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I am a nope but I must say @notsmokinjo I wondered about Happy Gravy Day. You know the drill, went to the google. I did not listen to the song but I have always (almost) known the importance of gravy. I was married at 20, that first week I cooked a dinner that included mashed potatoes. I worked hard to make that dinner. I made a plate for my new husband and placed it on the table. " This looks great, Honey" where is the gravy? Apparently, mashed potatoes were never served without gravy in his mother's house. It never happened again. My husband's whole family was obessed with gravy. At every holiday meal, the boys were in the kitchen like little chicks. Mom are you sure you made enough? That does not look like enough. When dinner was served they were like wild animals fighting over the gravy bowl. All of them, you took to much, give me the bowl, it is my turn, pass it this way. Well, I have always known how to make gravy, if you are a girl in the south, you knew how to make gravy. Sausage gravy over biscuits, brown gravy over roast beef, cream gravy for fried chicken and chicken fried steak. I just did not realize how important gravy was. After I demonstrated this skill, I knew I would never have marital problems. You can solve every problem with a good bowl of gravy and something else..... K

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Great job Kenzie. The weight gain comes and goes, but the freedom from cigarettes lasts forever.

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G’day NOPE .....Not One Puff Ever.... (replace Ever with Min,Hour, Day as required) Mango….. not ripe yet

Christmas shout out to the guys I work with. Our company takes part in the Toys for Tots program every December. We had a record haul this year, filled up an entire box truck. All donations were greatly appreciated. Bear, one of our fabricators, reworked four old bicycles. Did some welding on a couple. Primed, sanded, and painted them. Chromed them out. Put new wheels and seats on them...four lucky kids in the Chattanooga area are getting a sweet bike for Christmas this year. The true spirit of Christmas isn't always found where you thought it would be.

This is the hardest part. You are doing it!

G’day NOPE .....Not One Puff Ever.... (replace Ever with Min,Hour, Day as required)

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So I am going to jump here and share some suggestions, things that work for me. I am fortunate enough to be able to go to in-person AA meetings. However, the meeting is on Zoom as well and we have had ladies (it is a closed meeting for women) from across the country. Just a thought to connect with others who are struggling with life stuff. I don't make any distinction what the substance is-we are all addicts. If anyone here is interested in connecting more deeply, I will get the particulars tonight when I see the ladies. Keep strong QTrainers. Oh and I also see Nicotine Anonymous has on-line meetings. I am going to jump in later this week but I am mentioning it because I think it makes a difference to participate other than just writing. And NUMBER ONE-exercise. Get some good music going and dance/go to the gym/get out for a walk. These are things I have been doing over the pandemic and grooving instantly changes the mood. Sending love and blessings to you all.....

Hi @TONY Welcome, glad you found the site and you will glad you have. I found it about a week in to my quit. I am now six months in and could have not done it without the people on this site. They have been supportive, encouraging, helpful and constant. I can come here day or night and find someone here to help. They (I) only want the best for you. You are doing great but you must be prepared for what may sneak up on you. Please go through old threads that will give you strenth and inspiration to keep going! Talk with you soon. K

Merry Christmas to everyone riding this train.

Several men are in the locker room of a golf club. A cellular phone on a bench rings and a man engages the hands-free speaker function and begins to talk. Everyone else in the room stops to listen.... MAN: Hello WOMAN: Hi Honey, it's me. Are you at the club? MAN: Yes. WOMAN: Im at the shops now and found this beautiful leather coat. Its only $2,000; is it OK if I buy it? MAN: Sure, go ahead if you like it that much. WOMAN: I also stopped by the Lexus dealership and saw the new models. I saw one I really liked. MAN: How much? WOMAN: $90,000. ; MAN: OK, but for that price I want it with all the options. WOMAN: Great! Oh, and one more thing I was just talking to Janie and found out that the house I wanted last year is back on the market. They're asking $980,000 for it. MAN: Well, then go ahead and make an offer of $900,000. They'll probably take it. If not, we can go the extra eighty-thousand if its what you really want. WOMAN: OK. Ill see you later! I love you so much! MAN: Bye! I love you, too. The man hangs up. The other men in the locker room are staring at him in astonishment, mouths wide open. He turns and asks, Anyone know who's phone this is." ?

That's awesome, Kenzie! Congratulations!

Congratulations Kenzie! 🤗

Congratulations @kenzie_peyton Stay strong and stay close to the train!!!

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Congratulations Kenzie on keeping the quit. I wouldn`t worry too much about putting on some weight in the early stages of quitting unless it is a major health concern. You can keep healthier crave snacks around for the craves and perhaps you are doing this already. keep the quit as main priority as you are doing. Best wishes and stay strong.

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Yeah nah it's a NOPE from me.... I mean who'd reckon a perfectly good GRAVY DAY with some foul chemicals and smoke. Happy Gravy Day you mob.

and probably about 10 pounds heavier. 😂

Hello @TONY! This Christmas will be my 13th without my husband. Does it get easier? Yes. But a bittersweet memory can take your breath away in a flash, but mercifully is only fleeting. I suggest you start a tradition by doing something meaningful to honor the way she loved you because the way she made you feel about her, yourself, and the way you saw yourselves as a couple will be one of the most endearing and lasting memories you retain. I do hope that you can find some peace and comfort this holiday.

