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Happy Mondays all! A little story from yesterday, during which I came very close to posting an SOS. Ten days into my quit and everything is going well. If anything, it was going a little too easy; part of me was wanting a crave to hit so I could strengthen my resolve, but no – not until yesterday. I had a meeting with a new business partner. But it was Sunday, it was sunny, so we have that meeting in a pub garden. Once drinks were bought he deposits the contents of his pockets onto the garden table: wallet, keys ... and a packet of cigarettes. I don’t know him too well and didn’t know he smokes. As we spoke, I couldn’t take my eyes of the packet – I couldn't concentrate on what he was saying, could barely even listen. Just staring at the pack. There was a health warning – the one about strokes with a picture of man about my age slumped against a wall – but that didn’t really bother me. I just wanted the contents of that pack. The moment passed. Probably only lasted a minute or two, but seemed a lot longer. Fortunately, part of my brain was also screaming 'POST AN SOS' and that thought alone seemed enough to ride it out. So the first real threat to my quit was defeated and I ended the day very proud of myself. ? Ps: Here’s the weird thing: we were maybe in the pub an hour. The cigs sat on the table the whole time, but he didn’t smoke one. What the heck is that about?9 points
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the perfect quit by jwg1763 » Tue Jun 22, 2010 8:03 pm Welcome come right in ,, how can I help you today? Umm yes I would like to see about buying a quit Well sir you have certainly come into the right store Let me show you some of our newer and maybe are best Ok ,, that would be great,, are they expensive? Lets just look and then we can talk price Umm , umm ok.. Now here this is a wonderful quit, about seven years old fully matured No cravings I can see no real problems for you and this quit I think it could fit you well… but you do have to walk it by 7 am oh and that’s after a good breakfast Umm , I work nights im not up at 7 am Well if you want this quit you will have to get a new job you can only work 9-5 with this quit do you have something else? Why sure we do,, we have the perfect quit right here for you this is the one,, it is only 2 ½ years old but very mature and well behaved However you do have to sit every day and eat two bags of pop corn While you watch the soap operas Ohhmm ,, I don’t like pop corn or soap opera s I think this is a house wife quit . Not for me Well sir quits don’t have a gender there just tailored Oh ,, I see well I need a quit that works nights Likes to sleep in in the morning,, play some video games Doesn’t like pop corn and about two meals a day What do you have like that? Well sir I don’t think you understand you have to Tailor yourself to our quits we don’t tailor them to you.. These quits have taken years to fit there original owners That’s what I want a quit tailored fit to me Where do I get one of those? You can’t buy one of those ,, you just have to stop smoking and Let it grow,, you have to nature it , love it, and respect it If I could just buy a quit like that just for me how much Would it cost? Sir a quit like that is priceless,, you do not have enough money `jwg`7 points
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Well good morning my lovely fellow Nopers... I tried the less is more yesterday (well actually I was in a foul mood and wasn't feeling me nopeness) and didn't like it, the minimalist nope is not for me... so today I have me mojo back and what a great day to have it.... today is Sherlock Holmes Day so I imbraced me inner sherlock and hunted out the fact that it is International biological diversity day where we look at our impact on the diminishing diversity of the biological species on our wonderful earth and try to come up with a workable solution to improve the decline rate... we give Harvey Milk a nod and Buddists all around the world celebrate Vesak, their festival of lights which commemorate's Buddah's birth... oh and the Goth's have their special day too.... what a lot. So is it ok to sit by and do nothing while our biological species deminish... I say NOPE , cos nothing controls my life but me. ^^Oh it looks like today's Nope is sponsored by Medicare... (the Aussies will get it) Topic of the day: The 80's7 points
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I love and read the older posts you guys find and repost. Someday, I will hopefully figure out how to search the forum and find things like you guys do. Some very interesting and helpful advice and good reading. Thank you for your time and effort. I appreciate it and am learning :).7 points
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Wow @Grund these monthly anniversaries are adding up quickly, congratulations on officially being 75% of the way to the Lido Deck. Well done on all the hard work you have put in to reach your ninth month. Make sure you do something to celebrate your achievements.4 points
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It's evening. Quiet. I live alone (my dog died 12 weeks ago). Fighting an urge to just get a pack of cigarettes and relieve the tension I'm feeling. Usually I'd have come home from work and had a smoke right away. Then dinner and smoke. Then take vitamins, supplements, and meds. And then smoke. Watch a tv show on the computer (Amazon Prime) and take a break and smoke a cigarette in the middle. About every half hour. Today was manageable. Work breaks are a trigger. Took one of them away from the smokers by staying indoors. It's lovely outside, though, so on lunch I went outside but stayed away from the smokers. Reading Abraham Twerski's book on Addictive Thinking. Yes, made it through the day by pressing on, not allowing my mind to become open to distraction. Felt the anger and panic feeling that used to drive me straight to the local drug store for my prefered brand of poison. Deep breathing. Thinking of making nachos. Wow, if this gets to be a trend--eating when I want to be smoking---I could be in trouble for weight gain. In the past when I substituted eating for stopping smoking, fear of weight gain sent me speedily back to smoking. Not today. Maybe tomorrow, but not today, not on May 21. I ordered resistance bands on Amazon so that I can work out when I have a craving. They arrive tomorrow afternoon. I'll feel better when they arrive. Feel a crave....immediately pick up a band, put on the dvd, and do a mini workout. Taking this a few minutes at a time, making it up as I go. So scared I'll flip into the old altered state of emotions where I hated that I was stopping smoking and angry that I'd even thought I could do it. Feeling my way carefully, slowly, and by examining my thoughts--are they sane thoughts or utterly illogical--only logical to a nicotine addict. Going to bed soon, by 6:30 pm (Pacific Daylight Time). Otherwise, afraid I'll let the anger and panic override good intentions. I took a sleeping aid and made it impossible to drive to the store now. Can't do that every night, but just for tonight I've made it impossible to go and buy cigarettes. I'll leave tomorrow's problems until tomorrow. I think I just talked myself out of an SOS. I saw Johnny's thread about posting what one would say to oneself in event of an SOS. I am mulling over that one. Great idea, really great. Falling asleep from the prescription med. Making nachos, keeping reading on the forum, then lights out.4 points
