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So much pent up anger :lol: -3

Hey J5; how you doing?

What the hell? Isn't there some kind of limitation on wins per day or something? Is there no longer any empathy - no humanity? Sticks are people too!! 1

Yeah - you're so right about this. It's all about just doing it (quitting that is). It's not complicated. You just stop smoking - da!! The problem I think is like your friend, we tend to over think the whole process and that's when the horrible doubts start entering into the equation, especially if we are planning it like we would plan a vacation or some other special event in our lives. I had thought of quitting for probably 20 years. "I know I really should but ........ Well Christmas is coming and I don't want to be grumpy at Christmas ........ Summer is here and quitting now would ruin my summer fun. I mean, the list of excuses goes on and on. I'm sure you've all spoken most of them to yourselves at some point or other. For me, I don't know what it was exactly but when I decided to quit, it just seemed to happen naturally for me. I mean, it started as a realization one particular day that what I was doing was crazy and would most likely lead to my early demise. I quit the next day without any real planning and I felt even then that I just had to do this no matter what I would be confronted with. It almost immediately became a self challenge. Myself against the addiction (which I didn't even realize smoking was at the time - it was just a "habit"). I didn't really know if I would make it but I felt that I could. I was determined to do it. Every time I was close to giving up in the early part of my quit I reflected on where I was Jan. 28th (day before I quit) and where I had come to at that point and how hard it had been to get there. I just couldn't throw that all away. If I did, I somehow I knew I would never quit. I had to do this 1st time out of the gate or I would be lost to a shorter life filled with smoking. Then I found this support site and that, unknown to me at the time, was the last piece to my puzzle. The perfect ingredient found at the perfect time for me. So far, I'm good. I still have work to do but as I have noticed since the back half of the first month of my quit, things really do get better and easier with time. It's so very slow that you can't perceive that it's actually happening but it is. Slowly, very slowly, it all becomes easier and the challenges become less frequent and easier to deal with. That's the simple key to it all. Just commit to your quit completely from the start; keep that commitment as you struggle through the tough times early on and rely on others for your support.

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You chicks are giving me anxiety. I get a terrible sinking feeling every time I log into this game the past few days. Why do I keep logging in? -15

^^^^ Well done :) Just don't go back when "the stupid sister" is on duty :P

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It's a NOPE for me today too.

Congratulations Treetop on being 10 months smoke free :) You're closing in on that Lido Deck now. Almost there :)

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Sorry to hear you "wobbled" but in reality Jules, this was a relapse :( I'm very glad to hear you want to get back on track as a NON-SMOKER. Your life may depend on that one day. We are here as always to support you but you will have to do the hard work yourself. Understanding this addiction plus your own determination to beat it are both keys to being successful in your quit. You say you only had 10 cigarettes and you used to smoke 3 packs a day. Trust me when I say that if you do not get immediately back to no smoking, you will be at that 3 pack a day point before you know it. It's just a fact and you can read about that in many threads where people speak of their relapses back to smoking. Think again about the reason or reasons that brought you to the point of quitting before and if they are still true, rededicate yourself to quitting Also, do you know what the triggers were that made you smoke those 10 cigarettes? You will need to figure that out so it doesn't happen again this time around. This is a really hard thing you're doing here, as it is for all of us. You really need to make you quit the number 1 priority in your life, particularly for the initial few weeks and even months. If you don't, the addiction will seduce you back to feeding it's nasty needs. Please stay close to the board here too for support while you begin your new quit. Support is also key to a successful quit :) Sorry Jules if I sound a little harsh. I am not trying to be mean but this is serious stuff we are all dealing with here and we want you to be successful at quitting too.

Depending on how any rental agreement is worded regarding the deposit that was left ,you could probably not return the deposit until you paid for whatever cleaning of the cottage was necessary to get the cig. smell out. These problems go with being a landlord - these and even worse sometimes!

Yeah - no over reaction on your part. They were completely in the wrong and out of line. Clearly the manager must have been sleeping through the customer service training they would have received. Not sure if this is a privately owned place or part of a chain but there is likely someone higher than the manager available to lodge a complaint with perhaps? EC's suggestion above is also a good one. Social media is the place to expose unfair treatment these days. Gets a lot of attention but usually only when it's a bigger company. Still - you can warn off others from going there.

NOPE!

Congratulations on 10 months free of those nasty cigs.:) Wow, only 2 more months and we will be having that Lido Deck party :D Great Job SF!!

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oops .... my bad. It was the Bakon factor??? -12

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Oh, don't do that Rob :)