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Hi, Not sure what happened to Friday October 25th... But NOPE to today and NOPE and no patches on October 26th.

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NOPE!! Oh boy did I want one today, but I didn't have one, so it's definitely a NOPE!!

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G’day NOPE .....Not One Puff Ever.... (replace Ever with Min,Hour, Day as required.)

Over my four years of being on support forums I've seen a few people who just couldn't seem to get their sticky quit the first time. They start so gung-ho and post daily getting and even offering support from and to fellow quitters. Then one day they are gone...…….. When they resurface it's usually with tail between their legs hoping for the same support they received before they relapsed. And with the exception of some tough love, because some people just need that, they get the same level of support as they got the first time. We get it, quitting is hard for a lot of us and it sucks. Some even make new accounts out of embarrassment of their failed quits thinking too that perhaps a new account will help them get their forever quit. The problem with this is two-fold. One, you MUST OWN YOUR RELAPSE. It's the only way you can look back and see what you can do differently to help get your sticky quit. Two, it's not fair to the members who welcome you as a new quitter instead of who you are. You see the support you are going to be offered as a relapser compared to as a new quitter is quite different. Yes, we may get short at times but it's only because we care and don't want to see anyone have to continually put themselves through the hardest first few weeks of quitting over and over again. Yes, it may be embarrassing but we can offer you tips and clues based on our own relapses or on how we saved our quits from a relapse. There is nothing better for me than to see a chronic relapser finally get their forever quit. So own your relapse, come back on and lets get this done!

Congratulations on such an epic quit. It's because of you and the other quittrain long term quitters that inspires the rest of us. I grateful for you and everyone else here that gives me the strength to stay quit. Thank you.

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jillar Quit Date: May 29, 2016 Posted June 19, 2020 Over my four years of being on support forums I've seen a few people who just couldn't seem to get their sticky quit the first time. They start so gung-ho and post daily getting and even offering support from and to fellow quitters. Then one day they are gone...…….. When they resurface it's usually with tail between their legs hoping for the same support they received before they relapsed. And with the exception of some tough love, because some people just need that, they get the same level of support as they got the first time. We get it, quitting is hard for a lot of us and it sucks. Some even make new accounts out of embarrassment of their failed quits thinking too that perhaps a new account will help them get their forever quit. The problem with this is two-fold. One, you MUST OWN YOUR RELAPSE. It's the only way you can look back and see what you can do differently to help get your sticky quit. Two, it's not fair to the members who welcome you as a new quitter instead of who you are. You see the support you are going to be offered as a relapser compared to as a new quitter is quite different. Yes, we may get short at times but it's only because we care and don't want to see anyone have to continually put themselves through the hardest first few weeks of quitting over and over again. Yes, it may be embarrassing but we can offer you tips and clues based on our own relapses or on how we saved our quits from a relapse. There is nothing better for me than to see a chronic relapser finally get their forever quit. So own your relapse, come back on and lets get this done! Link to original post: https://www.quittrain.com/topic/14023-owning-your-relapse/

Thank you @jillar... this is an importnat message for me. Yes, I was a serial quitter in the past and then I became a serial nicotine patch user. I am not making any grandiose statements about where I am going but I want this to be my forever quit - nicotine free. And I I will do this one day at a time. Awesome post. Thank you. Gene

Gday Great to hear youve got your health back. Funny how smoking can mask our real health. A well deserved 11years

Truly an inspiration to those of us following in your footsteps! And wise words about translating what we learn about addiction to other facets of our lives. Thanks and happy anniversary!

Nice to see you check in and congratulations on 11 years smoke free @Sazerac You have inspired many.

Happy anniversary @Sazerac, its good to see you Thank you for the update and your words of wisdom and support. It really sounds like you're living your best life

Sazerac has given a lot of wise words to this forum and to a new quitter it is worthwhile to find some of them. Before she had even one year quit (let alone ELEVEN!) she wrote this: Smoking and nicotine had become such a dominating force in our lives that we have all had to find new ways of operating. I myself had developed routines that made “breaks” to smoke. These are gone now and if I need a break, I just take one without smoking. Easy. I'm pretty sure I've recycled this post.

Gene, People say, 'you know it is all worth it if I help only One person' and I was greedy about this, I wanted to help zillions. Even if I didn't know. But, your words...touched me. Realizing that I made a difference in your decision in returning to QTrain and making a commitment to yourself. It is magnificent to help One person, to hear their words. Thank you so much, what a great anniversary present, there could be none better.

