Reciprocity

Yes , I agree - there's different approaches to mentoring people along the path to quitting permanently. But; I also tend to agree with Sarge & Chrispsy's point of view that there are people who WANT to quit but they are just not committed enough to get the job done, at least at this time and that's too bad but it's just how it is. So, the question becomes what is the best approach to convincing these people to quit permanent. The soft touch approach or the hammer. I don't have the answer to that question but in my gut I believe those people are just not committed enough to get through the quitting struggles at this time regardless of the response from those of us who are committed to quitting. Some one correct me if I'm wrong in assuming that Sarge & Chrispy didn't go through the same struggles I did or any of us did. Of course they did. We all do! The difference is that some of us battled those struggles until we won the fight and others just gave up part way through. This addiction is the worst one in human history (I believe) and it's nasty business trying to quit regardless of your approach. It's not something that people who can't commit 100% want to venture into. Those people will look for whatever excuse seems legitimate to them in order to justify their relapse. Regardless of the approach we take to get them back on the path, I'm not sure it really makes a huge difference. You are either ready or; you're not! I personally don't like confrontation but I believe it's necessary to have some honest "in your face" truth when you're dealing with this kind of horrible addiction. We need both - the hammer & the "soft touch"! If there are some people who can't deal with that then so be it. We can't save every one. The person quitting has to do the heavy lifting for themselves in the end. I just want to say I appreciate all the input from members here. When I don't like your responses, I just ignore it. As Sarge would say - Easy Peasy :)

I think it's the "this is too hard and beside, that bad stuff will never happen to me" attitude. It catches up with all of us sooner or later unless we are strong enough to make a stand and thank God for sites like this that lend us the support we need to make it through this quitting process. It's not easy; that's for sure but in the end, it's so well worth the sacrifice! I can't imagine going back to smoking and I'm only 5 months quit. My only regret is that I didn't find this path sooner but, I guess we are all on our own individual time frame in terms of when we make the move to take back our lives and extend our lives at the same time :)

^^^ My cousin ..... Demon Pig :P

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Even though the cost of smokes just went up another $0.25/pack, it's not costing me that much to smoke :unsure:

^^^ Good to see you starting over again HN :) NOPE!

^^^ Yup - Timmies (Tim Horton's coffee) on the dash and a Moose racing you down the Hwy - lol

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Turkey (with stuffing, of course :P )

Yeah- I had that one too back in the day - smell me coming a block away. Brut and, Hi Karate - LOL Us "unattached" young dudes used to bath in that stuff :lol: Probably why I don't go near that stuff anymore - lol.

Good thing you don't smoke anymore :P

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Forgetting that you were ever a smoker is great Kenzie!! Best you could hope for. Probably a good thing that your are busy as that keeps you occupied and less focused on smoking issues. You do this for yourself but the positive ripple effects for your little one are a huge bonus too:) Great Job!!

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Who needs pavement!!

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Sorry, can't help ya. Don't wear that stuff - just underarm deodorant is all I roll with :) Maybe one of the younger guys could help, try Jules or Boo maybe.

NOPE!

Congratulations Jackie for reaching this amazing milestone - 6 months smoke free!! Be sure to treat yourself with something nice to mark the occasion then you can push forward toward that Lido Deck :)

Great job Dee! You've managed to build a really solid 7 month quit. Celebrate your new milestone today and guard that quit!

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So sorry to hear you gave in to the addiction HN :( Glad to hear that you are taking responsibility for what happened and more importantly, learned a very valuable lesson. Smoking doesn't make anything in your life better, just adds to your problems! Happy to hear you're going to start over again but you also need to reflect on what just happened and what you intend to do to avoid the same result this time around. Maybe post up something in the "Pre Respond to You Own SOS" thread on the SOS page on this board. That way, you can read that when you're feeling weak and need an immediate reminder of why you wanted to quit in the first place. You now even better understand just how strong and tricky this addiction is and how determined you need to be in order to beat it. We're here to support you but YOU have to do the actual quitting. Let's get this done!

Begonia Epilepsy

Yeah - we're just babies - lol. Interesting factoid about Canada .............