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Brilliant news she's been in contact, miss her on the board. I knew she had it covered! Hopefully it's making her hubby have a good think about smoking!

Aw Juan, where was the SOS?? I for one, would have loved to help you deal with that stress. But it's done now, you are done right, I mean climbing back on the horse, today is the new quit day?! I wish I could convey my strength in my quit, but it has to be yours babe, you must want it for you and your health. Today you can't run as well as you know you could, tomorrow you could get gum disease though, it recedes your gums and suddenly a tooth falls out (I know this I lived this, I don't want it for you)! Doreen faced having a foot amputated, can't run then Juan. Markus sat on an operating table having a heart procedure, he wasn't running far that day! There are many stories here, those are the first ones that came into my head.. You DESERVE more than this life you are giving yourself. You are not a smoker, you are an addict who will be stronger than your addiction. Now believe in yourself, take a breath, puff out your chest and walk forward into you new and better life!! Pretty please! x

Dreams are funny things. Smoking dreams (or water dreams when you're pregnant, due to the extra fluid you carry) are your normal run of the mill, life association dreams. If you have any others then I always think it's worth a look up. Your subconcious mind gets a load of grief but it's normally a message trying to work it's way into your concious thought process and it isn't straightforward, but there's loads of dream meaning sites online. And darn, wish I could spell concious lol. x

nope from me. Morning. x

I send my strength and love to you tonight Tracey and will light a candle for your Dad, happy birthday to him. They just didn't know, the lies! you will quit for him. x

This is the 3rd time today I have tried to answer this. I quit because I got scared. I am pretty ashamed I didn't quit for the children I love so much, or to set an example to others I love so long ago. I quit because it was beyond time and I had run out of excuses. I won't smoke again but will spend a lifetime trying to make up for being such a selfish idiot.

Becky's I hope you will join us. We are lonely in the looney bin alone :) Honestly, what's the worst that could happen, some crackpots might actually help you get your head in the right place to not be owned by nicotine, that's all. You were always strong enough to walk away, but with help, it's easier. x

I'm thinking eating sounds like a fine plan...in honestly I wouldn't of thought of it either lol. xx

wtg Tiff, I am sorry it was one of those days, I am delighted you plowed it down. That little internal voice is a swine, but you are stronger and I for one really believe you got this!! And anyway, you can't smoke cause I still have no idea what a "crawfish" is, or why you'd boil it to raise funds, or offer up your toe as some sort of right of passage lol. You have to stay quit so I can learn :) x

Brilliant post tracey and totally agree. I came looking for straight forward advice and support...ended up with people who I truly believe are the soul reason I managed to stay quit. Support is more crucial than I ever realized until I had it. x

Saw the stripe earlier, made me smile for you :) Like a boss, Juan! So pleased for you. Keep trucking on soldier, one step at a time! x

Pleased your covered dude. I was always a tough cookie even as a very slight and short landlady haha.

Well young fella me lad, I am pleased to hear my non smoking buddy is not smoking - the alternative is a bit weird, a smoking non smoker? No I don't think so. On a practical note I think is just a new, previously unfaced trigger as you suspect. May I suggest a bacon sarnie. It fixes most woes of the world, especially helpful in hangover situations :) Or from my landlady days 1/2 cider (sugar), bag of salt and vinegar crisps (salt) and a red bull chaser...

Agree completely. Still a work in progress but quitting has given me so much, I realize I can do what I set out to achieve now. x

30-40 per day, I also considered a one pack day a good day :huh: .

nope.

March 2...3....4 :) Doing it Juan. The only way there is, one foot in front of the other and carry on with life - whilst not putting anything in your mouth and setting fire to it! xx

yay baffled, brilliant news :) Congrats. xx

NOPE from me.

lol, kaboom! Nah, it has to be her choice of whether to talk to me or not. We are forced together so I can at least give her that space, it's respectful. Not saying I'm not gonna keep returning the allen carr book to her desk though ;)

Hi Juan, Hope you're feeling better. No offense taken at the crying like a girl comment, but I also hate to cry! It does calm down and become managable though. x

The problem seems to be she had a friend who was a social smoker but if not socialising, smoked 1 before bed... She is not that smoker, she was on 60+ a day but hasn't worked it out I guess. I'm worried if I call her out she will use it as an excuse. The Allen Carr book has been duly returned to the book shelf with "I must read that's". This forum, and others has been suggested, she apparently joined one on facebook where they are celebrating her week quit?!?! wtf? I also recommended whyquit.com which I made her suggest to a friend so at leastshe typed it and it may have sunk in. I've done all the leading I can do without taking over and I am re-assured of that. My problem now is face it down and risk going to where we were or let it ride and do the wish on a star option of at least she's smoking less. All that aside, I cannot believe she is asking me straight faced why she still has a cough!!

Thank you for all your answers. I am bothered of course but am clear her quitting is not my business. My quit was my choice and that stands firm. I get she doesn't want too but this is a nightmare. She has copd, she is doing pulmony restorative stuff as she can barely get about now without losing her breath. She is mad angry at herself all the time, but also feeling sorry for herself so won't try anything. Now, I am her carer, she is basically making this harder and I'm finding it hard to keep my temper for both of us, if that sounds partly selfish then so be it... I don't care, everything I do for me and my two young children basically has to revolve around her now, she won't accept any outside care/help and makes me feel guilty if I want to go anywhere or do anything without her...but she can't do a lot. However her smoking still has to be her choice, it really isn't my business and I personally would not ever take someone telling me what I could and couldn't do. Lol, really I would yell like a banshee if anyone tried. So thank you for justifying my right to be mad, but i need to keep my head down...and she is smoking a lot less right... but man, this is way harsh. And the perfume she's spraying around to cover the smell after is really awful every morning, roll on summer so I can open the door at least!! What I was looking for I got with the responses that said it's harsh but her stuff. xx

I can't get it out of my head and I know it's not my business!! My Mum is cheating, says she;s quit but is smoking after we have all gone to bed. Not much like 1-3ish but consistant...but saying she has quit!! Other people are quitting based on her being able to do it....but she's not doing it...I hate lies....this is making me really angry and I'm struggling to be sympathetic to "her random cough" and blah blah blah. Anyway someone please tell me to mind my own business before I say something :( Hate that she's still smoking, really gutted she's not telling me the truth... ah man, harsh!

I am totally bemused as to where you're going, but delighted you're not smoking lol. x