This is probably the best relapse post I've ever read...but it sums it up perfectly... From our member ImaDoingit.... Member Members 346 139 posts Location: Southwest Iowa Report post (IP: 69.66.53.80) Posted July 16, 2014 I do not care who you are! You do not just 'Get off the Quit Train....' You throw yourself head-first off a speeding train to land in the track bed below the train. You bounce down the railroad ties, bumping, flipping, twirling after the train. A few of the train's car wheels run you over and you may stick to the steel wheel....spinning 'round and 'round as other riders in the car sit comfortably in their quit. Soon, you are flipped off the wheel. Whew, thank God you didn't die! Well, since you're off the train, may as well have a smoke to get over that horrifying ordeal of hurtling yourself off the quit train. But wait!!!!! The quit train is continuing on without you! WAIT QUIT TRAIN, W A I T ! ! ! ! "I'm back here," you scream at the top of your lungs. Hmm....may as well light up again. This is getting out of hand! You keep taking puffs of cigarettes as you desperately chase after the train. With each puff, you see that train that you were once comfortably setting on, pull a little further away from you. You trip on a rail spike and split your chin on the rail. You dust yourself off and start chasing that train once again. The train is further down the tracks, almost out of sight. You struggle so hard to catch that train but each time you stop to light that cigarette, the train just keeps getting further away from you. Soon, the train is out of sight. You get tired of chasing after the train, so you decide to go back to the depot and wait for the train to pass on the next round. While waiting for the train (what's wrong? It should be here any minute), you buy another pack of smokes. You soon hear the train approach. You hear the whistle in the near distance. You are so excited!!!! To celebrate the arrival of the train, you pull out what you say will be your last cigarette and just as you inhale the first puff, the train amazingly flashes right by the depot without stopping to pick you up!!!! Why?!?!?! Why didn't the train stop for me this time? You ask yourself. Feeling defeated, you go home. On the way home you stop to pick up a carton of cigarettes. If the train will not stop for me, I sure as heck am not going to run out of smokes! You think to yourself. Every once in awhile, you will hear the Quit Train's whistle off in the distance. You remember how nice it was to be on the train. You wish you were still setting with your quit friends talking about every subject under the sun with them. You are envious of the people still on the train. Sometimes, you walk down by the tracks. When the train whizzes by, you get glances of the people inside. Look! There's MarylandQuitter, the Sarge, and Nancy. El Bandito, Beacon, Bakon, PetraD, ChristaC! So many faces you see, you cannot name them all. All the friendly faces who cared about you. You see each and every one of them. They flash by looking so comfortable. You don't see a few faces you expect to see. You wonder where they are. You suspect they did the exact same thing as you. You feel sad for them, but you feel sadder for yourself. A few of those riders (Marti, Ava, and MarylandQuitter) actually reach a hand out to you. As you reach your own hand back out to grab hold, you realize you can't grab hold because that would mean dropping the cigarette you are holding. You drop your head and turn around to go back home, wishing desperately you were on that train with them. You feel so bad you light another cigarette. Perhaps tomorrow, you'll grab hold. The next time you hear the train whistle, you are on the way to the convenience store to get another pack of cigarettes. You listen for a second and continue to the store as the Quit Train whistle dies off in the distance. When you are in your favorite smoking space, you often think of the Quit Train as you take a puff on one of the many smokes of the day. You remember what it was like on the train. You remember the freedom from nicotine you had. Oh, why, OH, WHY did you through yourself off? You ask yourself. Everything starts repeating, over and over....going to the station, watching the train pass, seeing the riders, all while holding a cigarette. Then one day, in whatever manner that happened to work....the stars aligned, the magic spell was cast, the dice were tossed, 7's came up, the moon was full....no matter the reason, things worked to go to the station without cigarettes. You once again make the trek to the station. You anxiously sit in the depot, perhaps even with the lingering smell of smoke on your body. Then you hear the whistle.... It came up very quick. Much quicker than when you were just dreaming and wishing to get on board. The train engine whizzes by the depot. Oh, no! The Quit Train is not going to stop for me again, you think to yourself. Then, as soon as the thought enters your mind, the train slams on the brakes and comes to a screeching halt with the door right in front of you. As soon as you put your foot on the step to enter, the train takes off again. You are back on the Quit Train. Finally!!!!!! You tentatively step through the doorway. Inside you see many faces you know, a few new ones and a few you expected are not there. The emotions on the passengers faces, as they look at you, range from sheer elation to see you, to frowns, and questioning. With a few pats on the back, a few hand shakes, and a few swift kicks in the ass, everyone welcomes you as you set down in a seat. Yes, folks, that is pretty much the journey I took in these last few months, but I am back. I did not get off the Quit Train, I hurled myself off by taking a puff. IamDoingIt is back.

