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Good morning, I feel like I am returning to my normal state feeling like a non smoker again. Hubby has been working out of town for the past week and is coming home on Sunday. I had been a nonsmoker for a long time before we started dating. Met him in the midst of grieving my former spouse. He became the new love of my life in the midst of grief. This felt bittersweet. Funny how life works that way sometimes. But the new love of my life was a smoker. I knew that was the one thing I did not like about him but I made a conscious decision to accept him into my life anyways. Unfortunately, what awakened in me was the old triggers of associating smoking with pleasure. I observed him having fun and smoking. Taking breaks and smoking. Dealing with his stressors and smoking. For every event in life, smoking. Smoking for him was a life exclamation point event. And that became a pathway for me to relapse. Yes, those old triggers to want to smoke returned in me. And suddenly, all the stinking thinking about believing that smoking could enhance pleasure, help with stress and help me relax, all returned. The stinking thinking belief that I had to resist the urge to smoke. On reflection, I realize that I was on the road to relapse long before I had that first cigarette with him. And once again, I was in fight or flight mode and thinking that I had to FIGHT the urge to smoke. All the psychological triggers to want to smoke had returned. I am almost three weeks into this quit and I am returning to a state of equilibrium. And I am finding that balance again because I am not smoking. When hubby comes home on Sunday, I will observe him on that smoking treadmill, thinking that he needs to smoke to cope with life events. I can walk with him in life, but I choose not to smoke with him. He may never quit smoking, but that is not about me. Those old psychological triggers to want to smoke when he is around will go away as long as I don't smoke again. I'm keeping the quit.

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Roger that! You’re finding your very own freedom - a beautiful thing. KTQ

You are doing really great Gene!!

**********Leaving the City of Regret -repost********** Good morning, I found inspiriation in this post years ago when I had slipped. I won't go down this road again. Not one puff ever! *******From AngelLady on 2/10/2001 4:52:20 PM****** I had not really planned on taking a trip this time of year, and yet I found myself packing rather hurriedly. This trip was going to be unpleasant and I knew in advance that no real good would come of it. I'm talking about my annual "Guilt Trip." I got tickets to fly there on Wish I Had airlines. It was an extremely short flight. I got my baggage, which I could not check. I chose to carry it myself all the way. It was weighted down with a thousand memories of what might have been. No one greeted me as I entered the terminal to the Regret City International Airport. I say international because people from all over the world come to this dismal town. As I checked into the Last Resort Hotel, I noticed that they would be hosting the year's most important event, the Annual Pity Party. I wasn't going to miss that great social occasion. Many of the towns leading citizens would be there. First, there would be the Done family, you know, Should Have, Would Have and Could Have. Then came the I Had family. You probably know ol' Wish and his clan. Of course, the Opportunities would be present, Missed and Lost. The biggest family would be the Yesterday's. There are far too many of them to count, but each one would have a very sad story to share. Then Shattered Dreams would surely make an appearance. And It's Their Fault would regale us with stories (excuses) about how things had failed in his life, and each story would be loudly applauded by Don't Blame Me and I Couldn't Help It. Well, to make a long story short, I went to this depressing party knowing that there would be no real benefit in doing so. And, as usual, I became very depressed. But as I thought about all of the stories of failures brought back from the past, it occurred to me that all of this trip and subsequent "pity party" could be canceled by ME! I started to truly realize that I did not have to be there. I didn't have to be depressed. One thing kept going through my mind, I CAN'T CHANGE YESTERDAY, BUT I DO HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE TODAY A WONDERFUL DAY. I can be happy, joyous, fulfilled, encouraged, as well as encouraging. Knowing this, I left the City of Regret immediately and left no forwarding address. Am I sorry for mistakes I've made in the past? YES! But there is no physical way to undo them. So, if you're planning a trip back to the City of Regret, please cancel all your reservations now. Instead, take a trip to a place called, Starting Again. I liked it so much that I have now taken up permanent residence there. My neighbors, the I Forgive Myself and the New Starts are so very helpful. By the way, you don't have to carry around heavy baggage, because the load is lifted from your shoulders upon arrival. GOD BLESS you in finding this great place. If you can find it -- it's in your own heart -- please look me up. I live on I Can Do It Street.

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Good morning, I think this quitnet gem reminds us that we have to change the way we think about our quits. This is an important part of recovering form nicotine addiction. Smoking cigarettes never had anything to do with helping us overcome any anger, depression, anxiety or stress in our lives. So, lets stop giving it that power and change the way we think about living a smoke free life. Keep the quit. Adopt ~ Adapt ~ Improve: Repost From Hart1800 on 11/17/2005 9:02:20 AM As quitters, we are going to experience all kinds of unpleasant symptoms. But like a virus, there is nothing that will take them away; they need to run their course. Therefore, we need to develop ways to handle them. I keep reading posts along the lines of, "I'm not going to smoke, but I really want or need a cigarette right now." This is treading on dangerous ground. By saying this, we're giving cigarettes more power. The reason we want this cigarette is because we still believe that smoking is the cure for what ails us - stress, anger, and depression. We need to change this way of thinking: Adopt Adapt and Improve. ADOPT: “to Accept or Embrace” Adopt a new way of thinking. Smoking is not an option. When we’re feeling anxious, tense and/or depressed, we need to quit thinking it’s our bodies telling us it wants a cigarette. We need to recognize what it really is: Our bodies telling us its anxious, tense and/or depressed. Our bodies do not need a cigarette, nor have they ever "needed" a cigarette. ADAPT: “To change or Familiarize” Now that we recognize what’s really going on with our bodies, we need to adapt new, healthy ways of dealing with how we feel. Change our routines, change our attitude, and familiarize us with the symptoms of quitting. Read, read, and read. Post, post, post. Be prepared. And of course, take a few deep breaths, drink lots of water, and visit our friends at the Q. IMPROVE: “To Get Better” I think this speaks for itself. Every day we don't smoke, we are improving our lives. KTQ ~ Sue