I was sick before I quit and lost about 30 pounds, I am more than happy to say I have gained it all back. Funny how carrying around forty years of smoke weighs so much more than 30 pounds. I feel physically better now than I have in along time. K

Well done ...don't worry about the pounds ...just quitting for now ...keep going !!!

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Thank you @Cbdave Chris for starting our day with the most important NOPE thread!😊

Congratulations @Kris I'm so happy for you to have reached that milestone.

@KrisI don't believe we ever "lose" any one we have ever loved. I think its just a big circle. At least that is what makes me feel better when I am missing people.....And I love when they come to me in my dreams, especially those who left a long time ago. Its sweet. And yes, I do think they "show up" to let us know we are doing just fine.

Tony, I feel your pain! I am facing my 11th Christmas with out my husband. I lost him after a five year fight with cancer. The sad truth is that some people think we should be over it after a year. That is not the case, you need to greive as long as you need. There is nothing wrong in the fact you still miss her. There is nothing wrong with the fact you struggle still. Most of all your should all your fellow widowers and widows get it. It is always harder at holiday time, she would not want you to be so unhappy but we know we can't change how we feel. I wish I could say something that would make you feel better but I can't, we just have to take it a day at a time. Talk to your family and friends and let them know you need some extra support now.

@TONY No bucket list here, but I can relate to not looking forward to the holidays. I lost my husband several years ago. Sorry for your loss! I can't say it does get easier but for me it helps to focus on the good memories we shared. The not smoking is the best gift you can give yourself!

Tuesday morning, day 30. All is well. Coffee, still very dark outside, quietness. Best time of the day. Only three more work days and then it’s done for 2021. A crazy year to look back on. So much has happened and yet I feel like this 2021 rollercoaster is finally coming to a good and meaningful end now. Only a few months into 2021, after a a week off, boom, burnout. Just like that. Completely different from depression or anxiety that I know all too well. I thought I’d be done with it in a few week, haha! Was I wrong.. It had me re-evaluate some core beliefs about myself in relation to work. I’m so, so grateful for the lessons learned and how this helped me in actually creating perspective for 2022. I am privileged to live in a country where there’s solid social security. Quitting my relationship of five+ years meant ownership. It took me about ten-ish months, but I’m getting there. And I’m grateful for the few people who wouldn’t stop listening to me, self-absorbed as I was. Ouch. 😳 I forgot that I’m someone who can be perfectly happy on her own. What a cool and peaceful discovery! Then there was a horrible incident of violence at my work and we lost a coworker because of it. Its still an ongoing proces of making sense and giving meaning. It taught me about the different and diverse ways people deal with trauma. And how really none of that is ‘wrong’. Loosing my precious 2+years quit made me realize me two things: complacency kills and it’s always a good time to get back on your feet and act accordingly. Nothing more to it. Accept the bad moments, because that’s all they are. Just moments. And last but not least: the corona blues made me see how I need people and connection and that I’m definitely not unique in that. Making efforts together with family and friends to stay in in touch, even though it sometimes seemed we come from different planets. The polarization struggle is real… oh man. But I believe we are resilient creatures. And so is our ability to restore relationships, bonds. There’s one thing about 2021 that I’m absolutely happy about: my decision to stop drinking. 28th of december it will be six months! I think it was the nr. 1 best thing to do for myself, in these circumstances. Thinking of New Years resolutions, my instinct is to sum up things that need improvement, elimination, mastery even and “how this next year will be the year that I finally learned how to tackle….blah… blah….”. But I think I’m ready to let go of the old. I want to start adding again! Education, friendships, some lightheartedness. I want to wonder and wander again. Have the ‘de slappe lach’, as we call the giggles. Doing whatever it is that I’m good at and gently but unapologetically moving my focus towards life.

To All You Wonderful Quitters Riding The Train ...🐸

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Now seems to be a good time... To show our appreciation to Dave for starting the daily Nope Every day .... Also Jillar .....She makes sure Members get to Celebrate thier Milestone Dates. These are two important posts that keep the Train Moving ... I Salute you 🐸

I've come around on this song. In my younger days I vowed I would never listen to it again. It was part of a Christmas program at school that I didn't even volunteer for, I was drafted. The music teacher was wound tight and fond of the saying: "NO! We'll take it from the top!" In hindsight, that lady was in charge of the Christmas show and managing to get about fifty middle school kids on the same page...she had a lot on her. Anyways...back to the music.

@Mac#23 Merry Christmas to you and everyone you love!

Congratulations on 6 months @Kris! A whole half of a year! I remember worrying that you wouldn’t make it through the initial stage of your quit. But you did! And look at you now! Reaching out to others when you might just want someone to talk to or ham it up with. Being so open with your quit story. Helping others just by speaking up and speaking out! You are awesome and I look forward to reading your posts! I’m only 3 months ahead of you. I’m glad that we are taking this journey together. Again, CONGRATULATIONS!!! 🤗

Congratulations on 6 months smoke free!! You have worked hard to get there and you have kicked the nicotine monster to the curb!! Proud of you my friend!!! Thank you for all you bring to your fellow train passengers!!

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