Donotwannasmoke

Hello campers, I more than survived my camping weekend away, it was more relaxing than I ever imagined. There were 'breaks' in the bar during bingo for those that needed it, I happily kept the children entertained whilst others took their 'break', infact, I spent every minute with them, no hiding behind the tent (how sad!), no extra long toilet trips, no passive smoking for them, just a simple, fun weekend away! I do feel a little disappointed that I felt like I needed the vapour in the evening, something I will need to address as really don't want to be reliant on anything and have that panic feeling when you go out without something. Still, I won't give myself a hard time, at this moment I have only one rule....NOPE! My husband gave me some praise last night, he is now seriously considering stopping and has promised not to smoke on holiday, brilliant, I wasn't expecting that. Happy days! It's not easy but I'm giving it my all

Thanks Nancy x

Struggling, hence on here....liking this post because it's exactly how I feel, almost 3 weeks in, can't give in now, but so easy, the cigs are just out there, by the back door (husband smokes)......Disappointed with myself with how much I want one, been fine all week. Bed time!!!!

Decided to log everything, I'm writing a food diary, a gym diary, a smoking diary......rather productive actually, only takes 5 mins a day but I'm learning a lot through it. I have become obsessed by the gym, doing weights for the first time in my life, seriously, in two weeks (I'm going every day) cannot believe the change in my body, I have back problems so i have a mobility programme, I feel quite strong. Normally I would do a 30 mile bike ride, or train for half marathon without spending anytime in the gym, hence I then suffer with muscle strain of some sort....now I'm getting stronger I feel confident in entering some events next year. I went to the neighbours tonight, they are Italian, we cooked, we ate, we drank, we had fun..without smoking! I did think about it and my husband kept disappearing, but I didn't have to interrupt the evening with me popping out constantly. Staying focused..swimming tomorrow, with more lung capacity than usual. Being honest, still wanna fag! :-(

I've been to a festival today with family and friends, I didn't mind the smell of smoke from others wafting my way but all in all it was no problem, I drove so I wouldn't drink which was helpful. I'm noticing people smoking so much now, first I think "ooh that looks nice" then I think "but I won't poison myself today!" Feeling rather chuffed today. I'm also concentrating at looking at the non-smokers, are they enjoying themselves any less because they are not smoking? Of course not. Today was a good day :-)

Congrats on your smobriety, fantastic your finding it easy, keep up the good work. Nope

Hi, This post is brilliant!, really helped me tonight. My In-laws are wonderful, loving, caring people, they love to cook and always provide a great spread at least three times a year.....I generally get a little grumpy whilst driving there because I know I can't smoke (I probably could have done and been my true self but really didn't want to hurt their feelings, as far as they knew, I gave up 8 years ago!). I will escape!

Thanks, weekends are sooooo hard! Work all day, gym then arrive home where loads needs doing......feeling cross, angry, tired, fed up. I'm on the vapour. Cross that I feel cross, this is my choice, I wanna do it, but feeling hard done by tonight - how stupid I know.

Thank you so much Marti, really, thank you!

Thanks everyone, It is getting easier, that's what I'm telling myself! (because it's not), back on the vapours tonight - got home really late as a colleague called in sick, no cover as usual. However, focusing on the downward slides too (Marti! ;-)) good tip......so determined to do this, it is taking me an hour a day to focus, re-think, read etc but a very worthwhile hour indeed! Hanging on in there :-/

Hello, So far, so good! By the way I have not yet fallen into temptation, why did I type 'yet" hmmmm - dislike! re-type, I have not fallen into temptation. However, my thoughts are constantly on smoking, which isn't completely abnormal as I have realised they always were, I never really smoked in the day due to the nature of my job, once home my daughter needs me so I would usually have to wait until the evening anyway, by which time it would feel like taking off a very tight, uncomfortable shoe and pure relief when I could smoke (Allen Carr's analogy). Therefore, I would be looking forward to something all day, and now I'm not, but I am ok with it thanks to this fantastic site, I am reading on here everyday reminding myself why I am now a non-smoker. I am not convinced I believe myself to be a non-smoker, wondering when it will be that a cave in, I will keep listening to the sensible part of me and still take one day at a time as it is early days. Already seen some benefits such as spending more time with my daughter, feel cleaner, skin has improved already I'm sure of it and I am coping ok, even my husband popping outside every 20mins for a smoke isn't affecting me too much. I know we are supposed to carry our lives on as normal but for the time being I don't wish to be tempted by evenings out which I know will include wine consumption for me so have decided on the gym tomorrow night and I will be designated driver to a sausage and beer festival on Sunday. Off to bed, feeling productive! :)

