Reciprocity

Good job Diane! You seem to be right on track in this quitting thing. As others have said, time will work it's magic on getting you settled in and comfortable with your new, nonsmoking lifestyle. We all wish it was a quicker process but considering how long we conditioned ourselves as smokers, it shouldn't come as any surprise that it takes awhile to reprogram our brains. Just keep doing what you're doing and you'll be fine

#1 is the Lie!

Great decision NNC! Quitting is the best think you will ever do for yourself! Read all you can here and watch as many Joel videos as you can. Educating yourself about this addiction is one of the greatest tools you will have to lead you to freedom. Take it 1 minuet, one hour and one day at a time initially. Just pledge your NOPE every day (Not One Puff Ever). It s that simple (not easy but simple). You will have a legion of people here to support you and answer any questions you might have along the way. Let's get this done for good!

LOL - Having some supper - sorry. (Pig pallets and dinner scraps from the human's table). You're Up Jillar!! #1 (LIE) - No fear pf heights. Have sky dived twice in the days when you went on your own, not strapped to a seasoned jumper. Would have gone again but my chute was packed backwards on my second jump and I landed in a cow field a few miles away from the drop zone (Lots of cows in the field too!!) Cut my loses then and there. No more tempting fate by jumping out of a plane for me #2 - Yes, moved back into the parents house twice. Both time as I was making the transition from working in the USA and Canada. Not sure who it pissed of more ..... me or them? I expect them #3 - I managed the campaign for a candidate running in a municipal election for city councilor years ago and he did win! Turns out, he was not only a real A-hole but a heavy cocaine user to boot so we parted ways. He went on to even greater heights in Provincial politics later on.

1. I have extreme acrophobia (fear of heights). 2. I moved back home to my parents house twice for brief periods after leaving home originally. 3 I once managed a successful political campaign.

^^^ I'm a decent downhill skier but I tried snowboarding once using rental equipment. That stuff was returned within the hour. Almost broke my ass several times - that was it! Not for me

Yes! Living this for 2.5 years now. Many others longer. Excitement & disappointment at every turn. You never know what will happen but there's no better feeling then when you absolutely know someone has made it !

Thanks for all the valuable input fellow quitters I appreciate every comment. I'm still a bit on the fence about this but likely wom't bring it up if not in a perfect situation. I'll see how things go next time out and will let y'all know

#2 is the lie cuz snowboarding is were it's at these days. (and. it's the only one left?)

Guess it's best to keep my yap shut and wait until he inquires about it, if he does. Probably nothing to be gained by me initiating the conversation as I do agree that people have to want it for themselves and you can't provide them with that desire by preaching to them.

My answer is YES to all!

Geez! I wanted to pick that one as the lie because I figured those people were all done by like 1930 or so

I guess the reason I asked the question in the first place is what is embodied in your statement @Martian5: "they may have to learn on their own which most quitters have done". Yes, I eventually woke up eventually too but now wish I had years earlier. I guess it's in most of us to want to help others we care about with a wake-up call. That's why this is a tough one to give a "correct" answer to that will apply to the majority of people. I really do think this guy is heading down a road to somewhere I don't want to see him go & I just believe he will eventually regret not waking up sooner

My vote is .................... Jillar's running out of lies!!

Here's a link. Maybe this will help? https://uqr.me/qr-code-generator/blog/best-qr-code-readers/

@Sazerac, that's a great idea but the logistics of sending cards worldwide is an issue. It might have to be just a digital message that people can download to either their phone or to their printer to print out hard copies. I don't know how critical image sharpness for the QR codes is for reproduction on say an ink-jet printer.

Your response is interesting in a number of ways. I'm not sure I really understood the personal implications of smoking when I was a smoker. Oh sure, I knew all the statistics and had heard all the horror stories of what smoking had done to people but I was completely in denial I think. Not me - I'm special! Maybe - just maybe if someone I respected talked to me in a caring way about what their experience had been, before and after, then maybe I would have at least given it some thought? I agree, that talk would not have made me quit but start the thought process maybe? Maybe the approach next time is; "Hey Tom! Did you realize I quit smoking?" Then just see what the response is? Anyway, good food for thought.

Yes - it's the QR code you're referring to: I'm not techie either but once you have produced a QR code you can either download an app to read it or if your have an IPhone, I believe there's a built-in reader. You could convey the same info. by handing over a piece of paper with the QTrain website hhtp on it but using the QR code would be way cooler, depending on the demographics of who you are dealing with

You're talking about a card with a QR code on it? I wonder if it's possible to create and post a QR (quick response) code then print it out yourself and have it readable through the printout - or, send the image to your phone so you can whip it out and say, here. I'll send this to you so you can can check it out?

Yesterday I went fishing with a friend of mine who I hadn't seen in a few years. We used to go fishing pretty often until life got in the way. I knew he was a smoker of both cigarettes and pot (he LOVES his pot!!). Last time we were together I was a smoker too (cigarettes primarily). I was curious to see if he would say anything to me about why I wasn't smoking. Hey! We're stuck together in a 12 foot aluminum boat 8 km's (5 miles) out on Lake Erie for 6 hours so talk is gonna happen when we're not reeling in a fish! So he says nothing to me about why I was no longer smoking. I watch him going about 1 to 1 on the joints and cigarettes. I didn't say anything to him about his smoking but did notice him coughing and hacking, more when he was smoking the pot than when he was smoking cigarettes but still ..... there was clearly a lung issue going on there. This guy is probably mid-40's, overweight and still a heavy smoker when you combine both the cigs and the pot. I'm just wondering what others might do in a similar situation? Start a conversation about smoking in general or just remain silent unless the other person brings up the subject? I don't want to be one of those reformed smokers who pesters people about smoking but I also don't like seeing friends going down a path I know only leads to a bad place. What do think you would have done in the same circumstances? The reason I ask now is we will probably be going fishing again this year before the lakes freeze over. I will therefore have another opportunity to either do nothing or maybe say something? Oh yeah! We caught 5 decent size Walleye yesterday. They are a nice eating fish for those who don't know what a Walleye is. Moist, tender, non-fishy tasting white meat fish.

I'll take #0 (is that an option here?)

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True! TNP has caught a fish in the past year?

Nope!

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