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I went to the art museum Saturday. For several hours, I immersed myself in the various types of art on display and let it take me away ? . After I had been there an hour, the thought of going out to have a cigarette interrupted my wonderful experience. And I chuckled to myself…What? Go have a cigarette? I don’t smoke! And poof…the thought disappeared; without a fuss. How powerful it is: I don’t smoke; I don’t want to smoke! It is that simple! Later, I began thinking of all the different museums, in various countries, that I was not able to fully enjoy because all the way through, a part of me was thinking about how I could get out quickly enough to have a cigarette soon. Yet this time, I fully enjoyed the beauty of each piece of art – not just saw it but experienced it, because there was time and nicotine was not controlling me. This is wonderful! I really enjoying this.4 points
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Thank you for the shout out lml and I'm glad they're helping you. They really helped me in my early days too4 points
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lml - reading some of the writings of my fellow quitters is what got me through some terrible days early in my quit. Heck, even after climbing onto Lido, I went back and read the old post about the climb or the rope (?) something like that. Read and post here often. I am confident it will help you as it has helped so many of us!4 points
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I really appreciate all the work you all do in bumping up some greats posts from the past as well. Thanks.4 points
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So, now that I have your attention (maybe); I just wanted to tell you that today I had to mow my lawn now that the snow has stopped and the rains have started. So, what's the big deal? Last year when this happened, I felt really uncomfortable after I had finished this chore. Looking back 2 years, I would have finished mowing then gone into the house to grab a cold one, head out to the back deck and wet my whistle while lighting up a cigarette and admiring the great job I had done. Rewards!! Season has changed and now I'm doing different chores. No one is paying me to do this stuff so what's the reward? Well, it's a cold beer and a cigarette. Or, at least it was 2 years ago and before then too Last year - my first year not smoking; this was a bit uncomfortable. I had my cold beer on the deck but I didn't have my trusty cigarette. I remember I couldn't even sit there on my deck last year. I had to walk around and distract myself in what ever manner I could. It felt pretty unsettling I must admit but I had to make myself get through it. So here's the good news! This year, NO PROBLEM!! Not even a thought about smoking a cigarette after mowing the lawn. So you see, if you just keep true to your self commitment of never taking another puff and get past that full year smoke-free, then you will end up where I am. Comfortable with not smoking with those seasonal changes The rewards are there waiting for you. All you have to do is take smoking off the table and kick it the hell out of you life for good!!4 points
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No time to smoke today..Learning to do pictures again ...NOPE !!!!.....I'm back...( I hope ).....4 points
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Good for you that you were able to deal with one coming out of nowhere like that. Those can be tough because they are unexpected and your guard may be down or it happens at a particularly weak moment. At least your mind didn't totally cave into the urge and was still thinking about the consequences of lighting one up. Perhaps he didn't smoke one himself because often people will get annoyed in a setting like that where they are sitting at the next table and someone lights up a smoke. Part of the new shaming aspect of being "one of those people".3 points
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I just watched a wonderful show about them last night. They are so magical. Thanks to to everyone for the sincere congratulations and good wishes! It was really moving to read what all of you had written. After this incredible year, I feel like I really do know sone of you- you’ve been so supportive of me and I see and am touched by your kindness toward everyone who’s on this train. Today my husband took me to a local nursery to pick out a plant for the meditation garden he put in for me 15 years ago when we met. We got married in that same garden 6 years ago in June 16th. We ended up getting 4 perennials to commemorate this wonderful day. I will see these plants in my garden for years to come (hopefully) and remember this day He’s overjoyed that I quit and I know I’m lucky to have that support. Some people have to do this alone and I’ve had him and all of you the whole time. What a huge difference it’s made! I did know, right at the beginning of this quit, that this time was different from the two previous attempts. I had educated myself the last time (in 2013) but I still had not mastered the mindset part- taking smoking off the table as an option. I did commit to myself on May 20th last year, that no matter what happened I was not going to smoke. It seems a simple thing but this was the difference maker for me. In part quit attempts I always had going back to smoking as an option that was kept in the far reaches of my mind as a fallback in case the going got too tough. I really do think that this is the reason it DIDN’T get TOO tough- my mind was made up that it didn’t matter- no smoking no matter what. There were certainly times over the last year when I had to come on this board and get my head straight. And some of my very conflicted relationships Have become more challenging because I’m no longer “smoking my feelings” but it’s all good and more honest in the long run. Thanks for “listening,” all! You’ve been a joy to ride with this past year. I hope I’ll be able to help others as you’ve helped me. A special shout out to my best buddies Doreen, Reciprocity, Nancy, Boo and BKP and my newest friends Jo, Jillar, Lin and Weegie. Thanks for being here for me and for throwing this great party!3 points
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