Hello All -
My name is Morgan and I just found this message board. I have been smoking on an off for about 9 years. Since I was 20! I am going to turn 30 in about 6 months and I want this problem in the past before I get there. It is typically like a 1 year on, one year off, etc - I have quit many times for a long period of time... but then one day something will happen and I'll think - I NEED one right now! And I give in because what the hey! I'll never get hooked like the last 2,500 times i have smoked after quitting, said the same thing, and got hooked! :blink:
Anyway - I had officially quit on November 9th but then did the scenario above about 2 week ago when I found out my husband (Who was supposed to quit at the same time) - had been cheating and hiding it. I then said I would rather him smoke out in the open then hiding his continuation of the habit and always feeling antsy to leave to do random things - just as an excuse to sneak away. Granted - it isn't really that easy to be a sneaky smoking.. because you SMELL like it.. kind of gives you away. I had just been ignoring it until his anxiety was front and center in all our interactions.
BUT although our relationship is better (without the secret cigarette outings) the cigarettes were back in the house and after about a week I caved! I am pretty disappointed in myself - but ultimately i threw myself back into the cycle. It has only been a week or so and I've been having one every few days - but today I am smoking my last and washing my hands of this habit!
I am so happy to find this support form! I think the thing I really lack is some true support. For the most part I don't really have too many friends to help me work through this or understand what being a smoker and giving it up is like. I also now find any help from my husband to be a bit hypocritical. Like "you really need to stop smoking!" followed-up with "I'm going outside for a smoke" - it just doesn't really have the same effect! Lol :D
So TODAY is my quit day! Thank you all for reading my little blurb - I look forward to interacting with all of you.
Thanks!
Morgan