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Eight months done and dusted. Its been 25°C for some days now, probably too hot for this time of the year. I am so happy that it doesnt affect me at all: it means I did a good job dealing with these craves last summer, when I quit. In terms of seasonal triggers, I think I am safe to say Ive had the worst. Pretty uplifting idea! Time is starting to speed up. I dont know how to describe it, but thoughts of smoking are turning into soft whispers in the background and the days that I hardly think about it are adding up. Its facinating, because I know Ive been working towards this and yet it strikes me as, well, relief? That it really was true, what everyone here said? And that it also works for me..? Working on it, fighting for it, studying on it, all that hard work is starting to really, really pay off now. More and more I am able to let go of holding on to quitting, if that makes sense. Ofcourse I could make a giant list of pro's, but right now these are the most important: * I saved money for more than half a piano (hence the picture). * I save and still have extra money to spend in daily life, which makes me feel more independant. * I feel so much better physicaly, its shocking. * I take care of myself way better. What started as time biding and routine changing, became daily rituals: making ginger tea instead of coffee in the morning, tooth picking/brushing 3 times a day and discovering all sorts of new toothpaste, deep breathing (only managed to do that since i was at 6+ months. So glad I kept trying, its brilliant) and last but not least: slowing down when I am tired, mourning when I experience loss and need to proces and cheering myself up when I know thats what I gotta do (I used to be the person to sít in my sadness, put on Nick Drake and drown myself in it). I really hope this helps you, if youre struggeling at the moment. Things will be better. Every day, even every minute is part of the bigger story. You WILL feel good again, you WILL feel proud eventually and you are doing this for a reason. Cling to it, write it down. Do what you need to, when you need to do it and know that there is never ever a genuine reason why you could not become a nonsmoker.

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It sounds like the only uncertainty that you have is giving in after some wine. Don't drink the wine. Perhaps tonight the wine can wait because remaining a non-smoker is far more important. No comparison, actually. I hope you went to sleep and will wake up still smoke-free.

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Mornin fellow NOPErs... Today is ANZAC Day, and as I stand at the local cenetaph with 3-4000 locals from ancient to new born waiting for dawn and the service for those who have fallen, those who served I off up my thanks. Lest We Forget. NOPE.

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Hi D !!!.... I can only mirror what's been said ....you are only responsible for your own quit .... You must protect your precious quit ,its your life... If you think alcohol will make you weaker ,then yes stay clear ... How awful you will feel if you find yourself back to square one ... Remember all the reasons ,you wanted to quit in the first place ....yoiu can do it. !!!

Hi dizzyD, great job protecting your quit and going to bed. There were many nights I did the same and in the morning was so glad my quit was intact. Please check in and let us know how you are...xoxo

Dizzy I'm sorry to see you're struggling. You need to do what you are doing and protect your own quit. It does sound a little like you are trying to pin the blame for any failures on hubby. If he buys cigarettes that's his choice but it doesn't have to be yours. Being on holiday is bound to be a trigger but if you can get through without smoking you will have beaten the trigger. Stop looking for excuses to smoke and look for reasons to stay quit.

I agree with both despair not and MQ. This is YOUR quit dizzy. You can't be responsible for hubby's quit too. Stay away from the wine for sure if that's going to be a trigger because your judgement will also likely not be at it's best after a couple of drinks. I'm glad you decided to take charge of the situation and protect your quit. You've worked to hard to let it go over a couple of drinks. Stay strong and let us know how you're doing later on please.

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Hi Dizzy You cant make your husband do anything it cant be your responsibility to keep his quit for him. It is your responsibility to keep your quit so stay strong. If your vulnerable when drinking do as I did and quit for a while till your quit gets stronger. Hi Just seen your update good move stay strong and show him some tuff love.

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Hey Dizzy, glad you posted. As others have said this is your quit, yes it can add to the struggle if your significant other will revert to having a smoke but you can remain strong and keep your quit and maybe be a beacon to your husband. You can do this and hopefully a night of sleep will help -- Keep Strong!!!

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Ok so have pulled my big girlie panties up and am going to bed. Sorry to bug you all but am determined to protect this quit. Night !!

Love this post @MLMR...... Don't look now !!!!!.....The magic is happening ....It was lovely to read ....x

Morning, so didn’t wait for him to get back and went to sleep. So the funny story is it took him ages to find somewhere that sold cigs and then they didn’t sell a lighter so he couldn’t have one anyway!!! Thanks for all the advice. Nope!

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G’day The ode They will not grow old As we that are left grow old Age will not weary them Nor the years condemn At the going down of the sun And in the morning We will remember them Least we forget

My name is Jeff and I have been a smoker for over 40 years. My quit date was 12-30-18. I have been a lurker here for a few weeks now, but have decided it's time sign up because i know I'm just one smoke away from the addiction again. I don't get any support from anyone except for 1 person and all the triggers are still there, so here I am...barely hanging on to this quit.

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This post just makes my day. I really hope you copy it into your other post so that people following your journey see the end result.

Thanks for your service Cbdave. For my mob who never left Turkey's shores, of Europe. For my mob who came back, for my Grandad and Great grandad...uncles and cousins. And for my mates. Lest We Forget.

All I can say is good for you, sticking to it and reaping the benefits. You put into words what I felt last fall as I had completed my 8th month. It sneaks up on you but then it hits you hard that this is doable. Job well done and thanks for the post - it really shows that not only can it be done but it is so well worth it!!!!!!

Congratulations @Gigi74 for being Smoke Free for 2 Years. Well done GiGi. Hope is all well in your corner of the world. Would love to hear how you celebrated your second year of freedom.

Jeff don't sell yourself short. You've gone nearly four months without smoking and that's something to be proud of. My advice would be that we are never hanging by a thread. We can talk ourselves into smoking very easily. I used to have a bit of an epic crave and then I'd start telling myself over and over again "I can't do this" and eventually give in. Once I'd lit that cigarette and started smoking it I realised I was never really close to smoking at all, I just let myself believe I was. The only one who can smoke is you so that means you make that choice - you hold all the cards. You got this. Welcome to the forum too.

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Love this post MLMR, so glad you're doing so well now. I have no doubt that this post will help many people know that they too can be successful

Welcome to QuitTrain, Jeff. Congratulations on almost 4 months smoke free. You are right about being one smoke away from the addiction again so you need to protect your quit at all costs. Reaching out for support is a great way to keep your quit and there is a lot of support here. It is great to have you here.

Welcome aboard Jeff and congratulations on that great quit you have going. I smoked for 35 years and can totally relate to where you are in your quit. You'll have as much support as you need or want here. You're surrounded by people who know what you're going through and are happy to lend an ear or offer advice to help you past a particularly hard day

That was one of my first and most welcomed benefits of quitting: my eyes cleared up. For years I blamed allergies, contact lenses, and lack of sleep for my dry bloodshot eyes. I quit smoking and the issues with my eyes cleared up. In fact, I quit in early March right before the start of the allergy season here in a region that has been dubbed by some "The Hay Fever Capital of the World" and even during that first Spring and Summer...no problems with my eyes. And the benefits of quitting just kept adding up from there.

My constant coughing stopped after about a week...the terrible phlegm production after two weeks...and the problems with my eyes cleared up almost immediately and they were no longer bloodshot....God, I didn't realize what a mess I was! My messed up arteries took surgery to clear up and I have been dealing with that issue since the day I quit! PS Just had my one year anniversary last week since my CABGx3 surgery...got the thumbs up from cardiologist...echo normal, ekg normal, blood-work normal. What a relief...I can get back to my gardening with no restrictions!