Reciprocity

Are you sure she didn't say:

I had chores to do today so guess I missed a proper spanking :P

^^ Yes we will but I fear there are some who will never get to where they need to be. I guess we can only do what we can here and celebrate the one's we have helped :) I get really stoked when I see someone come on here that actually makes it through the quitting process - whether you hang around or not - just quit!!

^^^ I choose - Permanent Quit!!!

Yes , I agree - there's different approaches to mentoring people along the path to quitting permanently. But; I also tend to agree with Sarge & Chrispsy's point of view that there are people who WANT to quit but they are just not committed enough to get the job done, at least at this time and that's too bad but it's just how it is. So, the question becomes what is the best approach to convincing these people to quit permanent. The soft touch approach or the hammer. I don't have the answer to that question but in my gut I believe those people are just not committed enough to get through the quitting struggles at this time regardless of the response from those of us who are committed to quitting. Some one correct me if I'm wrong in assuming that Sarge & Chrispy didn't go through the same struggles I did or any of us did. Of course they did. We all do! The difference is that some of us battled those struggles until we won the fight and others just gave up part way through. This addiction is the worst one in human history (I believe) and it's nasty business trying to quit regardless of your approach. It's not something that people who can't commit 100% want to venture into. Those people will look for whatever excuse seems legitimate to them in order to justify their relapse. Regardless of the approach we take to get them back on the path, I'm not sure it really makes a huge difference. You are either ready or; you're not! I personally don't like confrontation but I believe it's necessary to have some honest "in your face" truth when you're dealing with this kind of horrible addiction. We need both - the hammer & the "soft touch"! If there are some people who can't deal with that then so be it. We can't save every one. The person quitting has to do the heavy lifting for themselves in the end. I just want to say I appreciate all the input from members here. When I don't like your responses, I just ignore it. As Sarge would say - Easy Peasy :)

I think it's the "this is too hard and beside, that bad stuff will never happen to me" attitude. It catches up with all of us sooner or later unless we are strong enough to make a stand and thank God for sites like this that lend us the support we need to make it through this quitting process. It's not easy; that's for sure but in the end, it's so well worth the sacrifice! I can't imagine going back to smoking and I'm only 5 months quit. My only regret is that I didn't find this path sooner but, I guess we are all on our own individual time frame in terms of when we make the move to take back our lives and extend our lives at the same time :)

^^^ My cousin ..... Demon Pig :P

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Even though the cost of smokes just went up another $0.25/pack, it's not costing me that much to smoke :unsure:

^^^ Good to see you starting over again HN :) NOPE!

^^^ Yup - Timmies (Tim Horton's coffee) on the dash and a Moose racing you down the Hwy - lol

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Turkey (with stuffing, of course :P )

Yeah- I had that one too back in the day - smell me coming a block away. Brut and, Hi Karate - LOL Us "unattached" young dudes used to bath in that stuff :lol: Probably why I don't go near that stuff anymore - lol.

Good thing you don't smoke anymore :P

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Forgetting that you were ever a smoker is great Kenzie!! Best you could hope for. Probably a good thing that your are busy as that keeps you occupied and less focused on smoking issues. You do this for yourself but the positive ripple effects for your little one are a huge bonus too:) Great Job!!

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Who needs pavement!!

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Sorry, can't help ya. Don't wear that stuff - just underarm deodorant is all I roll with :) Maybe one of the younger guys could help, try Jules or Boo maybe.

NOPE!

Congratulations Jackie for reaching this amazing milestone - 6 months smoke free!! Be sure to treat yourself with something nice to mark the occasion then you can push forward toward that Lido Deck :)

Great job Dee! You've managed to build a really solid 7 month quit. Celebrate your new milestone today and guard that quit!