Still winning

Ok just going to keep my head down. I gave her the allen carr book, think she read a few pages!! Suggested 3 quit forums, that's not for the win. She has stopped smoking for now, think she's just going to traumatise herself and me and then say it can't be done again - but she phrases it like, I only had 5 today - code for fail.

Evelyn, why not use the time to try and ind things to do and places to go locally - you will haveall that extra money now. Or go to the library and see what groups they have, sure most countries libraries do that. Use quitting as a platform to transform aspects of your life!! I am sorry for your Mum but she would want more for you than this - I would want more for my girls. x

Wow, I felt really positive day 1, excited and scared my poor Mum is just scared :( I am flunking majorly on the support, apparently I'm patronising, the people on forums are silly with their if I did it you can do it and so it goes on. Spent an hour trailing two kids round every chemist this morning looking for quit aids (nrt) and come back to her smoking :( I think she's started now? So explaining the dangers of smoking health wise is a no, forums support is a no, any ideas on any "yes's" I could get or should I back off? She's a miserable bugger when the mood takes her with no worries at laying it at others doors lol. Panic not, my quit is secure and I pledged already today :)

Good to see you and massive congrats on your 1 month quit!! x

Absolutely, and I should also say that no one said anything to me but "my smokers" (lol) were watching me and how I coped!! One quit just over a week later, relapsed and quit again and the other starts trying today! Never say never...this was a house of "lifer" smokers and they are dropping out of it like flies ;) x

NOPE from me. x

I love these posts on your treats, excellent! Why not people, it's nice to see my bank account looking human lol, garden centre for treats today. x

I think quite a few of us have been there. 14 years ago I gave up a 364 day quit, it annoys me I can never say I had a year. Yes that was a bad day, smoking didn't make it any better or easier and the next 14 years of damage from that "1" is not a moment I can justify any longer. Not one, not ever! x

I found the blogs section, but can't seem to work out how to start one? Help a dimlo out? Ta muchly.

I'm pleased you've woken up fresher and feeling better, and real sorry theday with your daughter didn't pan out as you hoped. I think it's really important for us (both, me too!) to remember how relieved we feel the day after we had a bad crave but didn't smoke. Sometimes I bring back that feeling when a crave hits to try and remember. Also I see your hubby is due home and he's a smoker. It was my biggest concern early quit as my fella and Mum live here and smoke. I hope it's not rude but I'm gonna offer my thoughts up front and hope it helps you some. I insisted on only smoking inside in one room that I could easily air. More than that though, every time they lit up I would conciously think "you HAVE to do that to relieve your withdrawal, I CHOOSE not to listen anymore" and then I'd crack on with whatever I was doing. In honesty sometimes I would think maybe one yada yada, but I never gave in and decided if I were to ever relapse I would buy my own - I did that purely to make it harder for myself to cheat or fail. x

Beautiful work my friend! Enjoy your freedom. x

Great to see this Evelyn, you got this now!! x

nope, not today.

Well late to the party, sorry Soozie. I hate when those back to back craves come, whoever said it before me is sooo right..they link to your emotions too. I hear you on the irregularity of the craves, when mine come they bulldoze me as it's a surprise. I love that despite feeling pants about it you dragged yourself through it, I really think those moments help to "seal" our quit. No advice honey as you done it like I would have, crawl through some, skip through others...smoking cannot have us anymore my friend, we just have to wait it out till better days. xx

Martine Louise are you shi*ting me, you lead, that is what you do - who will you lead with smoking, shall we give Milly or Bella the first cigarette. It will never be ok to be this addict, it is not who you are, you cannot heal people and help people as an addict. Now man the fu*k up and lead like you were born to do. And hugs, you are strong enough to do this no matter what you are facing this moment! If you doubt yourself go listen to a COPD cough, or read on lung cancer that stole your beloved peter. No more shoulda, coulda, woulda...if I want it I do it...Nathan 2008. Now stop being such a donut! xx

I hear ya Ross, these peoples stories and support have kept me whole where I would likely have buckled as well. Pretty powerful support tool, I don't know as if I personally would have felt this strong if I didn't have the fall back of here. Thankfully we will never know!

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At different times of my life this poem has made me whole and together, through the worst life has to sling. For quitting smoking the last chapter has helped me over more than one crave.. InvictusOut of the night that covers me, Black as the Pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be For my unconquerable soul. In the fell clutch of circumstance I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance My head is bloody, but unbowed. Beyond this place of wrath and tears Looms but the Horror of the shade, And yet the menace of the years Finds, and shall find, me unafraid. It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll. I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul

It's been a great day today, no reason smoking should have popped up more often than usual but it did. Was ok, I actually said out loud once today, I am a non smoker so I can't smoke, because only smokers do that. Then I came home and read all your stories! Each one brought something to my resolve, so thank you for sharing, I feel pretty good now - as a non smoker. x

Joe, what a heart felt piece of writing. Made me cry, but makes me stand strong and for that I thank you. x

Means a lot to hear peoples stories. I think we take something away from every single one. Powerful words Markus. x

Bandito, brilliant post, so many of us could have written it. I phoned my school buddy Lee this week and told him I'd quit, he was quite gushy for a bloke, just said wow I thought you were a "lifer", so did I...like you, I'm not. x

Brilliant news Soozie!! I lean away too, wow they smell when they talk to you straight after too those smokers! Wow!

We need more aussies Soozie :) Then you can relay. NOPE nope nope from me, going for newborn cuddles with my fella's new niece smelling lovely!! Have a fab day all.

Because my real name of Martine confuses folk, they're expecting some lilt of french/european and you should see their poor faces when a west London Cockney happens...it just all goes downhill. Not a posh european!