MarylandQuitter

Bravo!! :)

Relapses are always planned and I'm so glad that you posted this because if you continue with this notion that smoking is going to somehow give you stability or that you're going to be comfortable with yourself again if you smoke, well, we all know where this kind of thinking leads to. Is it possible that you're still believing that smoking somehow benefits you? There is no benefit to smoking. None.

I'm actually in Havana right now and need to climb to the top of the church. lol

We just bought my son an XBOX One and although he has Madden 15 figured out already, it's hard as heck to learn the stupid controller. We got the bundle with Assassin's Creed Black Flag and also Unity and right now I'm learning Black Flag because I love to read about pirates, whaling, and especially privateering. :) Very cool game, even though I don't know what I'm doing...yet. :)

The Dead. It's on tonight. :)

This is a very important point about thinking that you knew at some point that you would go back to smoking. I think this is the reason for many early relapses. Then, you took control of your life and shoved the cigarettes back to hell where they belong. I guess what I take away from your comments is that if you're going to have a successful quit (never to take another puff,ever), you can't straddle the fence. You have to make a firm decision to quit and stick with it no matter what. You know what, I think quitting was easier than becoming addicted in the first place. My first cigarette as a preteen tasted like crap, made me feel like that and I did not like it. But I wanted to be a smoker so I kept at it until I was conditioned to be a full-fledged addict. In comparison, quitting was much easier because I felt better when I quit!

Evelyn, check in every so often to keep your mind focused on your quit if you need to. Please post in this thread as often as you need. No matter what, don't take a puff!! Come here instead. Besides, you're so much stronger than you were a few months ago I think you may just find this situation easier than you think. :)

I can definitely relate. I had a smoking dream a few months ago and it was so real that I was reading the forum here for a few minutes before that feeling that I smoked finally left. It wasn't until my strong cup of perfectly brewed coffee sparked me back to life that I knew all was well and so was my quit. :) Dreams can be so real and smoking dreams are no different but have powerful effect on us because we place such high importance and have much pride in our quits. Dreams Of Smoking This video discusses the common experience of dreaming about smoking after quitting. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_gZx_6hq0I Related article: The smoking dream http://www.ffn.yuku.com/topic/12468

So many times smokers are afraid or discouraged to try quitting because they hear horror stories of how awful withdrawal is but in reality, things are rarely as bad as we build them up to be in our minds. You could tried to quit in the past and found it difficult but this time it could be easy. The opposite if also true but make this your last quit and you'll never have to quit again. Some people who quit say they will never smoke again simply because they don't want the first fews days of quitting. My first quit was pretty easy and when I relapsed for ~one week, I found it harder to quit! The pull of the addiction was very, every intense and it actually scared the heck out of me because I had never felt the addiction so powerful before. I knew that I had to quit that night or else I could run the risk of being a smoker for the rest of my life, shorter as it would no doubt be.

There were no "cozy time with a fag". It was all an illusion created by withdrawal from nicotine. Remember, as a smoker you're in a constant state of withdrawal. Trust me, it's all a big illusion as there is nothing comforting or cozy about inhaling smoke filled with poison into your lungs. Juts because your friend may smoke around you *might* trigger an urge, just expect that it will so you're not caught off guard. Expect, Detect, Reject. The Urge Hits This video discusses options former smokers have when the urge for a cigarette hits. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJIQ3hdT6zw Other related resources: Craves or thoughts that occur over time https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P7Z98... Fixating on a cigarette Video discusses how people often fixate on the desire to have "a good" cigarette. http://youtu.be/OZLJ_nlkUCQ

Every Quit Is Different Video discusses how it is impossible to determine with any certainty what kind of withdrawals or problems a person may encounter when quitting because every quit is different. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYHkaGt-YhE Related videos: Comparing quits with others https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IIlyD... Amount smoked https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d8MEE... The fear of failure https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q_64R... If I relapse I will smoke until it kills me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCRLo... Quitting smoking is more doable than most people think https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gtXG... What is withdrawal really like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WbEoM... Related article: Every Quit is Different http://www.ffn.yuku.com/topic/11549

http://www.quittrain.com/topic/3487-wk47-group-discussion-video-every-quit-is-different/

New Reactions To Anger Video discussing why many people find themselves encountering exaggerated anger responses after initial smoking cessation. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KC8wRhjLFL4 Related article: New reactions to anger as an ex-smoker http://www.ffn.yuku.com/topic/12462 Related videos: The emotional stages of loss Smoking does not help you overcome stress

