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G'day NOPE starts this day C

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(Posting this for our Sazerac, who is currently traveling and unsure of her internet functionality. This tribute is due to her efforts ) Join us in a celebration of Cristóbal's Six Years of Freedom He has been a seminal influence on many, many quits over the years and his support has held fast and true. Should you ever need a bump of positivity, please stroll through Cristóbal's Content His passion about nicotine addiction is consistently insightful, always truthful. My favorite gems of wisdom from Cristóbal are visable in these threads, Your Quit and Your Life-The Proper Sequence and A Crave Is Never A Command Please, have a riotous celebration, Cristóbal ! Thank you so much for your energy and dedication in helping us all remain nicotine free. Thank you for everything you are, everything you do. Gracias por todo lo que eres todo lo que hace. Una pequeña fiesta antes de tu celebración gigante 

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I'm sending you this huge medal....to me your a hero...xx

Linda it is changing...started changing the day you started your quit. So rapped you didn't even have a smoke thought with your mum's tantrum. Lets face it, that's what it was, a tantrum, a moment of look at me, look at me. You can look at her and pander to her but as you said its never going to make her love you or show you the respect you deserve. You do deserve their respect and their love. It is not your fault that they don't have the ability or skills to give that. It isn't because you are not good enough or flawed in any way.... its because they are... and despite that, despite the lack of love and care and respect you grew up with look how you turned out??? Despite the hurt it causes you respect your parents enough to help them live at home as they wish.... your brothers don't bother to.... despite the lack of example you were shown as a kid you give your time and care to your elderly friend so she can stay at home and have human companionship because you care.... there is a poem that says children are what they live so if they grow up without criticism they learn to condemn but you are proof that it isn't true of everyone.... despite all the things you grew up without you give love, support, respect, acceptance. I respect you so much for everything you do for others but also despite all the external pressures you have you are doing something wonderful for yourself and keeping your quit.

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Just a note to all the newbies and lurkers reading here.. Please don't be taken aback by reading about the intensity of cravings further along the line. Know that I am so happy to be where I am now: continuously learning how to do this. Not one single hair on my head whishes to be smoking again and I do believe yesterdays wave had nothing to do with real desire or wanting. It was more of an ugly firework of the brain, crying receptors as Jane explained so acurately and clear. And I couldnt be more happy about passing the fireworks (and not having to deal with the mental mess following lighting up...man, I would have been soo miserable right now). So please, don't hold yourself back in following through. And try to acquire strategies that you can relate to (note: I don't want to be a know-it-all. Still learning and talking to myself as well, obviously! But I think I am slowly getting there!). Now, I am going for a firm walk and afterwards I'll be having the best lemonpie in the world, give some fresh smelling hugs and probably have a laughing fit about this circus called 'quitting'! Bye

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This is a crippling illness.... Slowly getting worse.... My hubby has suffered for years....needs oxygen regularly for 16 hrs a day....

It is a big step for you to say, "I am no longer going to make sure they have entertainment" ! and I know it isn't easy disentangling yourself. Remember your boundaries and that boundaries can change. Just because you used to do something doesn't mean you need to continue. Maybe there are more or different ways to delegate some of the responsibility you have taken on and more ways for you to nurture yourself and warm up your husbands butt, lol. I am so proud of you for quitting smoking, Linda, and the energy you give, to all of us here, is a beautiful gift.

@Sazerac You are such a wise soul. I love how you carefully choose your words to have so much meaning. My parents can't drive because they are old and not in good health. They both have walking issues and ride scooters at the casino. We took them the first time because we worried about their safety and it gave us a break. Now they expect it and do not realize the burden it is. This will be the last time we take them and I definitely will heed the advice. That guilt has always been more about that death bed "I love you" . I do realize I am the better person for filling their pill containers and making sure they get to their dr. appts. but I am no longer going to make sure they have entertainment. I actually do feel stronger every day I stay quit and how could I not be awesome when I have such awesome friends. You are all my heroes!

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Nope!!! Have on a trip...very little cell service for DAYS!

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@c9jane29 no I actually thought I would have to be put in a coma to quit. I can not believe I am at this point. Since I got rid of the folks, my husband and I have enjoyed ourselves more. I am going to reward myself well (spend money) on this trip. I would not be at this point without you all. @Jet Black I wish I could speak up but I was conditioned to not have a voice. They would punish me by making me feel guilty. However, if you all can condition me to quit smoking, I am sure you can help me find my voice. Jet, I am fearful of those kind of craves. I lived the majority of my life with cigs. That is why we are doing this together!