Hi Marti, Today is a very good day thank you for asking, I don't get home til 8pm on a Monday so although I usually look forward to coming home and enjoying a couple of cigs, I barely thought about it, how great is that! By the time I'd eaten, watched a program I wanted to see, tidied up it was time for bed, ok so I wouldn't usually be in bed as early as this but I can't smoke here!! I told my Mum today, I really wanted to wait a bit longer until I had a few weeks under my belt but couldn't help myself, she looked at me as if she knew I meant it this time (she has heard me say I was gonna quit on many occasions). A proud moment, I'd hate to tell her I started again, but that's not going to happen. Evenings are definitely a trigger but I realise distraction is the key, perhaps I should write a list of distractions, with the schools breaking up for summer this week it means my daughter will be up later so I'll plan some nice things to do with her, that'll help. First camping trip in 2 weeks but am going with a non-smoker, I'll still need my vapour though, not sure why but I usually smoke loads whilst camping. Although I am thinking positive and besides, that's 2 weeks away, still taking it day by day at the moment. Tina

NOPE! :D Day 8 - how do you guys get the timeline banner?

Thanks Ria, he does feel awful! I hope he tries again soon, he'll get lots of encouragement from me. I too have a sneaky suspicion I'll succeed!

Thanks, all good advice as expected! Feel like I have let myself down!! Great day, great evening! Now spoilt because everyone is in bed, felt desperate, reached for the 'smoking box' and have had a few puffs on a vapour! :unsure:

NOPE! :D DAY 7

I don't want to post as feel like a pest but your all so welcoming! Had a super workout tonight, refuelled with a super healthy dinner, salmon & veg, lovely BUT the wine went well with it too, wine is my major trigger, they go hand in hand, ok Tina so don't drink the wine, but I enjoy it and would like to enjoy a glass of wine without the association of a cig to go with it, Allen Carr suggests we should just do as we normally do!. The difference between last night and tonight is I came very close to having a puff last night, tonight is also challenging but I know I'm not going to have one, hence I'm on here, yes, to be honest, I want one....but I don't need it! Another early night for me tonight. Got a great day in store tom, brunch with the girls, gym & table tennis with little one, that'll keep me busy. Had my daughters friend over to play tonight to watch the classic 'the railway children' may sound meaningless but I watched it with them without any interruptions! One day at a time, camping season coming up, bit worried!

Hello and thanks for the replies I got to S.O.S board last night, such a helpful site, last night was a huge hurdle but one I crossed, I've been fine all day as I knew I would be, it's the evenings I struggle with. Anyway, I'm Tina and have been a smoker for 25 years starting at the tender age of 13, when I was ten years old I told my dad I would smoke when I'm older as I loved the smell on his hands, he is and always has been a social smoker, if dad was smoking that usually meant he was having a drink which in turn meant we were having a social gathering of some sort, therefore i guess it had a positive linked to it. I have decided to be a non-smoker mainly for me and my daughters sake, I want what every mother does, to be there for her for as long as I can, I have hidden it from her so far (although she probably knew) and I can't stand the thought of hiding behind a hedge for part of our family holiday hiding or waiting til she goes to bed as too uncomfortable, I look forward to getting to know you all more and already can't thank you enough for the support given. Tina

Morning, Feeling pretty happy this morning, so pleased I came onto this site as I know that if I hadnt I would have had one. The support on here is better than any nrt! My husband is supportive in many ways but not this one, he is a heavy smoker and if I'm smoking then it kinda gives him free reign to smoke (heavily). I don't say anything, he has to do it for himself, he did quit for 3 years after reading the Allen Carr book but sadly had that one puff at a bbq! I'm looking forward to the gym later and spending the evening with my daughter and not hiding away from her in the garden! Thanks, I can do this! Tina

Feeling 'safe' in bed now, keep reading the messages, reminding myself why I quit, honestly didn't think I'd get through today so so pleased I came on here. Working all day tomorrow so that'll be fine, just the evening to cope with, decided to go straight to the gym after work so that'll help. Thanks again

Wow! You lot have no idea (actually you probably do) how helpful you have been tonight, thank you. God damn 'junkie lizard brain' loved that!

Hi, Struggling big time, only on day 5 - been on a high all week thinking/feeling like a non-smoker then bang! This evening didn't quite go to plan (understatement) now just desperate to open the back door and smoke, smoke, smoke! I know it won't change the evening but I'm so upset (the husband has just had one, doesn't help!) Had a fantastic gym induction this morning, felt great, now I feel almost in pain, how stupid is that!? Tina