smoking don't always connect the dots :( Time and access is teaching us though, and it warms my heart to see new younger quitters too. So sorry for your sadness though. xx

Pub closed now Bakon?

I have shoe envy for sure :) xx

Flying is much easier when you don't have to hunt down a smoke area :) "Jersey in da house"!! It sounds fabulous. x

Your pictures always make me smile Joe. All your beautiful ladies :) Pleased you could all get together and that the sun shone for you. xx

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Nearly done now then :)

You are very tired, you will go to sleep...... Why say it in a boring one liner when you can prattle on for days :)

Great Job Action. Hope all is well. x

That sounds amazing!! Good on you. x

Already took my kids to Disneyland which I'd been attempting for literally years (should add two quitters money, not just me). Signed both kids up now to regular outlay for potential life saving activities (miss 9 martial arts and miss 5 swimming lessons). I could never have afforded regular outlay with smoking too. May take a holiday somewhere cheap and european this year, and I can do that if I want :) Booked taking my masters in reiki and investing in a business of my own for holistic healing. Next up for a couple of years is buying a house (saving deposit), Canada holiday, Camp in France with the kids are all on the saving agenda. When kids are older, trip with the Bakons for my Chris to motorbike ride, trip to borneo rainforest, Peru for the inca ruins, back to mexico to do more mayan ruins, handgliding somewhere, monaco grand prix....so much :) The point is if you really embrace the good of not smoking, especially financial, it can easily knock a trigger out of the ball park because no way would I want to give up those plans, no matter how big my addiction was!! Once you taste the freedom, you have more incentive to hold on. So I really advocate treating yourself!!

Jess, At the risk of sounding overbearing I am so bloody proud of you my friend!! Lovin your treats, do it, well earnt chick. Much love and the BIGGEST CONGRATS for half a year! xx

Smoking takes away your freedom, your choices of where to go, how healthy you are, your finances and so much more. We deserve more than these nicotine companies offer us, we no longer buy into their LIES! Wedo not believe that you must reintroduce nicotine at regular intervals, quite the opposite! Once you stop the real freedom can begin to grow... We choose NOPE to that!! Just for today. Smoking is not on the table today...do something nice for yourself instead!!

I don't know if I can recover? Off to search out shoes, shoes always help!

Bottoms up darling!!

So I'm strangely innocent in limited ways... So Mammy, I googled too... OH MY GODS Urban dictionary helps me be "down with the kids" (ie not antique) and then this happened... DUCK BUTTER: The combination of sweat from the ballsac and anus that creates a buttery film on the grundle and butthole. occuring usually from an unwashed scrotum creating a smelly odor that worsens in thickness and odor by the minute. Also known as DB or Deeb. Bobby rubbed his deeb all over his roommates pillows. I have some killa DB today! Ewwwww. Traumatised! You will find me in a bottle of vino collapso pulling the same face as when someone explained teabagging....

Eye of the tiger!! I love this, so so brave too!! Embrace the opportunity was always my thinking. It's a whole new you, this one will be stronger and healthier :) x

You know people are here to help support others quit, timelines don't matter. I worry that you think because you think of smoking you're quit is doomed to the depths of smoking sooner or later. I think, that's your previous quits talking and your inner junkie and addicted nature is really playing on, "hey we'll just do it again". But Gabby, why bother, you are already quit. You arejust dealing with errant thoughts and not anything more. YOU are giving those thoughts power rather than questioning them because for some weird reason, you think it might be better/easier (unsure of motivator to be honest) to just smoke. But you're a non smoker...so smoking isn't on the table anymore. There are some eureka moments in a quit for sure, but there's a whole lot of plodding that no one really speaks to much of. I had these thoughts from time to time. My buddy had these thoughts from time to time. The only difference I can see is together we made a choice to NOPE no matter what. So the thoughts took less power because no matter how strong or convincing the lie was, we'd promised we would march past it. Couple of weeks ago I found a packet of cigs with a lighter in the car I share with my mum. I honestly thought better take that back in the house before I go in case I'm tempted..like what the hell was that?! But it happened. So I dealt with it and moved on with my day, a few curses but nowt serious. No big deal - unless I choose to make it a big deal and that's my point. Of course we have associations to smoking, we smoked for years! I tend to ramble but my point is you get to choose. I think you could do worse then tell yourself it's done, let yourself feel grumpy about that if that's what happens. We often miss the sheer addiction part of this addiction. Pleased to hear you're plodding through. For my part can I suggest like others say a bit more chatting on the board time and start acknowledging some good bits the quit has brought you. Unexpected benefits, financial gains, whatever comes to mind. Lastly a quit for financial reasons is not to be sneezed at your side of the world. NZ and Aus have gone big on pricing smoking out of the market. Those friends of yours who were "having a lovely time" are mostly not as happy go lucky as you see and they're probably skint for the rest of this month too! Remember how that side of the fence felt, yes you could repress it at times but that niggling "I should be quit, I want to quit, why am Ismoking, I can't afford this, I'm going without on so many levels to sustain this".... you remember all of those right?? Sending strength and love chick, it's tough at times but I believe in you and how wonderful this quit will feel when you let it sink in. xx

Loved reading this :) Great job and pleased we all get some sunshine.