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I'm pretty sure it's already too late for him in terms of some sort of lung issues. I noticed this year he's coughing a lot more than he ever did before yet his consumption has not reduced. As you well know, continuing along that road will only make things worse ... much worse. I'm afraid he may be someone who just doesn't have it in him to put up with the initial sacrifices and do the really hard work it takes to quit successfully. His life situation has been such that he's never had to do that in other areas of his life. (Dad/Mom own a company where he has a job - notice I didn't say 'works'? I wonder if parents who do that sort of thing with their kids, protecting them from life, ever understand that they're doing them a huge disservice? Adversity builds character!)

Yesterday I went fishing with a long time buddy. We don't see each other much these days cuz we live a good 1.5 hour drive apart but we try & get out fishing once a year at least. I drove to his place and we left from there to the boat launch which is about an hour & a half drive. I know he smokes but I don't usually drive in the same vehicle as him so no biggie but yesterday I was in his truck so his rules I suppose. I wasn't gonna say anything but oh man, the smell of those cigarettes were really quite strong. I used to kind of like the smell of freshly smoked cigs but not anymore. They were pretty disgusting 🤢 Not only does he smoke cigarettes but he alternates between those and smoking'joints. I know he's a pot smoker too but again ... when you're right beside him in the cab of a truck ... WOW, overwhelming! And here's the other thing I didn't know, he now vapes as well 😬 I was sort of amazed at the way he coordinated it all. When to light a smoke, when to smoke a doobie and when to suck on the vape pen. Of course I didn't say anything cuz as we all know, talking to any smoker about their indulgence never goes well. They just shut down and shut you out so there's really no point but, he did ask me at one point if I had used any product to help me quit or if I just went cold turkey. I told him my story and basically just told him there's no magic potion that's gonna do the work for you. You really, really have to want to quit and put in the work for the long haul. I kind of gathered he was starting to think about quitting. I certainly hope so because he's in his mid-50's now and has been smoking ever since I've known him. I think he's got some health issues now and they are likely linked directly to smoking but he's pretty hard-core so it's not gonna be easy for him and that bothers me cuz he's a bit of a dreamer ... focus & hard work are NOT his forte 😞

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I never cared for the stuff myself but that was decades ago the only time I tried it and it was very hard to chew and tasted bad to me but hey; if it helps you through the early days then no harm in giving it a try. Just know that whatever quit aids you might try, you'll have to wean yourself off those at some point in the future but some people feel that it's easier to have some aid product in the early days then wean off it later when confidence is higher. In the end there's no magic product that will take away the hard work we all have to do in order to quit successfully long term. No short cuts there but as I said before, some find it helpful to use nicotine replacement products early on in their quit. Many roads lead to Rome. Doesn't matter which one you choose as long as you get there!

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OO Nothin out there but sticks @Brioski Best tread carefully 😯

Sorry to hear Can't imagine how crushed you must feel. Good to hear you're not giving up and are ready to start again. Hope there was something to be learned for you in all this?

GM - dude!! I didn't realize you had been quit that long but that's fabulous!!! Hope you have a Great Smoke-Free Day 🙌

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