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Well, it seems to me that everyone on here has all ready quit. This doesnt help me. sorry. I have too much pressure going on now to handle cold turkey. I will not be able to function and possibly lose my job. This isnt practical to me, also guilt tripping someone to quit doesnt work either or shaming a person for this. Telling to just quit is not helping at all.

Thank you everyone for your help and the videos. It's funny but I'm finding a lot here with in my personal struggle that is showing me that I'm not alone. I'm finding for now that I cant just quit cold turkey. I feel seriously that I just cant handle it. I am how ever working with my self patiently and doing things such as, instead of smoking a whole cigarette when I feel I have to have one, I will only smoke 3 or 4 drags and then put it out. The other day in this afternoon time I smoked 2 , today I smoked one by dividing the cig. in half and I felt fine with it. I felt like I could cope just with 3 or 4 drags just fine. Is this an ok way towards quitting? Does this process have to be so horrible and painful?? Does it get easier the closer you get to , or what I mean, does it get easier as your intake goes down. I quite personally think it has for me. My goal now is to stop smoking whole cigarettes. To put it out way before even the mid way point. Im sure there is more then one way to quit and it's different for everyone. Someone here mentioned finding the things you enjoy doing, doing these things when you feel you want to smoke. I know that there is an actual addiction going on in my body but I cant help but to think that also a large part of this problem is psychological. I have all ready cut down from 2 packs a day to around 9 cigs a day. My next aim is to stop smoking whole cigs. which I started to day and it feels ok. I feel ok. I feel like I can function. But going cold turkey at this point to me feels like drowning in a pool of water. ,like I cant function or focus on anything. It feel like my whole life is going to go down the drain and I think it would if I couldnt take this gradually. Its just too much at this point, but not too much to taper off. Is this an ok tactic?

Im new here. Ive been smoking for about 38 years. Ive been a 2 pack a day person for a long time as well. Now I have cut down to about 9 cigs. a day. Im having problems getting beyond this. Ive been working at this for aboiut 3 months now. My partner doesnt really understand, he thinks I should just be able to quit, just like that. Im tierd of sneaking around corners and knowing he can smell smoke on me anyways. I also know that quitting is something I have to do for myself and not anybody else. I get anxiety attacks and want to smoke. Im pretty sure this is one of my triggers. Pychologically as far as I can tell my reasons for wanting to smoke go much deeper. If I feel vulnerable, I want to smoke. It's a coping mechanism obviously. I need advise on how to find other coping skills to depend on instead of smoking. Like I said Im a newbie. I need all the advise I can get. and friends going through the same thing. Thank you