I LOVE IT!! Linda Thomas, tell me in the last...? 10 years think you would say this?? Now that they are safe at the casino; buy a space heater (to heat up your husbands booty) and have some fun! How long has it been since you played strip poker? Nice glass of wine on a chilly RV night? I'm sure husband is ready for a reward too! (I'm only kidding a little) but just make sure to take care of YOU too. I'm glad you're here, too?

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@jillarDon't tempt me to leave them. They are like two spoiled children. I will take the hug. I sure needed it last night. My husband tried but his butt was cold so I made him sleep on the other side of bed?. It is a wee bit cold for camping!

A virtual hug coming your way Linda, I hope you enjoy your week free of them. I guess they are proof that money doesn't buy happiness. FYI, you can always leave them at the casino lol

Aww Linda....I had to take a deep breath reading this.... My frying pan is for those special times... When someone is contemplating putting a cancer stick in their mouth..and losing their fabulous quit... I would rather send you a hug .... I'm sorry you are dealing with a troublesome mum.... But hey !!!!.....you never once felt like smoking...so you my dear have my respect.... Don't let anyone rob you of your quit... Make sure you and your hubby enjoy every moment until next week... I will leave the pan hanging up for now sweetheart....

Congratulations on six years Cristobal, your posts have been so inspirational to so many on both quittrain and qsmb. And being fairly new here it's been my pleasure getting to know you better. I hope you celebrate today and looking forward to attending one of your famous wine parties I keep hearing about

Congrats Cristobal! Did someone say wine party?

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Hello friend, I am glad you are sans parents. Perhaps you can start detaching yourself from them. Let them drive themselves to the casino. Cut back your time spent with them, maybe start with a few less hours, then a few less days. Learn to say NO. Practice saying it, little by little. No, I won't be able to do that. No, I can't do that. No, I won't do that. When they make you feel guilty, sit with your guilt. Assign a chair to be your 'guilty' chair, sit in it and go through all the reasons you feel guilty and how guilt makes you feel. Spend time with your guilt, just your guilt. Examine all the components of guilt, your guilt triggers. I think if you really study your guilt honestly you will see it for this lie that it is and will be able to put it aside as something useless to you, just like you put nicotine addiction down. You are a generous soul, Linda, and will shed the rainments of guilt in your own time. Your power is emerging and it is a beautiful sight to see. Protect yourself, like @Doreensfree said, You Are A Hero to us.

Congratulations @Cristóbal !! and thank you @reciprocity for covering ! and @notsmokinjo for the opportunity to post Cristóbal's Six Years of Freedom. Cristóbal has blazed a clear trail for all of us to follow. here are the links to my favorite posts A Crave Is Never A Command Your Quit & Your Life - The Proper Sequence and all of his posts Cristóbal's Content Have a great celebration, Cristóbal !

It looks like you are coming up on your three month mark. That might be a time you really need to protect that quit. I do not know about most quitters but my ass about fell apart on the three month date. Now about the parents - One expects the little kids to fight but the parents? What the hell were they even fighting about? Next time just yell, "If you two do not settle down, I am going to pull over and beat both your asses!" Or at the very least, chew them out the same way one would if their kids were fighting. My younger step sister and I thought the car was a boxing ring. Either way, you need to start putting your foot either DOWN or perhaps UP a couple peoples' asses. AND - hell of a good job maintaining the quit. Under easy circumstances, anyone can KTQ but in difficult cases (like dealing with pesky parents) when someone does not relapse, THAT shows strength.

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Congratulations on 6 years smoke free, Cristobal. Your posts and advice helped me out a lot in the early weeks and months of my quit and I know they have helped many others as well. Do something big to celebrate today.

@Doreensfree still think I need that wackadoodle. You will just have to come up with a more interesting contraption to use. I will always take a hug though. Mental health is a big part of that quit thing and I need to protect that. I have always put others above myself and that needs to change!!!

P.... Smoking has killed more people than all the wars out together.... Your right to be scared...... I'm glad to hear your taking your life seriously.... I'm guessing your quite young...and you have most of your life ahead of you...

Great hionest post ML.... Sooooo happy you fought for your quit..the battles get easier...until that wonderful day...you reolize your not fighting any more.. I've yet to read a post from someone who who relapsed ,and is delightfully happy....who has some weeks under their belt.... They are back to being where they were ...and wishing they could turn back the clock ,to where they were.... Don't think of one cigarette...this is a addiction....think of all those thousands will follow ....

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Viagra.... Don't think I need to expand on that one...!!! ???

Congratulations Cristobal! 6 years smoke free is fabulous and an inspiration to so many others following in your footsteps. I hope you know the assistance you have provided other quitters over the years! Be sure to celebrate this wonderful achievement

Crying...... I'm cooking down my chillies for hot sauce..

October is a beautiful month to be Nicotine Free

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Gday present! C