This is an awesome post, Jillar. Thank you so much. Quitting smoking is THE time to be completely honest with yourself and hence others. It's balls to the wall Truth Time. No longer can you believe the lies of addiction, your own lies. The old house of cards must come down giving you the opportunity to re-create yourself into a strong and truthful person. This truth, this honesty you start with yourself is a great gift that will serve you throughout your life.

@jillar excellent post. I am still here and still quit free. This right here is true it has happened to me a many quits, and I did find out why those quits weren't successful. I believe that support is an amazing thing to have when you are trying to accomplish any goal, but to become a non-smoker you really do need the extra support that these boards do give. If I was honest over the last couple of years I have tried to quit and I have used message boards. One thing I noticed is that like Jillar said that they come here so gung-ho on quitting and then they just fizzle out in front of you. I think it has more to do with over-confidence and I don't think that they realize just how much support that they are getting and that probably if they look back they can see where there online support has saved their quit many times and then all of a sudden they are gone. to confident. I know I was one of them(previous quit). The reasons why I left. 1) I got to cocky and over-confident.2) My husband started to get upset at how much time I was on the board. So I just got tired of it and I got over-confident and said you know what I got this and I am tired of listening to my DH complaining about me always being on the board and so I just stopped. I am not saying that is what caused my relapse, but I will say this. If I hadn't been so confident. I would be still smoke free to this day. As I have been trying to get back to this point of quit since 2015. You see if I would have continued to lean on my online friends for support, I would of been called out on my junkie thinking that caused me to make the decision to smoke. @Mona I can happily report that I am still here, and still kicking. Hitting the 2 week mark yesterday, but I do have a few that I suspect as well. I don't post everyday, just simply because I just don't have anything that will offer any insight or help to anyone. You see I learned a long time ago that words have power and its up to us on how we use them. Also I learned moderation. I had to compromise with my husband that I wouldn't let the message board take over my life, but I would go and use it for as often as I need/want. We are both in agreement that I need to quit(even though I surprised him with this one) and that I need to use whatever means necessary. I think that for whatever your reason for coming here is, Whether your just finding this tool (a online support group) or it is a tool you have used many times. You coming and joining us you are silently not only making a promise to yourself, but you are also making a promise to us.(fellow members). Whether you are using this tool to help yourself have more accountability. You see the reason why doesn't matter. You are here because you either need/want this to work, or you know the benefits of an online support group. so utilize it, and let us help you.

To my understanding, very few make it in their 1st attempt. The road to success lies through a few relapses so please accept it as a mile-marker to success, own the relapse and accept the encouragement and support to quit again. There will come a moment when the switch goes on and you're able to beat the addiction.

Good to see you quitting again Irene! Take the hands of so many here ready to help you.

And it's a great decision Irene! Stay here to march with me and all the June quitters to our new freedom

Glad to see you back @Irene, stay close this time and let's get your sticky quit! Hopefully others will follow your lead

Guilty as charged! Apologies for disappearing without saying a word...yes, I relapsed, but I have gotten up, dusted myself off, and ready for the journey. Thanks for the post and comments...

I have seen countless of Quits saved in posting a SOS..... We carnt help you unless you give us a chance ....it's there for a reason .... It is a POWERFUL tool.....

Brilliant post Jill, If we have any folks out there ,who have been here before ,and are too embarrassed to come back ... Hey !!!!...your life is too important ... Better to feel a little embarrassment.....than to develope a crippling smoking illness or worse !!!! The Train is at your Station .....jump on ....

Not only is it here John but it works if you really want to save your quit! I know because it worked several times for me

Very well said Jill. There are a couple of recent quitters that I suspect have relapsed. I hope they will not give up on quitting and will come back with a new quit. As for myself, I was quit for over two years and then relapsed while hanging out with the only smoker in my circle of family and friends. It wasn't the first time that I hung out with her as a non-smoker but on that particular day, I made a very bad decision. It took me 1 year, 7 months, and 22 days to successfully quit again. Even though I kept trying, I just couldn't seem to get a cold turkey quit going. I thought that I should be able to because I had originally quit cold turkey. I think the memory of it was freaking me out every time I got to day 3. It was time to try a different method. So, I decided to try the patch and that ended up working quite well for me. The point that I'm trying to make is do not give up on quitting! If one method doesn't work, try something else. Also, educate yourself on addiction. See it for what it is, not something that is a crutch, a friend, something that relaxes you, something to keep you occupied... It will kill you!!!