So glad that you didn't toss in the towel go back to a full-fledged life of smoking. Way to get back in the saddle, or as we say, back on the train. :) What led up to your relapse? We will cut through to the issue so you can be better prepared. Many congrats for owning your relapse, getting back to the business of quitting right away and understanding that a puff caused you to relapse. If you have any leftover cigarettes, break them apart and toss them. Get rid of all your smoking paraphernalia. Are you ready to give this quit 100% of everything you have? Are you ready to protect your quit no matter what happens? Don't Let A Slip Put You Back To Using This video stresses the importance of drawing a clear line in the sand regarding the issue of whether or not to take a puff. Another alternate title for for this video could have been "should I reset my quit meter?" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0cfxzB804S4&index=3&list=PL4F05C03D0F9B86DB Related article: http://www.ffn.yuku.com/topic/11411 Related videos: Get right back in the saddle http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BcEzzF... "I know I will quit again" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tHp8yF... "If I relapse I will smoke until it kills me." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCRLo9... Never take another puff http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TYNWI8... "Maybe a puff isn't that big of a deal?" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gLxFE9...

lol That was a good one.

The tickers are definitely not keeping track of money saved from not smoking properly. It's being looked at. :) A work in progress and once this issue is solved, they should be good.

This is a big day for you! Very proud of how well you're doing. :)

Sorry I'm late (my kids were making me play songs while they danced :) ) Completely normal and to be expected. From now on, Expect, Detect and then Reject these cravings. These craves are your minds way of telling you "Hey! I'm missing something! Where is that poison that I'm used to getting?" By the way, you're doing great! NTAP, NOPE, NOSE, EDR & NAFCEFA! :) The Urge Hits This video discusses options former smokers have when the urge for a cigarette hits. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yJIQ3hdT6zw Other related resources: Craves or thoughts that occur over time https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P7Z98...

Actually no. I have several pairs. Which color do you prefer or are you going straight up hillbilly? lol

That would need to be something that was written into the software. ^_^

Welcome, John and congratulations on the best decision to take your freedom back. :) How To Quit Smoking This video lays out simple tips for people wanting to quit smoking. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l27zWo7hbcY Related resources: Quit smoking tip sheet http://whyquit.com/joel/Joel_03_01_ti... Why Do Smokers Smoke? Video discusses how nicotine addiction causes cigarettes and nicotine products to incorporate into almost every aspect of a smoker's life. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S9AmZiI3rNI

I would guess that the overwhelming reason that most people don't attempt or delay quitting smoking is out of fear. They fear that withdrawal is unbearable. They fear how hard it is because others told them it was. They're afraid because they think they'll be unable to cope with stress, enjoy alcohol, a meal, a night out with friends, morning coffee and the biggest one, the fear of ditching a familiar friend. Of course we all know that these are all lies but until the lies are exposed and you experience how much better life is after quitting, these fears stop a lot of people from taking the plunge. The Fear Of Success This video explains how many people are fearful of attempting a quit because they realize that they may actually succeed. The attached videos examine the reasons for this fear and will help smokers to understand that the fears they have of their lives being ruined are based on the false assumption that cigarettes were helping them to live as opposed to recognizing that smoking was ruining their lives in many ways. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hHhWSOsWoBE&list=PLCDB8BA311D538113&index=9 Related videos: Resources explaining interaction between nicotine and stress https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHbpX... Quitting smoking can make you calmer, happier and healthier http://youtu.be/7K038NtxO6o "I'll never be as productive again if I quit smoking" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8awQ... The Fear Of Relapsing Video explains how many people are fearful of even attempting a quit because they are convinced that even if by some miracle they succeed, they will likely lose the quit at some future point in time. This video explains why they may have this fear and what resources we have to deal with it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IoWuSG8W_2E Related videos: Complacency https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MZSkt... Lost long term quits https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BJeHt... I know I will quit again https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tHp8y... Past successful quits https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39An4... If I relapse I will smoke until it kills me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UCRLo... Smoking a cigarette will help me to secure my quit https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YY6tA...

Done. Now just create your blog and I can help you with the rest. :) FYI, I deleted all the links. :)

I don't think you ever created a blog and instead just hit "blog this" because your blog is external only. I'll delete the blog and you can create a new one and then blog each entry so it's all in your blog. Once that's done, you can add all your new entries to your blog instead of this thread. :)

Good to see you, Rob. Congrats on on 650 days. :)