Welcome to QuitTrain, Control Freak. I'm really sorry about the rough times you are going through but I am glad you have decided to quit smoking.
A lot of great advice has already been given so I'll just add....
...I really like your name. If you like being in control, you will find quitting smoking very rewarding in the long term. As smokers, we were all slaves to feeding the nicotine addiction. Breaking free of that addiction means gaining large control of your life back. One of the huge benefits to quitting smoking is not having your life focused on getting your next nic fix. That new-found freedom and control is wonderful.
Welcome aboard. It is good to have you here.