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Congratulations Kenzie on being smoke free for 1 month! This is the hardest month and you've done fabulously. Be sure to reward yourself today for this very special occasion then, onward to your second month :)

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Perhaps it's got nothing to do with quitting. Maybe it's this ???

And, Jklnhd ?? Not on for almost a week now - where you at Jd?

^^^ Yes. My point was to think about those occasions ahead of time and what unusual situations you might be exposed to. Also, know yourself and your quit. What are YOUR danger issues.

I had this symptom for pretty much my first full month of my quit. I really didn't like it as I was very unproductive at everything. Some say drinking more fruit juice will help with that foggy brain as it may have something to do with blood sugar levels. I never tried drinking more fruit juice so I can't comment directly on the benefit. All these symptoms will eventually pass though. You just need to keep reminding yourself of this. Also, be sure you are rid of all smoking materials. I'm not sure where you got your cigs for this relapse you had but you need to get rid of any still laying around within easy access to you.

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NOPE!

From your friends north of the border :)

I think all of us offer our support in our own way, We all do what we can and I don't think any one intends to be sarcastic or demeaning. We are all on the same journey and we rejoice in each others success and we are saddened by each others failures. It frustrates us almost as much as it frustrates the person who has relapsed because we all know just how close we have all been to giving in to the addiction at times during our quits - believe me, no one here wants any other person to fail. If you don't like the tone of another person;s comments, just ignore them. As I said, we all have different approaches to mentoring. You helpneeded are the same as all of us here. You are struggling to quit this horrible addiction and you WILL need support as one of your tools to win that fight so yes, stay here with us and show us just how strong you really are. We would all be thrilled to see you getting your one month smoke free post in the celebrations page. Let's get you to that point :)

Are you sure she didn't say:

I had chores to do today so guess I missed a proper spanking :P

^^ Yes we will but I fear there are some who will never get to where they need to be. I guess we can only do what we can here and celebrate the one's we have helped :) I get really stoked when I see someone come on here that actually makes it through the quitting process - whether you hang around or not - just quit!!

^^^ I choose - Permanent Quit!!!

Yes , I agree - there's different approaches to mentoring people along the path to quitting permanently. But; I also tend to agree with Sarge & Chrispsy's point of view that there are people who WANT to quit but they are just not committed enough to get the job done, at least at this time and that's too bad but it's just how it is. So, the question becomes what is the best approach to convincing these people to quit permanent. The soft touch approach or the hammer. I don't have the answer to that question but in my gut I believe those people are just not committed enough to get through the quitting struggles at this time regardless of the response from those of us who are committed to quitting. Some one correct me if I'm wrong in assuming that Sarge & Chrispy didn't go through the same struggles I did or any of us did. Of course they did. We all do! The difference is that some of us battled those struggles until we won the fight and others just gave up part way through. This addiction is the worst one in human history (I believe) and it's nasty business trying to quit regardless of your approach. It's not something that people who can't commit 100% want to venture into. Those people will look for whatever excuse seems legitimate to them in order to justify their relapse. Regardless of the approach we take to get them back on the path, I'm not sure it really makes a huge difference. You are either ready or; you're not! I personally don't like confrontation but I believe it's necessary to have some honest "in your face" truth when you're dealing with this kind of horrible addiction. We need both - the hammer & the "soft touch"! If there are some people who can't deal with that then so be it. We can't save every one. The person quitting has to do the heavy lifting for themselves in the end. I just want to say I appreciate all the input from members here. When I don't like your responses, I just ignore it. As Sarge would say - Easy Peasy :)

I think it's the "this is too hard and beside, that bad stuff will never happen to me" attitude. It catches up with all of us sooner or later unless we are strong enough to make a stand and thank God for sites like this that lend us the support we need to make it through this quitting process. It's not easy; that's for sure but in the end, it's so well worth the sacrifice! I can't imagine going back to smoking and I'm only 5 months quit. My only regret is that I didn't find this path sooner but, I guess we are all on our own individual time frame in terms of when we make the move to take back our lives and extend our lives at the same time :)

^^^ My cousin ..... Demon Pig :P

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Even though the cost of smokes just went up another $0.25/pack, it's not costing me that much to smoke :unsure:

^^^ Good to see you starting over again HN :) NOPE!

^^^ Yup - Timmies (Tim Horton's coffee) on the dash and a Moose racing you down the Hwy - lol

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